Ничто не работает: четыре шага, чтобы создавать сильную карму (2010, Детройт), занятие 1

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I thought I'd start by talking, first of all, the groups were really nice, and people did really well, and I think the cool thing for me is that anywhere you go in the world, you know, we go to many, many countries, and you put people in a circle like that, and in about five minutes everybody's helping everybody else. It's really beautiful, it doesn't matter where you go, it's the same. And I really like it, it's really a good thing.

I want to talk about the idea of loading something. So, what we're getting into, and what we talked about in the yoga, is that nothing works, okay? So it's as, what do you call it?

It's as drastic as that, okay? You have to think like that. It's as drastic as nothing in the world that you ever tried worked, okay?

Like, that's what we're proposing. I had a guy, he was a very famous journalist in Ireland, and at this point he raised his hand, you know, and he was in the back. He was really irritating, and he said, are you proposing that petrol doesn't drive a car?

And I said, that's correct. He got it, you know, he got it right away. He said, are you proposing that gas doesn't make a car go?

And I said, that's right, gas doesn't make a car go. You can have a car full of gas, and something will go wrong, you know? Like, if you don't have a seat in your mind for the car to go, it can be full of gas and you won't go.

And you can be a person who can't afford a car, and you can get everywhere you want to go if you have the right seat. You see, it's weird. It's a weird thing.

Like, I didn't have a car, I still don't have a car. I haven't had a car for 20 years. But I get everywhere, people drive me, you know?

People ask, people fight to drive me places, you know? And so, what I mean is, I like the group, the group that I was in, Floss's group. Floss and Eric did a really beautiful job.

But I like the group because they were right away talking about seeds. They got into the seeds right away. They got it right away.

So, you have to have the seed for something to work, or it doesn't work. Things don't work at all. Nothing works.

You have to appreciate that. You have to understand that. Because a lot of the frustration of your life, a lot of the unhappiness in your life, comes from things that were supposed to work and they're not working.

Like aspirin. You know, like a headache medicine. Like, this is supposed to work and it's not working.

Or somebody told you, invest money in the stock market. And then it didn't work, you know? And then everybody's asking, how do you get it to work?

How do you get stuff to work? You see? And that's the basic question you have to ask.

It's very, very, how do you say it? Every seminar you ever went to and every educational class you ever had told you something wrong. Everything you ever heard in your life was wrong, probably.

I'm guessing. Everything you were told to do in your life, to get something, is completely wrong. It has nothing to do with getting it.

It's very profound. Things don't work. Nothing works.

So we have the example of a stapler, which brings up another... I want to talk about what we call the diamond deal. The diamond deal.

So, okay, I had a vision that I should work in the diamond business. And it was eight years before I went to work in the diamonds. And I had this vision that I should be in...

I had to be in the diamond business. And I didn't know anything about diamonds. I never had anybody in my whole family in diamonds.

I don't like diamonds. I don't dislike them, I just don't care about them. But I had this knowledge that I should work in the diamond business.

So, you know, I got... I went to my local little town. I was two hours from New York at that time, living in a little Mongolian monastery.

So these are people, after World War II, they came to America. And they are Tibetan Buddhists. And when I was there, there were 15 old monks.

So I was the junior monk for eight years. And they were all like 70 and 80. They're all gone now.

None of them is left. And they were the last generation of monks. And so, you know, I went to the local town called Lakewood.

There was a jewelry store. And I went in and I said, I want to work. Can I get a job with you?

And they said, well, are your parents in the business? And I'm like, no. And they, well, did you take the gemological course?

Do you know anything about diamonds? I said, no. And then they would just throw me out.

I went to 30 different stores. One of the last stores I went to was, I walked in. I was standing near the counter.

And I was going to ask the guy for a job application. And this mother came in with her little daughter. And the daughter's looking at mommy and saying, is this going to hurt?

And she's saying, no, no, dear. It doesn't hurt. And then before I could ask for the application, the guy pulls out this big gun thing.

And he puts it on her ear. And then you hear this pop. And then she looks up at her mom in this accusatory look.

And then she just starts screaming. And then I was like, I can't do this. I didn't even take the application.

I just left. Then I went to New York. And I met this guy who was starting his diamond business.

