Базовый курс ACI 2: Буддийское Прибежище — собрание великих идей из Совершенства мудрости (2019, Мексика), занятие 2

[Speaker 1]
Okay, let's start. Some people fell asleep in the toilet. Probably Chinese jet lag.

If they don't come home tonight, check the toilet, okay? She's like ... okay, let's go.

We have two more jobs tonight. We have half an hour. So, I will split 15 minutes and 15 minutes.

I will do the question and answer in the last 15 minutes, because people rarely sleep through the question and answer. Then every evening, I will cover a little bit about ACI policy for teachers. So, we call the four legs of the table.

To be a successful teacher, you need four legs. If the table only has three legs, it will fall down, and the teacher will fall down if they don't have all four legs. Okay, number one is content.

You should have a good content. Teach something important that will save people's life. The strongest part of ACI is the content.

It comes directly from the ancient books. There is not one sentence in the 36 ACI courses, 20,000 pages, which is by me. It's 100% translation of the ancient books, except for one page, and that's ...

you have to ... when you get there, you will know. Okay, so content, no problem.

Number two, we have to teach you how to teach. We don't want you to be like Geshe Michael at his first teaching. It's the most embarrassing moment in my whole life.

My teacher loved me, he liked my father. Sometimes I even call him my father, and he looked at me with this big love, you know. I think you should sit down.

Okay, so we have to teach you how to teach, right? And some people it's natural, then most of us it's not natural. So, don't be a teacher because you feel shy, or you feel like you cannot stand in front of people.

Anybody can learn to teach, and we won't give up on you. If you do this a hundred times, we won't give up on you. We will teach you how to teach.

Later people will say, please don't teach so long. Okay, so, if you feel nervous about teaching, just remember Senior Ultima Cosa. Now I cannot stop talking, you know.

So, it's just seeds. We'll teach you how to plant those. Many people who didn't think they could teach are now very successful teachers.

So, just forget this excuse. You have to teach. I don't care if you're shy.

You're going to be a great teacher. I think sometimes the shy people are better teachers. They don't have so much pride.

So, if your nature is a little bit quiet, don't worry about it. We have many, many teachers like that. The goal of this program is to teach you to get up and talk.

So, don't worry about it. Second leg of the table, how to teach. Then there are also other kind of people.

There are people who ... I wanted to learn some music from a music teacher recently, and I met an extraordinary jazz player, and Veronica's sister, my partner's sister, she paid for me to take lessons, and after the first class I said forget it, you know. He's a master jazz musician, but he cannot teach anything.

Hopeless, okay. So, content and how to teach. Third leg, professional behavior, okay.

The person acts in a good way, and you know, I can tell you ninety percent of unprofessional behavior is about two things. Sex or money. Okay, that's all the politicians' bad behavior, famous people's bad behavior, my bad behavior, your bad behavior.

Two most dangerous things. Sex and money. So, we have to have a special sex class, and a money class.

I have very bad news for you. You missed the sex class. It was last time in Diamond Mountain, but I'm going to review it tonight, okay?

Then, so that's the ... we want the teacher to be a nice person. We don't want them to hurt people, and these are two ways that you can hurt people.

We want the teachers to be good people. Okay, the fourth leg, some people understand the content. I'll give you a real example.

There's a teacher in Tokyo, ACI teacher in Tokyo. He came to me. Geshe-la, I have trouble with my ACI class.

I said, well, you have content. You have all the readings, you have everything. Geshe-la, it's not a content problem.

I said, but you are very good teacher. You speak very well in front of people. He said, yeah, I can do.

I said, you have high integrity. I never saw you do something bad with other person's wife or money. You are completely honest.

He said, yeah, you're right Geshe-la, I have three legs of the table. What's the fourth leg of the table? You have to know how to organize an event.

He said, nobody came to my class. I said, did you announce your class? Yes.

Then I'm like, show me. I don't believe you. He took me to the 7-eleven near his house.

There's a big bulletin board. There's a small piece of paper. ACI class number one.

I said, how many 7-eleven you put there? Poster. How many 7-eleven you put the poster?

He said, one. I said, did you ever hear about this thing called Facebook? He's like, no.

Like that, he has no idea how to let people know he's having a class. My teacher had a very clear policy. We are not allowed to bother other people.

You cannot knock on the people's door. Go inside.

[Speaker 2]
Did you hear about the pen?

[Speaker 1]
In this system, we're not allowed to push people. Not allowed. In fact, technically I cannot teach you if you don't ask.

This means please teach me. So, technically I cannot teach you if you don't ask. If you know the person is already interested, you can teach without asking, okay?

