Это не эгоизм, если это помогает всем: видение того, как изменить мир (2013, Осло), занятие 2

[Speaker 1]
My story is very short, okay? I spent 25 years in a monastery. And at the end you have an examination.

And it takes three weeks. And in my monastery there are, at that time, about 1,300 monks. And then they say, okay, now you have to do an examination.

And each monk will come asking questions. When you finish, they give you this big yellow hat. Everybody wants one in the monastery.

Everybody wants a Geshe hat. Why? If you get that hat, then the rest of your life you can relax.

Drink tea. Teach the little monks. Not so difficult.

So I got the yellow hat. Everybody is so happy. My mother came from America, my stepmother.

She was so happy. We had a big celebration. I started my new job, which is relaxing.

Then somebody came. The abbot wants to see you. This is the boss of the monastery.

He wants to see you now. Then you have to run. Go to the abbot.

I said, yes sir. He never said any good thing about me for 25 years. Then he said, okay, pretty good.

In 600 years, you are the first foreign person to finish Geshe in our monastery. Not so bad. Then he said, but you are a white guy.

He said, no, you have to go to Iran and you start a business. Then I said, I hate business. I hate business people.

Then you have to do what business? Diamond business. I hate diamond business.

Okay. You have to do it. Then you make like a million dollars in one year.

Because we want to examination, do you understand karma? Can you use karma to make a million dollars in one year? Then this is your second examination.

Anyway, I didn't go. I didn't want to go. So I said, okay, I delay, delay, delay.

Then finally he said, you have to go tomorrow.

[Speaker 2]
Okay.

[Speaker 1]
All right, I will go. And we went to New York. Then he said, the money we will give to the poor people.

We don't keep the money. So we worked with a company. We used karma.

We only used karma in the company. We started with three people. Now that company is $250 million per year.

And we have 10,000 people. Then he said, okay, you pass the examination. You know.

And we gave, my money I gave to the refugees for the work. So then people asked me, will you write a book about how to do that? We also want to know, you know, how to use karma to make business.

So I wrote a book. It's called Diamond Karma. There are some there, a few.

Then many countries asked me to come to their country and talk about how to use karma to make business. Even though I don't like business. Then I was in China.

I like to go there. I have many good friends there now. Very close.

We are very close now. I was in Guangdong, I think. This is South China.

And we are giving a business talk about how to use karma in business. Then one lady said, excuse me, excuse me. I said, what?

She said, I have a question. What do you call when you give? I have a question.

I said, what is the question? She said, so you can use karma to make money. I said, yeah, that's what I'm teaching you.

Then she said, can you use karma to fix your husband? Then I said, they don't teach us in the monastery. But, yeah, you can do.

You can do. You can use karma to fix your husband. Then one guy raises his hand.

What's the question? Can you use karma to fix wife also? Then I said, yeah, you can do.

Then business talk collapsed. No more business talk. Everybody has a question about why.

Question about husband. One lady said, I don't have boyfriend. I want boyfriend.

Can I use karma? Can I make a boyfriend with karma? Yes, yes, you can do.

Then people ask me. I have a book here. For, I don't know, for 10 years, people ask me thousands of questions about their husband or their girlfriend.

And I took the 100 best questions, which everyone asks me in the whole world. Many, many people ask me questions. Some people asked me a question here two years ago.

I put it in the book, OK? You have to check inside. So I made a book, 100 Questions About Your Relationship.

You can't buy it, OK? It's not out yet. It's on Amazon.

It's now number one in Germany for, never mind, relationship book. But it didn't come out. Anyway, so I thought tonight we can talk about, and you can look at it if you want, how to use karma in your relationships.

How to change your husband or change your wife. If you want to find a partner, how to find a partner. In my own story about a partner, my father and mother, they used to fight with each other.

They drink alcohol, and they used to fight. And finally they split when I was 12 years old, I think. Mother went to Arizona, father went to California.

Then, very sad for us, we are four brothers, and parents split up. Then we have to, one month go stay with father, and one month stay with mother, and one like that. Then we will ask the father, when will you come back home?

And then he said, I can't, I won't come home. And we said, why? Don't you love the mother?

He said, I love her, I love her so much. And he said, so come home. And he said, I can't stay with her.

Then we asked the mother, don't you love father? Yes, I love him, I cannot stay with him. Then I thought, this is my first information about relationships.

And we are confused. What's wrong? Why are people doing like that?

We didn't understand. Then I had my first girlfriend. You can see here.

I hope she doesn't have Facebook. Page one, okay? Her name is Paula Munday.

I'm sorry, Paula Munday. I have to talk about our relationship. I was in sixth grade.

Then I came to the school. And in our school, the students shouldn't talk to each other. So we are writing a note.

And we are passing notes like that. If you like a girl, you shouldn't give a note to her. You have to give to her friend.

And then her friend will give a note to her. I got a note from my friend. It says, her friend, she gave it to her friend.

Her friend gave it to my friend. My friend gave it to me. Some paper.

He said, I like you. Paula Munday said, Mike, I like you. Then after a while, she told her friend to tell my friend to tell me.

She wants to be my girlfriend. I'm like, okay, we can do it. Then in my school, when you are 12 years old, you have to have a ring, a special ring, to give to the girl.

So she said, you're supposed to give it to me. Then I, in my life, I never stole any money. But I stole one thing.

In my mother's purse, I stole five dollars. Five euros, right? Like that.

And I bought a ring for Paula Munday. And I said, meet me in the football field. Then we went to the football field.