So we did wholesale. On a good day, we sold 30,000 stones. We were processing 30,000 pieces of jewelry.

We were processing 300,000 stones a day, which means you have to look at a million stones a day. So we were checking a million stones a day. So there are lots of parts of the diamond business that I heard about, which I can tell you about.

But I wasn't in retail. But this is an old retail trick. You have two diamonds behind your counter.

And you always keep two diamonds there. They're both one carat. Because nobody wants half a carat.

Nobody wants 80% of a carat. Nobody wants 1.20. They always want one carat. So you keep two one-carat stones behind the counter.

One of them is yellow. And the other one has a big black spot in it. So then somebody comes in and says, I want to buy a diamond.

I'm getting engaged. And you pull out the yellow diamond. And you show them the yellow diamond.

And you say, this diamond is totally clear. There's not a single spot in this diamond. And they're looking at you.

And sooner or later, they say, yeah, but it's kind of yellow, isn't it? And you say, oh, you want a white diamond. OK.

You should have told me when you came in. Then you pull out the one with the big black spot in it, which is white. The stone is white.

And then there's a big hole in it, or there's a big black spot in it. And then you say, oh, well, this is a D color. This is a number one color.

And then they look at it for a while. And then before they can question you, you have these two diamonds right in their face. And you say, how do you want to pay for that?

Credit card or cash? They cheat you. Give them another choice right away.

Face them with another choice. So they're thinking because you're asking how to pay for it that they already committed to buying it. And then when you get the credit card or cash question, then you say, do you want that in a red box or a blue box?

And the trick is get them distracted with different decisions, like two decisions that people make after they bought it already. So then they forget that they didn't buy it already. And this is an old trick.

It's called the diamond deal trick. So I'm going to ask you. You ready?

I warned you, all right? Over on the left, you have a nice, red, kind of fashionable stapler. It kind of has a good color to it and a nice curve to it.

And then over there, you have the clunky one, the industrial stapler. But then the staplers are bigger. And once you get that baby into the thing you're stapling, it's going to stay there.

So it's not so cute, but it does the job. It really gets that thing stapled, OK? So which one do you want?

Which one do you want? She said. She said neither?

Why did you say neither? No, but suppose you need a stapler. So I'm here.

I didn't tell you I needed a stapler. You need a stapler. I'm sorry.

You need a stapler, OK? And I'm like pushing you. Which one do you want?

Which do you want? You have to staple something in the next two minutes or you're going to get fired from your job, OK? And which one?

Which one? The one on the left. The one on the left.

Anybody? Huh? Somebody said depends.

That's Lourdes' thing. Where's Lourdes? You're supposed to.

No. Who was that? Cat.

What's her name again? Cat. You're supposed to say what?

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It depends.

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It depends, OK? She's supposed to say it depends. It depends on what?

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On the thickness of what you have to do.

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Let's say it's the same thing.

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The seed of what you're, to show what you're attracted to.

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Which stapler, though, is going to work?

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Depends on what? Depends on what?

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What do you say? What's a hookah? What's a hookah?

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You have to use the one on the left. The one on the right.

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Suppose it's not like cardboard. Suppose you could use either one. Who said that?

Ah, you get a free dinner. Which you already paid for, OK? She said which ever one has staples.

OK? So they look good. Both of them look viable.

They both look like they would work OK. You know, both of them looks OK. But what really matters is which one has staples.

If they have staples, I don't care. I mean, give me either one. I can deal with either one.

If they don't have staples, what? They're not going to work. Life, every decision you make in your life is the same.

Every decision you make in your life is the same, you know? We had people, people in the first breakout group, which is not going to be the same tomorrow because you're going to hear what I'm about to say. You're not allowed to ask anymore, should I take the job with the bank that pays more money and has less value to society?

Or should I take the low-paying educational job? OK? That's a diamond deal.

OK? All the decisions you're trying to make in your life are false decisions. They are wrong.

OK? It's a bad, it's bad to, you know where those decisions come from, you want to know? The two channels.

OK? Your body is designed around those two channels. That's why you have two nostrils, two ears, two eyes.

OK? Your body is dualistic. Your body is divided into this or that.