But what my teacher said, it's a tragedy if you are teaching DCI, sorry ACI, and someone wants to come but they didn't hear about it. Then you fail as a teacher, okay? So, you have to have the fourth leg also.

How to announce the event, how to pay for it, okay? And we're going to talk about that. Tonight, I just want to do a small review of good sexual behavior, and we saw many organizations destroyed by bad sexual behavior.

Catholic Church, okay, in America. I come from Phoenix. Tucson Diocese, the diocese means church, is bankrupt.

They go to court, they file bankrupt, because there was a lawsuit that a priest bothered some child or something, okay? So, it's very important in ACI that we don't have this problem, okay? So, that's why I have to talk about it.

And I feel shy and you feel shy, but let's talk about it, okay? I call it birds and bees. So, this is called the ACI birds and bees policy.

Yeah, listen, okay? So, my partner is a gardener. She loves gardening.

And we like to sit on the porch, in the sunset. We have hundreds of flowers, and we just enjoy the flowers, you know? And she'd look at me, she'd say, you know they're all having sex right now?

I'm like, what? She said, the boy flower and the female flower, they're having sex all day. Then I'm like, no, no.

She said, why do you think they have these cool colors? Red color, yellow color, orange color. Why do flowers have such beautiful colors?

It's all sex, okay? They are trying to attract the bees and the birds. Bees and the birds.

Birds and the bees. And they give off, what do you think is the smell of the flower? This is like, what's that famous number five?

Chanel number five. They are trying to attract bees and birds. Why they have honey nectar in the bottom of the flower?

Okay, every flower, most flowers make semen, okay? It's the small pollen. There was a decision in Europe, 500 years ago, to take the human sexual words away from the plants.

So, the seed in the flower is really semen. But at that time all the botanists are monks. Botanists, plant scientists.

So, they changed the word to no sexual word. But really, this part of the flower you know, and this part of the flower you know. And they need bees, okay?

So, me and my partner, we grow bees, we are beekeeper, okay? One box of bees is 8,000 bees, okay? And their job is to carry the semen to the other place.

And that's why flowers are so bright. It's a, it's a sex advertisement. It really is.

So, let's be honest about it. And most fashion, perfume, makeup, shoes, you know, fast car for the boy. These are all sexual advertisements, okay?

And why? We have hormones. There's a chemical inside of you when you are born, okay?

And even the smell from your body has the hormone, pheromones? Yeah. So, the woman, when she starts to menstruate, like 15 years old, her body starts to make a perfume very similar to a flower for a human boy.

And she feels, she has to put the color and the clothes, and she's out of control, okay? Her chemical force her to dress nice, put the makeup, and roughly it's 15 years to 39 or something, 40? The female hormone, okay?

And the closer the female gets to 40, the hormone will, come on, we got to have a baby, we got to have a baby. The goal of a flower is to have a baby. The goal of flowers is to reproduce more flowers.

How do you get roses to grow faster? Cut them. They will grow twice, okay?

My partner, cut the roses today. Why? I want more, okay?

If you frustrate the sexual urge of the rose, his hormone, let's make two roses. Okay, so human female, from 15 to 40, you cannot trust your hormone. Human male, okay, what's the oldest human male who had sex and had a baby?

94. In India, okay? So, the boy's hormone, 14?

94, okay? So, the ACI teacher who's a male, you're going to have more problems, okay? Your chemistry pushing you, okay?

You have those birds? Why do you think Cardinal has a red color? It's to attract the female, this is the female, okay?

She's the female, okay? And his hormones are going. He wants to buy a fast car and buy a nice suit.

He wants to attract the female. That's why birds have color, okay? It's all about sex, okay?

Now, extra problem for teacher. First, your hormones are going to push you, and you will do stupid things that you regret later, and I'm telling you from personal experience, okay? And when you stand on the stage, people will fall in love with you, especially women, okay?

Those women musicians, forget it, there's 20,000 guys trying to chase them. It's just true, okay? When you put a woman on the stage, half the men in the audience will fall in love with them.

Oh, I never saw this woman like this. So, it's dangerous to be an ACI teacher, okay? And we have to talk about it, so you don't believe your mind when your mind have hormones.

Oh, that girl in the audience, your hormones are pushing you, okay? Don't believe it. It's very difficult.

Your hormones make you crazy, okay? Oh, I have to have sex with her. I have to have sex with him.

Then worse than that, if they are already married, okay? Then not only you do foolish thing, but you do immoral thing. I was in a ...

I wanted to see how's my student teaching. I snuck in the back of a meditation class. One of my students was teaching meditation.

Quietly, I sneak in the back, behind two ladies. Then here's the teacher, I'm going to teach you meditation. You will be calm.