There were many, what do you call them, seats like that, bleachers? Many rows of seats. She sat on the bottom.

I sat on the top. Then I said, you want to go, you want to be my girlfriend? She said, yes.

Then I said, do you want to wear my ring? She said, yes. Then I said, okay, I got a ring for you.

And I threw it to her. She caught me. She put it on.

Then we are girlfriend and boyfriend. And then, but we didn't do anything, okay? Just, you wear the ring.

We are too scared to do anything. Then after, I think, two or three months, she gave to her friend a paper. Her friend gave to my friend.

And he gave to me. And, you know, it's closed up like this. And I open it.

In the class, you have to do secretly, right? Then the ring fall out. Then it goes.

Everybody in the class is like. Then the teacher also like, what is that? What is that?

Then it's her ring. Then I read, I don't want to be your girlfriend now. Then I say, I don't know why she wants to be my girlfriend.

Now, I don't know why she doesn't want to be my girlfriend. Then, that was my beginning of my girlfriends. First one.

Then it didn't change after that. It was the same. Every class, 7th class, 8th class, 9th class.

It's the same, you know. It seems like relationship starts like this, you know. You see somebody, you know, in the coffee shop.

And you sit next to them. And you say, I, you know, I see you are reading a newspaper. I also read a newspaper.

And then you start to talk. And then you say, you want to go out with me? And they're like, yeah, yeah.

And you're so excited. You're so happy, you know. And you think, oh, this one would be better than Poha one day.

And you go out with them. I remember the girl. I took her to Chinese restaurant.

And we had Chinese food. And she really enjoyed it. Then you start to first kiss and then other things.

And you feel very happy, you know. It's like that. Then one day you say, let's go to the restaurant.

What restaurant? Let's go to the Chinese restaurant. The first Chinese restaurant where we went out together.

I don't like Chinese food. But you went many times. I just want to make you happy.

Actually, I don't like Chinese food. But I like Chinese food. Can we go?

Why do you want me to go to Chinese food? I don't like Chinese food. You like Chinese food.

Then that's the first argument. First, fine. Then second, fine.

Third, fine. Fourth, fine. Then after six months, you are fighting all the time.

You are always fighting. And then you say, OK. Then you leave.

You go. And someone says to you, who do you hate in the world the most? You say, my old girlfriend, my ex-wife, my ex-boyfriend.

They start, who do you? I hate them. Will you come to the party with me?

Is he going to be there? I won't go. You know that, right?

It happens. Every relationship, it starts very nice and very exciting. And then first kiss and other things.

And then it goes down. It seems like that. And I thought, I should become a monk.

This is hopeless. It's not possible to have a relationship. It never works.

There's always some problem after a while. My teacher in my monastery, we talk about relationship. And I said, oh, I told my lama.

My lama is old Tibetan lama. We stayed together for 25 years. He's tough.

Tough old lama. Then I said, it's not true. OK, here we go.

You have to ask. I'm not going to ask questions. You have to give me answers.

OK, what is this thing? It's a pen. It's a pen.

OK, second question. If a dog comes in here, a small puppy dog, and I go like this. What would they do with this thing?

They would chew on it. Does a dog see this thing as a pen or not? No, they see it as something to chew on.

OK. Dog sees chew toy. Human sees pen.

Next question. Who's correct, dog or human? Who's correct?

You can say both. I think you can say both. Only one guy in America, in Florida, he said, no, no.

Dog is both. Only one guy in the whole world. Dog is both.

Dog can chew. It's OK. The dog said to the person, why are you writing?

It tastes so good. So, of course, both are correct. Now a difficult question.

You have to learn this question, why? Tonight, we are talking about partner. your boyfriend or girlfriend or wife or husband, we want to make a perfect one.

Perfect. If you already have a partner, you can fix them. You can upgrade to business class or first class.

[Speaker 2]
Okay?

[Speaker 1]
Then, if you don't have a partner, you can make one with Carmen. I'm teaching you Carmen. This is a new thing.

New system. Okay? Does it work?

Yes. Why? $200 million.

Okay? It works. It works.

[Speaker 2]
Okay?

[Speaker 1]
No, it works. I don't know anything about business. Nothing.

But I know about the pen. Okay? So, learn the pen.

Next question. Difficult question. If I put this thing here, all the people go out, and all the dogs go out.

At that time, which one is pen or $200 million? All the people are gone. All the dogs are gone.

This thing is here. Now, what is it? Which one?

Movement. Yeah. Who said?

Movement. Yeah, good. In most countries, somebody in the front will go.

It's neither work. And you're correct. You're right.

It's neither work. At that time, no dog, no person. It's just some yellow thing.

Some yellow thing. If the dog comes in, it becomes a? Tree tribe.

If the person comes in, it becomes a? Pen. If both of them come in?

It becomes both. And if they both leave? Then it's?

Nothing. Just nothing. That's the meaning of emptiness.

That's the meaning of emptiness. What do you call it? Emptiness.

Emptiness. That's the meaning of emptiness. How can you use that to find a good boyfriend or a girlfriend?

How can you use that to fix your wife or husband? Tonight we have to learn that. You don't have to struggle.

You don't have to fight. Some lady came to me. I have to ask you one more question.

When I see a pen, is the pen coming from me? From my mind? Or is the pen coming from the pen?

Which one? Must be from me. Why?

The dog that sees the pen. If the pen is coming from the pen, the dog will see a? Pen.