And the question of this or that is a wrong question to ask. Don't ask this or that. OK?

Why? If it's loaded, either one will work. If it's not loaded, neither one will work.

Should I, OK, now let's test, OK? Should I take Advil or Excedrin when I have a headache? Well, they work.

I mean, I do take them. I take Excedrin. I take Advil sometimes.

Yeah, if you have the C, both of them will work. If you don't have a C, it doesn't matter which one you take. Got it?

So if you have the correct C in you, they'll both work. OK? So really what you want is, you want to learn how to make Cs.

I call it loading. You want to load what you do, like the loading of the stapler. OK?

You want to learn how to load the things that you do. Then you can do whatever you want. It doesn't matter.

You know, people say, should I go out to a club or should I go on the internet to find somebody? You know, I want to find a nice person. You know, which one should I do?

And then all of this conversation starts, right? All of this conversation. Your friends come to you with pros and cons.

Pros and cons come from this duality thing, OK? Your friends are telling you, yeah, but you know, if you go to a club, what kind of people hang out at clubs? But then again, David Swenson, my good friend, he met his wife at a club.

And she's beautiful. She's really, really beautiful. But then again, if you go online, you're going to meet someone who's on the computer all day.

They'll probably ignore you. But then my friend Ted Lemon met his wife Andrea online. They're happily married.

You know, you get into all these conversations, right? They don't mean anything. They don't matter at all.

All of the anxiety that you feel when you're trying to make a decision is useless. It doesn't matter. Almost all the anxiety of all human beings experienced during the day has nothing to do with making them happy.

It doesn't have anything. All the decisions you do, every decision you try to make is unnecessary. It doesn't help anything, okay?

Imagine if 95% of the thoughts that you had during the day were unnecessary. Just not... You didn't need to think about all those things.

All the worries you have in your life are unnecessary. What if someone could just tell you, here's one program you can use. Here's one system you can use for everything you need to do.

And then just use it, okay? And stop making decisions. No more decisions.

Then what would happen to your life? Is it possible that that could roll over into, like, happiness? You see?

Because you're not making decisions anymore. And I started to hear it in the breakout groups. People were asking flaws.

I forget. Should I do this? This person's bothering me at work.

There's somebody at work. My boss is... What did they say?

Domineering, chauvinistic boss. So I have this boss who's bothering me all the time. Should I talk to them?

Or should I try to be friends with them? Or should I try to get them fired? And I grew up with that.

We are four brothers. Me and my brothers. We are four brothers.

No girls, right? So I was studying this question early on in my life. My big brother punches me.

Then I have to think, should I try to make friends with him or should I just punch him? And there's the George Bush punching theory. Just punch back and they'll be so impressed that they won't do bad things to you anymore.

And then there's, I don't know, Jimmy Carter maybe. The Jimmy Carter theory. Just wait and see if the hostages get let go.

So these are two ways, right? Really. Being president is not easy.

People expect you to do something. So either you're going to get up and say, we're going to wait and see if they get let go. Or you get up and say, we're going to go in there and kick their butts.

And then with your brother, it's the same question. He's bigger than me. If I hit him, maybe he'll give up.

If I hit him, maybe he'll hit me back harder. You learn in a very early age that you can't know what's going to happen. You get in your car in the morning.

You don't know if you'll make it to work. You don't really know. You don't know if it will start.

I ask you, what starts your car? What starts the car? The key, right?

Can you start the car without the key? I mean, if you know how to hotwire. Yeah, you can start the car without the key.

It looks like the key starts the car. Is it possible to have the key and not have the car start? Yes.

Yeah. Okay, so we would say that means the key doesn't start the car. You see, we're talking, I don't know.

You should be like falling on the floor by now. We're talking something profound. We're talking keys don't start cars.

And we're talking light switches don't make the lights go on. It's that profound, okay? Those things, there's no cause and effect between the key and the car.

And there's no cause and effect between turning the switch and the light going on. Does the light go on every time you turn the switch? No.

Sometimes it doesn't, yeah? So, here's the bad part. You get used to that.

You get used to it. You learn to live with disappointment. With deep disappointment.

You try things that mostly used to work. Like a certain approach with your husband. Or you try a certain kind of aspirin.