You will become calm. Then I heard the one lady say to the other lady, I don't know what kind of meditation she's teaching, but I don't want to learn it. So, if you let your hormones take control of your life, nobody, in the end, no one will come to your teaching.

They will say you're a fool, okay? Some teachers don't even know their hormones are strong. Every time a cute girl asks a question, they're like, yeah, what's your question?

Then if another guy or a little bit ugly lady asks a question, he's like ... Then everybody in the audience knows what's going on, except the teacher, because their hormone is like that. So, we have to be aware about our own hormones, okay?

And it's not your fault, okay? You're not a bad person. It's an energy in everybody's body.

Without that energy, we won't be here, because our mom and dad had that energy. So, it's a good energy, but don't let it boss you around, okay? Don't let the hormone tell you what to do.

As a teacher, talk to your hormones. Oh, that guy looks so cute in the audience. Shut up!

You just need a baby in the next three years. Don't believe your hormones, okay? Learn to talk to your hormones.

It's a more serious problem for men than for women. Our hormone maximum time is only 80 years. Okay?

Women is about 25 years. So, just, if we talk about it openly, it will be easier for you. Don't try to hide it, if ...

everyone knows, okay? If you're having sex with students, everybody knows, okay? Don't think it's a secret, okay?

What's the ACI policy for a teacher to ask a student for a date? We don't want to, and I don't think it's even legal in America, I don't know about Mexico, but I don't think it's legal in the US, but we cannot tell people, you cannot have a partner, we cannot tell people that. Scott found a reed in an ACI class.

Peter probably found Maria in an ACI class. Stanley found Allison in an ACI class. I mean, come on!

So, we're not trying to tell you what your life should be, that's your business. And legally we don't have the right also, but there's a behavior called predatory ... predator.

The teacher has sex this week with this student, and then sex this week with this student, and sex this week with this student, and this, and then it becomes dangerous, okay? Then it becomes dangerous for the women, okay? And men also.

I have seen women teachers do the same thing. So, we wrote a policy, I think it's a fair policy, if the person took an ACI course in the last three months, right? Then they are an ACI series student, and then the teacher cannot ask them for a date, unless they tell another senior teacher, okay?

So, we're going to have some kind of policy like that, okay? Then still people can meet their ... some people come to ACI to meet other people with same spiritual goal.

ACI should be a cool place to meet the person you want to marry, and that's fine. Yes, that's fine, but we want to prevent hurting people, okay? So, just don't be stupid, okay?

Your hormones will boss you around. Now you know ... now you know about hormones.

So, you know, if suddenly your hormones take control, tell them to wait six weeks, and see if you still feel the same way, okay? So, don't let the hormone boss you around. What happens in a group if the teacher is a predator?

Then women, for example, don't feel comfortable to come to class. Oh, I came to this organization because I want to learn about compassion. Love, equal love for all people, and now look at this kind of behavior they're doing, so, when you do this kind of behavior, I don't mean romance.

If you fall in ... if Peter fell in love with Maria in the ACI course, that's fine. Tell another senior teacher, I think I'm in love, he or she will check your hormones.

Like, you have a ... we call it a reality check, but if you hurt the students, you also hurt ACI. Recently, I have a friend, he spent 30 years to create one of the largest yoga studios in America.

Then one of the teachers did sexual misbehavior with one of the students. He got lost suit. He lost several million dollars.

He closed the studio, okay? Understand? 30 years of work destroyed in one day by one of his teachers.

So, when your hormones get very strong, just think about it, okay? Possibly you will destroy ACI in your city, or in your country, or in the world, okay? So, you are not just causing trouble for yourself.

Maybe you will destroy ACI for everybody, okay? So, just think about it, okay? When you're a teacher, it's good to meet the people who are also spiritual, and you will find them at ACI, and that's fine.

We're not talking about, you make a connection, you get married, you live happily ever after, that's beautiful. We're talking about people who bother many people, okay? And in ACI, sometimes we touch people, especially in yoga.

Then you have to be extremely careful how you touch them. In DCI, we give the student a massage at the end of the yoga, shavasana, and we always make announcement. If you don't want a massage, put your hand here, okay?

So, in the ACI, we're often touching people. So, you have to be very sensitive. You have to be very careful.

Maybe you hurt thousands of people, okay? You are so serious. Okay, I have to ...

I'm like your father, I have to tell you. In America, if you're a boy, when you reach 14, 15, your father is supposed to give you the birds and the bees talk. So, now your father gave you the birds and the bees talk.

Just, please be careful. As a teacher, be careful. Okay, again Geshe-la took all your questions and answer time.

I promise you twice tomorrow, okay? Okay. Agree?

Thank you. Good night. Have a sweet dream.