The dog will write some poetry to his dog girlfriend. You have a nice tail. But they don't hear that.

Why? The pen is not coming from the pen. The pen is coming from me.

It must be true. Because the dog doesn't see a pen. It must be true.

So can I close my eyes and I say, I don't want a pen. I want a big diamond. It's coming from me.

I will use positive thinking. I want a diamond. It's coming from me.

Oh, it's still okay. It's very interesting. Is it coming from me?

Yes. Can I control it? No.

Why is it coming from me? There's a seed in my mind. I have a seed in my mind.

It's very interesting. When I look at this thing, when Michael looks at this thing, that seed opens in one second. I go like this.

Why is this pen? And when I go like this, if you are human, a seed opens in your mind and you see a pen. The pen is coming from the seed in your mind to this thing.

Is this big? The pen in your mind, is this big? Karma opens.

Karma means a seed, right? Karma means a seed. The seed opens in your mind.

A little picture comes out. Oh, a little pen. It's very fast.

You can do 65 times in one second. Buddha said 65 times in one second. Divide one second by 65.

That's how long it takes for the seed to open and come to this pen. Okay? And you are doing it with everything.

This building, your floor, your fence, your hand, me. Everything is coming from you. Everything is coming over your way.

So if you don't like my talk, it's your fault. It's your fault. Okay?

Everything is coming from our mind. From a seed in my mind. Question.

Question how to plant the seed. How to plant the seed. Then you can make $200.

It's easy. Just plant the seed. Don't go work so hard.

I work six months. I take six month vacation. This is correct system.

Right? Some people work 50 weeks. They take two week vacation.

I say you are crazy. You are crazy. Okay?

Work six months. Relax six months. Good system.

If you understand seed, you can do that. You just have to understand the seed. Chittamjeya.

Dharmakara Sutra. Just understand. Tonight you can understand.

Then use it for the rest of your life. John and Leon can teach you. They studied it for many years.

You are very lucky to have them. I think you should kidnap them. Tie them up.

If I am from Norway, I will tie them up. You cannot go home. Because they are really good teachers.

They can teach you the details. But tonight I will just teach you nothing. So question.

If I want to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Let's say I don't have a partner. I try to have a partner, but Paula is not there.

Then how do I put the seed for a good partner? How do I plant the seed? They will come to you.

You don't have to work to find them. I will give you a story. I will give you a short story.

There is a woman in New York. She is studying with me. She is a yoga teacher.

Good yoga teacher. The yoga teacher who understands this thing is a great yoga teacher. They are teaching you both.

They are teaching you Uttanasana, Parsvottanasana, and Paschimottanasana. But they are also teaching you the meaning. She came to me.

She is also an architect. She said, Geshe-la, will you do more? More means in Tibetan, what do you call it?

Dice? What do you call it in Norwegian? To play a game?

Hal? Hal? Okay.

Then the monk in Tibet, people will ask us a question. Should I rent this apartment or not? Will you do more for me?

Please do more. Then we have to say, no, you shouldn't rent that apartment. So people come to me with questions.

She comes to me. Will you do more, Geshe-la? Okay, I will do more.

What's your question? I have a question about my boyfriend. What's the question?

I don't have a boyfriend. Then I said, so why are you asking me questions? I want to know, should I look for him in the night club or should I look for him in the internet?

Please do more. Then I said, okay. We are supposed to be very serious.

We don't use hands. We use kapali. Kapali means this, what do you call it?

Scalp. From a person. We are supposed to be very serious.

Then, you should put your eyes like that. Then you should say some mantra. Om Mani Padme Hum.

Om Mani Padme Hum. Internet or night club. Om Mani Padme Hum.

Then you have to throw, you can't go like this, okay. You have to go.

[Speaker 2]
She said, is he in the night club?

[Speaker 1]
No. Oh, that's good. Why?

The boy who goes to the night club is the boy who goes to the night club. You can't trust him. He will go to the night club.

She said, I'm glad. So he's in the internet? No.

Not in the internet. Oh, that's good. Why?

The boy who lives in the internet, he likes a laptop more than his girlfriend. He likes Facebook more than his girlfriend. So, where will I find him?

Where should I find him? You go to, we call nursing home? Old person's home.

What do you call it? Where the old people stay. Like that.

You go there. Then she's like, but it's not me. I want a young boyfriend.

I said, no, no, you don't understand. You have to plant the seed. If you want a partner, you must plant the seed in your own life.

Then I said, why do you want a boyfriend? I feel lonely. I'm happy.

I have a good job. I teach yoga. I'm happy.

All day I'm happy. But when I come by myself, nobody can talk to me. I want someone I can talk to there.

He will hug me. I want a boyfriend. I feel lonely.

So I said, in this system, Diamond Karma, Jinka Jinka system, what you want, you must give to another person. Same thing. You see?

If you want money, you have to give money to other people. You have to, to plant the karma, you have to give to another person. Like, if I want to make a million dollars, I should help the other person to make money.

I must. I must plant the seed. It's the only way.

If I want to be healthy, should I do yoga? Yes or no? Some people hurt their neck in yoga.

They come from the yoga class. What's wrong? I come from yoga class.

And yoga cannot help you. If you help sick people, then go to yoga. Yoga make you strong.

If you don't help sick people and you go to yoga, you will hurt yourself. It's true. The muscle is coming from helping sick people and then the yoga will happen.

It's very interesting, right? You didn't hear that in the other yoga studios, I think, but it's true. So if you want to find a boyfriend, or you want a good partner, you have to go find an old person and help them who has no family.