Or anything else. You try something that you're in a business and you have a certain product that you used to make that always used to sell. And you make 10,000 of them and then they don't sell.

You see what I mean? And human beings get used to living in a world where sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. And then they call you a good person if you can cope.

If you can cope with the disappointments of life, you're considered a healthy, what do you call it? Mentally healthy person. And it's all wrong.

Everything is wrong. You don't have to cope. Because there's a way to make things work every time.

Okay, got it? I mean, stop thinking that success means being flexible enough to cope with bad things. Okay?

Stop thinking that success means being flexible enough to cope with stuff not happening the way you want it. Just make stuff happen every time. Okay?

We get up out of bed, right? I know depressed people. I know people who are really depressed, okay?

I knew a very wealthy person who was very depressed. One of the wealthiest people in the world. And she told me one day, she said, you know, some days I don't get out of bed.

I said, you're worth a billion dollars and you don't get out of bed. She says, yeah, some days I don't get out. I just sleep until the evening and then I stay in bed.

And I'm like, why? And she said, there's nothing I want. There's nothing I want to get out of bed for.

I just stay in bed, you know, and I don't get out. And then the rest of us, you know, you're laying in the bed, right? Whether you slept or not, okay?

A time comes when you're supposed to get out of bed, you know? And you lift a foot and you put it on the floor, okay? You touch the floor with your foot for the first time during the day.

Why? I had a Lama. He taught me.

My main Lama was Khen Rinpoche, right? But sometimes he would go to India. Then this Mongol, I had a Mongol Lama named Geshe Geldin.

He taught me, if you know Abhidharma, he taught me Abhidharma. But anyway, so one day my main Lama was gone and Geshe Geldin said, okay, we're going to have class. And he had tuberculosis.

He was a refugee, right? So he had his lung cut out, one lung was cut out. And he was like this all the time.

And then he said, come on. And I said, Geshe-la, we're supposed to study, you know? And he said, yeah, yeah, come on.

We're having our class. And he walks me down the street in Howell, New Jersey, and he walks me to Highway 9. This is a big highway.

This Mongolian slum is split by a major highway, which is so New Jersey, you know? And then we went down and he sat me down at the side of the highway and he said, sit down. And he says, watch.

He said, just watch. And we're like watching the cars go by. And I said, okay, Geshe-la.

After like 20 minutes, I'm like, are we going to go yet? He says, well, what do you see? And I said, well, lots of cars.

And he said, well, no, something else is going on here, something more profound. And I said, well, what? He said, well, what else do you see?

And I said, well, every car has at least one person in it. He said, yeah, you're getting there. Every car has one person in it.

But why are they driving? Why are they on the highway? Why is every car with one person driving it?

Why are they on the highway? You tell me. And I'm like, Geshe-la, we were supposed to be studying the realms of existence.

And we're sitting on Highway 9. I don't know. They're all going somewhere.

He said, you got it. They're all going somewhere. He said, why are they going somewhere?

I'm like, Geshe-la. You're supposed to be teaching me Tibetan. And he's like, why are they going somewhere?

I said, because they want something, Geshe-la. Every person in every car got in the car, started the car, and they got on the highway because they're going somewhere. Because they want something when they get there.

You see? Right? They want something.

They're going to park the car somewhere and they're going to get out and they're going to eat something or they're going to buy something or they're going to see their friend or something, right? Everybody in a car. You can practice tonight if you're in the hotel.

Just look at the highway. So then he said, you know what? And they don't know if they're going to get it, do they?

You see? Thousands of cars. Thousands and thousands of cars.

And they don't know if they're going to reach the place they're going to and they don't know if they're going to get what they want when they get there. And when you step out of bed in the morning the first step and your foot touches the ground it's because you want something today. You think something will happen today.

You're hoping, right? I say hoping, right? Maybe I'll, maybe I'll, you know maybe work will be interesting today.

Maybe I'll meet somebody new today, you know. Maybe I'll have a good yoga class, you know. Maybe...

You're hoping. At least you're hoping for breakfast, right? Your foot came out of the...

And it's all random. It's all guesswork. You don't know if you'll get what you want.

You don't know. You honestly don't know. And you live with that.