Today, before we came here, where did we go? We all went to the... What's the place called?

Mangrove. But what was the other store called? Mangrove.

No, the sweater. Oh, no. And I bought some nice sweaters.

For who? Just before. We went there and we went back.

Then I didn't talk. Then we bought some clothes for my old lady. I have an old lady.

She's 87 years old. And I help her. I take care of her.

Why? I want to plant karma. She's my karma planting garden.

The old woman. Then I always, when I come back, Monday we go home to my place. Then I go to her house.

I'm like this. And she's always, what's behind your back? I have something for you.

From where? From Norway. Beautiful sweater.

And then she's very happy. I am planting seed with her. She is my garden and I plant.

For 20 years I am planting my seed with her. You must, if you want to have a good partner, you need an old person. And you have to visit them once a week.

OK? Must. No choice.

In this system, you have to. No choice. It's very interesting.

This is how you plant karma. And then the boy will come to you. The girl will come to you.

You don't have to go look on the internet. You don't have to go to night club. You can sit in the coffee shop.

They will come in the dawn. They will sit next to you. OK?

The perfect partner. Just plant them. Here.

Why? OK? Boyfriend also coming from Norway.

Where? From here. How?

Plant the seed. How to plant the seed? Help old person who has no family.

Help them. Plant the seed. Then the boyfriend will come.

It's a very beautiful system. Easy. It's not easy.

You don't have to look on the internet for 10 hours. Oh, this one looks good. Oh, no.

He's a problem. The problem is terrible. You have to breathe out the cigarette smoke.

OK? This system is very easy. Visit the old person.

Make them happy. Plant the seed. And the boyfriend will come.

This is karma. This is a new system. This is a new system.

If you want $200,000,000, plant the seed. If you want a beautiful partner who gets more beautiful every year, then help the old people. Help the lonely people.

OK? This is a new system.

[Speaker 2]
Doesn't have to be old.

[Speaker 1]
Can be a child also. Can be a lonely person in your job. Someone who is lonely.

Lonely has to be lonely. Old people are easy to find. No, there are many many old people.

But I'm telling you the truth. You don't have to work a whole year like that. I only work six months.

But I know how to plant the seed. Then the money comes. OK?

You just plant karma. You want to be a super yoga teacher. Then help the sick people.

Then your yoga will change. Because your yoga is coming from you. OK?

Yoga is coming from you, right? It will make you strong. Plant the seed.

Then do yoga. We're going to play one song. Is that OK?

We'll play one song. Old people all the time. They help the people all the time.

Old people. But for five years he didn't have a boyfriend. So what happened to the karma?

Where is the karma? You plant a karma. How do you plant a karma?

When you go to visit the old person or the young person who is lonely. When you go there, you plant karma. How?

Karma is planted in your own mind. I cannot plant your karma. You have to plant your own karma.

If you want to make 200 million dollars or you want to be a yoga teacher or you want to have a nice partner, you have to plant. I cannot do for you. If I could do, I would do for America.

I don't have to fly here. You see? You have to plant your own karma.

How? You must visit lonely person yourself. How does the karma come into your mind?

How does the seed come into your mind? You are watching yourself with your own eyes. You are going to the old person's house.

You are talking to them. Tell me about when you were young. Tell me some story from your life.

They will tell you the same story every week because they forgot. They told you before. I'm similar.

Then when you help them, when you visit them, when you are helping them and nice to them, who is watching? They are watching and you are watching. Your mind, your eyes are like a camera.

Like there is this video camera. Right? So when you are talking to the old person, you are hearing yourself.

This plants a seed. When you do something good, you are watching yourself and that puts a seed in your mind. That's how you get a seed.

Then you can say, I have many friends. They have their grandmother. They have their grandfather.

They didn't get a boyfriend. Then what happened to the karma? The karma is there.

Nothing can stop karma. Nothing. If you help somebody, a good thing will happen to you 10 times more, 20 times more, 30 times more, 200 million times more.

It will come back. Otherwise, if you give $10 and $10 comes back, it's a waste of time. The seed is small.

This tree started from a seed that you can hold in your hand. Now that tree can break the house. If it falls down, it will break that building.

It came from this seed, this big. The seed in the mind is the same. Plant a small seed for a nice partner.

Beautiful partner. You give the old person one hour a week and then a man or a woman will come into your life for your whole life and more beautiful every year. Why?

You planted a seed. How big was the seed? One hour.

How big is the boyfriend or the girlfriend who comes out of the seed? Whole life. It's the nature of seed.

Small seed, big tree. You just have to plant it. Then relax.

Everyone is so uptight. I have to have a boyfriend. I couldn't find a little bit.

Relax. Just plant a seed. Plant a seed and relax.

Then he has to come. He doesn't have a choice. He will come.

I'm not kidding. I planted many seeds for money. I quit the business in 1999.

I stopped working. I don't do the business anymore. Then I took yoga class.

Dharamvitra in New York. I went to a big yoga teacher. He kills you for two hours.

But afterward you can tell your friends, I went to Dharamvitra. And he kills you. Then one guy came up to me in the class.

He said, you are Deshmandu. I said, yeah. He said, I want to shake your hand.

I said, okay, thanks. He said, okay, bye. Then I said, wait, what's your name?

John. Then I never met him in my life. I never met him.

Then that day I got an email in the evening. Why didn't you thank me? John from John.

Why didn't you thank me? Then I wrote him an email. Why?

Why should I thank you? Deshmandu, I have a website, bank. I carry it with me.

He said, you look inside. Then I look inside. There's an envelope.

Look in the envelope. There's a check. $100,000 US.

Then I sent him an email. You look. Thank you.

I said, why you give me money? I don't know you. I never met you in my life.

Why you give me money? He says, I also don't know why. I just want to give you, you know.

It means I climbed in the sea before. Then, even I don't want money, the money will chase you. Okay?

I'm running. Money is a running customer. I'm screaming.

I'm not giving. Who will give money customers in New England? It's strange, you know.

If you plant a seed for a good partner, they will come. They don't have a choice. They must come.

It's very beautiful. But you have to take good care of the seed. Alright?

You must know how to plant the seed. If I have a, what do you call it, watermelon seed, and I throw it here, will it grow? It won't grow.

Is it a good seed? It is a good seed. You put it in the wrong place.

You don't know how to take care of the seed. Don't put water. Don't put soil.

No sunlight. How can it grow? It won't grow.

All of the karma you have 20 million, 200 million karma in your mind already. You already have. Everybody here has.

You have the seeds. You helped many people. And you helped many more people.

Everybody. You did some good things in your life. The seeds are there, but there's no water.

I will teach you the water. Okay? There's a special meditation.

They can teach you. John can teach you and the young can teach you. We call it coffee meditation.

Coffee meditation. You can do like this, right? You can.

That's not coffee meditation. Don't do that. My teacher taught me.

He said, do like this. This is meditation. Then I said to my teacher, that's not meditation.

He said, it is meditation. Then I said, where do you do it? He said, on your bed.

Then, when? Before you go to sleep. Then what am I supposed to think about?

Think about the old woman which you helped today. You took her to the coffee shop, right? I take my old lady to, I'm going to give her the Norwegian sweater in the coffee shop.

Okay? I will take her to coffee. She dresses up.

She puts on her makeup. We go out. Then I say, come to the coffee shop.

I have a sweater for you. Yeah. And then, when you come home, you have a seed in your mind.

Who put it there? You did. How?

You were there when you gave her the sweater. That's all. Your mind is a video camera.

It makes a seed in your mind. Then go home. Eat your dinner.

Clean up. Take your bath. Then lay down on your bed and say, today I did a good thing.

What? I took the old lady to the coffee shop. I gave her, what's it called?

Dale of Norway? Dale of Norway? I gave her Dale of Norway sweater.

I will not tell her it was 50% discount. It has a big price tag. Then she was so happy and she put on the sweater and she's looking in the mirror.

When I think about her and I think about how happy she was, this is the water on the karma. For the seed, the karma seed, there is water on the seed and it will grow faster. It will grow very fast.

Then you will have a beautiful relationship. That's all. People don't know how to put water on the karma.

Now you know. Where? On the bed.

Where? Before you go to sleep. What kind of meditation?

Think about the people you help today. Think about what good thing you did today. This is water on the karma.

Then $200 million will come. I'm not kidding. You can check.

We own jovi.com. The name costs $21 billion. The name jovi.com costs $21 billion. How? Just relax. Think about the good thing that you did for other people.

And that makes the seed grow faster. Is it difficult? It's easier than yoga, right?

[Speaker 2]
Alright?

[Speaker 1]
Then I'm telling you a big secret. This is $200 million secret. My boyfriend's secret.

You can plant that. You don't have to work so hard. Help somebody else to get the secret you want.

Then come home. Do this meditation. We call it in Tibetan, we call it, Say she.

She. Don't just do that. Then your boyfriend, you can't run away from your boyfriend.

He will chase you. I'm not kidding. I thought we'd take a break, but I have a question for you.

We will take a break. It's okay, Jovi? But I have a question for you.

Someone asked me in China, when I was in China. They asked a very good question. One guy raised his hand and he said, I understand your system.

It sounds good to me. It's logical. If I help someone who is lonely, it plants carbon from boyfriend.

If I help poor people, money will come to me. I like your system. It sounds good to me.

But in China, when we are young, our mother, our father, they will tell us help other people. Do good for other people. But don't ask them for something.

Give me something. This is not love. This is business.

Oh, I will take you to the coffee shop. I will give you a sweater from Gale of Norway. If I get a boyfriend.

If I get a girlfriend. It's like a business, right? I will help the poor people.

Why? I want my money. This is not love.

This is like strange. Selfish. I want something from you.

So I will be nice to you. A Chinese person asked me, this sounds strange to Chinese people. Our mother, our father told us, when you give something to somebody, or you help the old person, do it from love.

Don't ask them for something. Don't say, give me something. It should be from love.

So what is my answer for that? After refreshments. There is something very interesting.

If you understand how to plant seeds. If you understand this new system. When you use it, you help the whole world.

You are helping the whole world. You are making peace in the world. You are helping everybody in the world.

If you take the old woman to the coffee shop and give her a sweater from Gale of Norway, you are helping the whole world. You are making peace in the world. Why?

How? I'm not going to tell you. After refreshments.

These people are blackmailing. You have to come back. In the second half, we have to talk about this question.

How to make peace in the world? By using this system. We will talk about that.

We will take a break. Look at page 3. Page 3.

It is called ordering a new car. It means you have a new boyfriend or girlfriend. When you go to buy a car, you have to ask, I want this color.

I want this kind of stereo. You have to tell them what kind of car. It is not enough to say I want a car.

You have to tell them what kind of car, what color, what shape. Same with the partner. You have to decide what you want in your partner.