You got used to doing that. And you go through your whole life trying to get stuff and you don't know if you'll get it. You don't know if when you come back to your bed that night you got anything the whole day that you wanted, right?

And what the diamond cutter says is that that's not necessary anymore. You can have everything you want on purpose. You just plant the right seed.

Okay, got it? You don't have to question anymore. You don't have to worry about your supervisor anymore.

It's not useful anymore to think like that. If you have a... I saw it in the group, Floss' group and Anne's group.

By the end of the conversation everybody was dealing with it the same way. Somebody said, I have a manager working for me who's not really up to par. He's kind of mean and he's not doing things the way I want him to do it, right?

And then somebody else in the group said, they didn't say try to talk to him kindly. They didn't say threaten him with firing, right? Not really.

Those are the two choices. That's the yellow diamond, black diamond discussion, okay? Because why is he asking?

Why didn't he already fire the guy? Or why didn't he already talk to the guy? Because sometimes you talk to them and they get better.

And sometimes you talk to them and they get worse. And sometimes you fire them and the next guy is better. And sometimes you fire them and the next guy is worse, okay?

It doesn't work. You don't know if it's going to work, which is why you're asking the question. And you expect somebody to tell you?

You expect somebody you don't know to say, yeah, fire him, that will work. Or you expect somebody you don't know to say, yeah, talk to him, that will work. Because you know.

The reason you didn't do it yet, yourself, without asking anybody, is that you don't know it's going to work either way. And that's how we live. I get frustrated sometimes because I'm trying to communicate something.

We are living completely wrong. We are, I don't know how to say, we are like blind people. We are like blind people, you know?

Just learn how to plan a scene. No more discussions. No more decisions.

Your whole life just comes to you. You see? You plant the seeds on Monday.

And then on Friday, you sit in your room and you get an email. I had all these emails. I didn't know what they were.

Somebody's name, and then it says, PayPal. Your friend at PayPal. And I'm like, I know this person.

It says, Joe Glock from Kansas. Then it says, message from PayPal. And I'm like, I open it up.

And it says, Joe Glock from Kansas City just sent you $1,000. And I'm like, I don't know any Joe Glock. And what I'm saying is, if you know how to plan, I get these emails often.

You plant the proper seeds. And then you just relax. And no more struggle.

And no more fighting. And no more decisions. And no more anxiety.

What should I do? Just plant the seed. Then just, you know, go have some Cheerios or something.

Watch TV. Whatever you want to do. Because the thing will come to you.

It will just come to you. Because it's coming from you. It's coming from your mind.

So what I thought to do was, I'll tell you four ways to plant seeds faster. First, I'll tell you two principles. Anything you don't like.

So what did we decide to advise was, if you have a manager, who is, let's just say, for example, he's mean to the workers. I don't know what it is exactly. Let's say he's mean to the workers.

The reason you're seeing that, The reason you're seeing someone being mean, is that you're mean. The reason you see a person who is being mean to other people, is that you have that seed in yourself. Inside yourself.

Now, I'll give you a choice. I like to do this with my friends. Should you argue with him?

Should you be nice to him? Should you talk to him severely? Should you threaten him with his job?

Or should you try to reason with him? I love the reasoning one. Which one?

And then what's the answer? What is it Jesus said? See thyself as a diamond.

Look in yourself, and see what you're doing which is similar. Okay? Look in yourself.

First reaction of a diamond cutter manager. First reaction of a diamond cutter executive. To any problem, look at yourself.

Don't talk to anybody. Okay? This is, by the way, this one is talk to him reasonably.

This one is threaten him with his job. Which one? We started out today with, which one should you have?

Which one should you use? Load the stapler. Load the stapler.

Okay? Look. Look at the violence in your own heart.

Look at what you're doing. Some, by the way, it's usually smaller. Okay?

It's usually smaller. All right? You're not like threatening 30 people at work.

You're not screaming all day. But maybe in the back of your mind, you are complaining about somebody at work. Okay?

Stop it. Catch him in his mind and stop it. And then, guess what?

You don't have to talk to him at all. Okay? You don't have to say anything to him.