Some people say, I want my partner to help me a lot. I want a partner who has a job. I want a partner who doesn't get tired or upset after two weeks.

People want different things in a partner. We need a new person. We say, this one looks pretty good.

It is about 75% good. 25% not so good. Then you have to make a decision.

You want to be my boyfriend or you want to be my husband. Then you have to say, I don't know, you are only 75%. You are not 100%.

We have to make a decision. I like this person. I like to stay with them.

Maybe I would like to get married to this person. But some things I don't like. I want to fix some things about them.

You can do two things. For example, many women told me, in the beginning of my marriage, my husband used to come home and he always gives me a hug. When he comes home from work, he says, honey, and he gives me a hug.

Now, he comes home from work, he opens the door, he goes like this to his laptop. And then he does Facebook. He only hugs his computer.

He doesn't hug me. Do you want to leave your husband? No, I love him.

I like him. So what will you do to fix him about affection? I want more love from him.

Some people tell me, I will talk to him. I will talk to him for 3-4 hours. When you come home, you should give me a hug.

It's good to give me a hug. I want a hug. Every husband should come home and give the wife a hug.

And of course, the next day, what will he do? He will come home, okay, here, come give me a hug. He doesn't feel happy.

He's just like that. Is that enough? It's not fun.

If you have to negotiate for a hug, the hug is not so good. The hug should be coming from their heart, right? Or some people say, okay, if you don't give me a hug, I won't talk to him.

You know, like blackmail the husband. This system, this is the old system. Why?

Sometimes you fight for a hug. You fight for affection. And they don't give you.

Sometimes they give you. Sometimes you say, okay, don't get it, they won't give you affection. Sometimes they won't get anything.

It doesn't work. That's not the way to get affection from your partner, right? To fix them.

How should you fix your partner? Four steps we did before, right? Number one, what?

Number one is what do you want? Decide what do you want? What do you want?

I want my husband to give me some affection, some love. Before, when we started, he used to give me, but now he doesn't. So I want to change it.

Okay. Number one, I want my husband to give me a hug. Number two, what should you do?

Yeah, I would help an old lady or find someone who is not getting affection. Okay? Be friendly to people.

Smile to them. Just on the street or in the school or at the yoga class. You know, be friendly.

Can I help you? I'll help you with a lap. You are doing headstand.

Okay, like that. Be friendly to another person, okay? It puts a ceiling away.

Then you come home. Then husband wants to give you a hug. You see?

But you have to put water on your feet. What is the water? Where?

On your bed. Where? Before you go to sleep.

It's very good before you go to sleep. Why? The mind will remember all night.

Whole night. That seed will grow. All night.

You see? So, before you go to sleep, think about the good things you did today. Okay?

Oh, today I was friendly to everybody at yoga studio. I went to the yoga. I helped everybody.

I did good things. This is water on the seed. Then send it to your husband.

Okay? Send that power to your husband. Then after two weeks he will start to hug you.

Okay? Understand? No discussion.

No fighting. No not cooking. Okay?

Just plant the seed. Where? On the street.

In the grocery store. At the yoga class. Be friendly to other people.

Show them some smile. Okay? Say goodbye.

Now, I sent it to change my husband. You don't have to fight with him. And you don't have to argue with him.

Just plant the seed. Okay? It's better.

Everything you want, you can plant. Now we're going to go to page four. Page four.

That tree outside, did it come from a seed? Yes or no? Yes, it came from a seed.

How big was the seed? This big. The seed from the tree is that big.

Where is the seed now which grow this tree? Where is the seed? Now.

It's gone. The seed is gone. The tree came up and the seed finishes.

Okay? The tree killed the seed. The seed gave life to the tree.

Then the tree kills the seed. All things are coming from seeds. The pen is coming from the seed.

Okay? In your mind. The husband is coming from the seed.

And the tree is coming from the seed. Will the tree die or not? Will this tree die?

Yeah, of course it will die. Why? Because the seed's power finished.

The power of the seed finished. Then the tree will die. The tree must die.

Why? Every day the tree is alive and it's using the seed's power. Like a debit card.

[Speaker 2]
Do you have a debit card? Yeah, yeah.

[Speaker 1]
I have a big credit card negotiation at Yale at the moment. You have a credit debit card. You come into this life with a debit card.

You come into this life body. It is made by seeds. Every day that you live that debit card is going down.

One day costs you more seeds. And then one day, debit card will finish. Someone asked me a question during the break.

Does everybody have to die? Is everything impermanent? Buddha said everything is impermanent.

Everything has to die. It's not true. He said if you don't understand seeds, everything will die.

If you understand seeds, you just have more space. For example, you want money. Let's say I'm not a big car.

I don't want to be rich. I want to have enough money. I can go to Los Angeles if I want to go to Los Angeles.

I can relax. I can go. I don't have to worry.

I don't have enough money. I don't want to have three Mercedes Benz because I only have one bottle. More thing is more trouble.

More things are more trouble. But I would like to have enough money to do what I like to do. And I don't have to think about it.

I just have enough. I would like that. That's good.

I don't want to be rich. How do I get money in this system? Four steps.

First step, seeds come to earth. Number one, decide what you want. I want enough money to be independent.

I can do anything I want. Number one. Number two, find someone else who needs money.

Find someone who needs money, who wants money. Number three, give them. Help them to make money.

Number four, on your bed, say, today I have someone to make money. That's the water. If you don't do the water, this system doesn't work.

In this system, you must be happy about who? Me. Yourself.

In this system, you must be happy about it. Number four, always the same. Today I did a good thing.

Why? I helped someone to make some money. I did a good thing.

Then that seed will come back. That seed will grow. Some money will come to you.

Then what will happen? The seed will feed you. And the tree will die.

Why? The money? Yeah.

When the money comes, you invest it. You don't have to give all of it. Just give half of it.

Five percent, ten percent. When the money comes to you, plant more seeds. The woman who asked me to do the law, she went to a nursing home.

She helped the old lady. After a few months, into her yoga class came a very beautiful man. Then she called me.

She was like, why? This system works. I said, I know.

She said, are you busy? That's what? Why?

Will you come to New York? Why? We are getting married.

She's Chinese. She said, I need more. Okay, I will come.

Then I went to New York to do the wedding. It was fun for me because I helped to plant the boy. I said, we did a good job.

Look, he's handsome. He has a good job. He's a nice man.

We planted a good one. Then we are eating the wedding cake together. And we are having fun.

Everybody is relaxed. Then I said, come sit down with me, with the boy. I said, come, let's talk.

Then I said, I'm so happy you got married. Yes, thank you so much. You are always very good.

Then I said, so how is the old lady? Then she's like, Krishna, I was very busy. I have to buy the wedding dress.

Then I have to make the wedding food. Then I had to make the invitation. I didn't have time to visit her.

Then I said, sit down. We have a problem. What happens if you stop planting seeds?

You will have your first partner. Actually, I don't like Chinese food. Remember?

He will say or she will say, I don't like Chinese food. I don't want to go there with you today. I want to do a different movie.

I don't like that film. I like this other film. Fighting will start.

Why? The seed is dying. The seed is dying.

Then I told them, you have no choice. You have to go to the orphanage. You cannot stop.

If you stop planting seeds, the tree will die. All relationships will go like this. Companies go like this.

Human body goes like this. Government goes like this. Countries go like this.

All of them. Strong, strong, strong. Then get old, die.

This is the tree also. And this building will fall down one day. It's all the same.

You don't have a choice. I got another guy. You have to go to the orphanage with him.

Got it? If you're having trouble in a relationship, go together to help a lonely person. I'm giving you a secret how to plant new seeds.

If you plant new seeds, that relationship will get better every year. More and more more and more. If you don't do that, big problem happens.

Chinese lesson. Actually, I don't like Chinese lesson. You see what I mean?

They will start the fighting. And the fighting will get more and more. And one day you will break up.

You don't have to. You can have a relationship which is permanent. You can have a relationship which gets better every year for 50 years, 60 years.

You can have. Is it possible to stop death? It's possible.

Your body also coming from you. From a seed. But you have to plant new seeds.

How? Take care of yourself. Teach yoga.

Teach a training. Become yoga teacher. Have a relationship with your body.

And your body will get stronger and longer. Someone came to me in the break and said, I have a foot problem. Can I fix it with the seeds?

Who's it coming from? Your foot. That is unusual.

I had a foot problem also. I was a weak girl. I couldn't walk sometimes.

Now I do ballet. Last week in France I was doing ballet. And I'm old.

I started ballet when I was 15. Because I want to say you to the foot.

[Speaker 2]
You are going to change. I'm going to change.

[Speaker 1]
Because you are coming from me. And now I do ballet. It's beautiful.

You can change your life. You can change everything. Changing partner is easy.

Food is more difficult. But you can do both. You can do everything.

Next page. How old are you? How old are you?

[Speaker 2]
Do you have a birthday? How old are you? 92?

[Speaker 1]
Oh, we have a problem. Let me see. I'm going to go to page 6.

And then we will finish and we'll face each other. One last time. Before the break, I asked you a question.

What was the question? Chinese person asked me a question. What was it?

Is this system selfish? Is this system selfish? We had some I had a talk with one man in the break.

About Krishna and Arjuna. So in India, there's a famous story. Bhagavad Gita.

Somebody said Krishna said to Arjuna when you do a good thing for another person don't ask for something bad. Don't be attached to the result of your karma. Don't ask for something.

When you do something, it should be free. Don't say, oh, give me something. It should be free.

Maybe I said if you understand this system, you can change the world. You can help the whole world. It's not selfish.

It's love. We need to use this system to get a boyfriend. This needs to be love.

In Tibet, what do they call that? Who said that? Not a GD.

Or bodhicitta. Some of you heard this word bodhisattva or bodhicitta. Then, you know, when you say some prayer, I hope I can help all the living beings.

I hope I can help the whole world. How can you help the whole world? We can't even help ourselves.

How can you help 7 billion people? We don't have the power. You're not Spiderman.

You're not Iron Man. You're just a person. How can you help?

How can you make a prayer, I want to help the whole world? If you understand this system, if you use it, you're helping the whole world automatically. Why?

Okay, let's say you don't have a partner and you want a partner. Then what do you have to do? In this system.

Internet or nighttime? Which one? Good.

Good answer. Those are both good. What's the smart thing to do?

Yeah, go visit an old person. Help a local person. Plant the seed and the boy will come.

When the boy comes, you have a special job. I'm going to tell you. Then we're finished.

After the boy's planted and when the boy comes to you, then you have to call all your friends on the telephone and say meet me at the restaurant at 7 o'clock. Okay? Call four or five of your girlfriends.

You meet me. I have special news for you. You know?

Come to the restaurant at 7 o'clock. Then call your new boy or who you found. Plant it.

Forget finding them. Plant them. Finding means I have to look, I have to look, I have to look for money.

I have to look for money. Forget that. Plant it and relax.

Just plant it. The minute has to come. It will come.

So I planted the boy. Call the boyfriend who you found. Tell him to come to your apartment.

What time? Same time? I like it.

When he comes, give him three glasses of water. Big glasses of water. Make him drink three glasses of water.

Then go to the restaurant with him. Why? You will be late.

7.30 you will reach the restaurant. Indoor, standing at the door. All your friends are waiting for you.

Where is she? She has some surprise. Oh look, she's outside.

She's coming in. She has a boy. He's pretty cute, you know?

She didn't have a boyfriend for five years. Yeah, it's probably her cousin. I think it's her cousin.

Then come in with the boy. When you reach the table, give him a big kiss. And then all the friends are like, what would they say?

Not a cousin. Not her cousin. Then, must be boyfriend.

Yeah, it's a boyfriend. How did she get a boyfriend? She's the same.

Then of course you have to talk about food and politics and women. Then what will happen?

[Speaker 2]
He has to go to the bathroom.

[Speaker 1]
He has to go to the toilet. Because he gave him three glasses of water. And he will say, he's like this for five minutes.

Then finally he has to say, excuse me, I have to go to the toilet. When he goes, what will happen?

[Speaker 2]
What will happen at the table?

[Speaker 1]
Everybody says, where? Where did you find him? Where did you find him?

Which nightclub? Which internet?

[Speaker 2]
Nursing home.

[Speaker 1]
He looks so young. Then you have to say, no, no, you don't understand. I planted him in the nursing home.

It's a new system. It's a new system. No more internet.

No more nightclub. Nightclub is so terrible. Smoke and loud music.

You are looking for some boy. It's so difficult. Just plant him.

He will come. Then what will happen tomorrow, next day, what will happen with your friends? They will go to the nursing home.

Some of them who are desperate. They will go to the nursing home. Then what will happen?

I'm serious. I'm very serious. What will happen?

They will find a boyfriend. You know that. It's true.

Then what will happen?

[Speaker 2]
They will invite him.

[Speaker 1]
They will invite him to the restaurant. They give him three glasses of water. Then what will happen?

Then those new people will go to the nursing home. After one year at the nursing home, long lines of people. Can I meet her today?

No. Do you have any old women available?

[Speaker 2]
They are all hooked up. Come back next week. Tuesday, three o'clock.

[Speaker 1]
She has 10 years. Then old people who are lonely, they will be old men dealers. Telephone number of the old men.

I think maybe boys will meet girls in the night at the nursing home. I taught this in Bulgaria last year. Two years ago.

There's one famous woman there. She used it. She planted a point.

She was walking. What do you call that nice area in the middle? What's it called?

The park there. Yeah. She's walking in the place like that.

She's looking down. She hits some guy. She looks up.

He looks up. She called me. I got you.

We bumped into each other by accident. We were getting married. She got married.

It was very funny. She said, Here's me a revolution. This is a boyfriend revolution.

Now everybody can have a boyfriend in the world. You see? What I'm saying is, when you're going to visit the old lady, you must have this vision in your mind.

It will spread like computer virus. It will spread. Everybody says, Where did you get him?

I didn't get him. I planted him. How do you plant him?

They will spread. One person, two people. Four people, eight people.

It will spread in the world. What will happen later? No more lonely people anywhere.

What with money? If everybody understands the only way to make money is to help other people to make money. Poor people will become rare.

It will be difficult to find a poor person. It's true. How to become young?

How to become healthy? What? Go to the hospital.

Plant the seed in the hospital. Then do your work. And the hospitals will be full of people.

Do you have any more sick people to help? The nursing homes will be full of people. Do you have any old women who don't have a friend?

And also the poor people, everybody. Do you have any poor people? I met one guy in America.

He came to this talk in Detroit. Then after a few days, he came to me. Yes, ma'am.

I have good news. What? I found her.

Powerful. One woman. She is sick.

She is poor. She is lonely. I think the world will change.

The world will change. I gave this talk in China. I was in Guangzhou.

I asked her. I was a bunch of very tough Chinese business guys. Then I asked her.

After three days, I asked her. How do you make money? She said, plant it.

I said, how do you plant money? I said, help other people to make money. Then I asked the question.

These are tough guys. I said, what will happen if everybody does it? Then the guy said, world peace.

There will be peace in the world. Because no more hungry people. No more poor people.

No more lonely people. No more sick people. Everybody will have peace.

When you use this system, you are creating world peace. Boyfriend revolution. You have to understand.

It's not selfish. It's not wrong to take the old woman to the coffee shop. You are making world peace.

You are creating world peace. Last thing. Then we go home.

We play one more song. Our friend, John and we had an international conference. Many countries came.

Each country sent some video. From Oslo, they said, you sent me a video. Somebody sent a video.

It was Oslo government or something. Commercial. Cellphone.

They said, in Norway, if the young person takes the old person to the film, the old person gets free ticket. They both get a free ticket. Then we said, revolution is beginning in Norway.

World revolution is beginning in Norway. When you help other people, you must have a vision. That vision is called volition.

That vision is called volition. What's the vision? I'm not going to the nursing home to help one person.

I'm helping 7 billion people. I'm not helping one old woman. I'm helping 7 billion people because I started revolution.

You must think like that. Then the climate changes. Then the climate changes.

It will change the world. It will make you very, very, very