Forget the diamond deal question. You know what you should say to someone who offers you a yellow diamond and a black diamond? Hey, do you have a third one back there that's like white with no holes in it?

You know? You should ask for something else. Okay?

You should have to just ask for something else. Okay? If a person is abusing you, if a person, let's say, is criticizing you, don't stay awake at night thinking, should I get tough with them?

Should I stick up for my rights? Or should I try to become their friend? Don't stay up all night worrying about that stuff.

What should you worry about? Yeah. Think about, am I doing something similar?

Something smaller in my life? Because he's coming from your seeds. He's coming from the seeds in your own mind.

Okay, got it? If you didn't have the seed, you never would have met him. Okay, I have 800 people reporting to me directly in my company.

I have 10,000 workers, 800 in the building reporting to me, right? I cleaned out the place. I cleaned it out.

You know, I had some lazy people. I had some uncooperative people. I had this Thai lady from Thailand who swore everybody was out, hated her because they pointed their feet at her when they crossed their legs.

They hate me. I'm quitting. Tasneem comes to my office.

I'm quitting. She's my main common stone person. I'm like, you can't quit, Tasneem.

I need you. She says, no, I have to quit. I said, why?

Everybody hates me. She says, why? They point their feet at me.

When they cross their legs, they point their feet at me. I said, that's a Thailand thing. That's not an America thing.

They don't even know you care about that. You know, like that. I had all these problems.

I had 18 countries, right? We had offices in all these countries. I cleaned out 800 people.

There's a story. I don't know if you remember this story. I got hassled by the accounting department.

They said, people are clocking out in your department. People are clocking out at 9 o'clock at night. You know, there's time cards, right?

They said, your people are clocking out at 9 o'clock at night. I said, well, I wouldn't know because I always go home at 5. They said, well, look, here's the cards.

They say 9 o'clock. You've got to tell people not to. You've got to tell people to leave because we've got to pay overtime.

So, you know, time in the house. So, I had a big company meeting. I told all the workers, you know, we had a big meeting.

They're all standing around and I'm saying, okay, nobody can clock out after 5 o'clock anymore. And then I said that to everybody. Then, you know, I just went home at 5.

And then I come back like a week later. I get pulled into the accounting department, screamed at again, you know. They're still checking out, they're still clocking out at 9, you know.

So, I'm like going, I check the cards and they all, you know, a lot of them say 9 o'clock. And I'm like, because they close the building at 9 o'clock. It's like, we have, brings guards all surrounding the building, you know, from 9 p.m. on. So, then they come on at 9, we have to be out of the building. So, okay, I have another meeting. I say, okay, look, I told you, if you can't, you know, clock out late, if anybody clocks out after 5 o'clock, I'm not paying you, you know.

You won't get paid. You can clock out at 9, but you will get paid for 5, you know. That's all.

So, then the next week, I get called back to the accounting department, you know. More cards that say 9 o'clock, you know. I'm like, this is weird.

I said, don't pay them. They said, don't worry, we're not paying them, you know. And then I had another meeting, you know.

And I said, this is really bizarre, you know. Like, we had two meetings already. We're wasting time at all these meetings.

People are still clocking out at 9 o'clock. You understand you're not getting paid for it, you know. And they all said, we understand.

And we don't expect to get paid. We love this place, you know. We want to stay.

And we don't, you know, the fact that we have to go home at 9 is not so cool, you know. And we want to stay. And we'll work for free.

From 5 to 9, we'll work for free, okay. Because I cleaned out that apartment. It was like a little heaven, you know.

The sixth floor was like a little heaven. Just everybody loving everybody. And everybody happy.

And people didn't want to go home, you know. I have this one guy, he's Itzhak, you know. He's this one guy.

And I said, you know, Itzhak, don't you have a wife? Don't you have a family? Don't you want to go home?

He says, that's why I don't want to go home. And I'm like, you know. So what I mean is, you can clean out your life the way I cleaned out the 800 people.

You see, I didn't fire anybody. I fired one person. I mean, what's her name?

MP. Yeah, I mean, I had to fire her. But anyway, 799 people, just cool, you know.

You changed them. Yeah, you can, yeah. Why did you fire her?

Why did I fire, it was a her. She was domineering and chauvinistic. Anyway, I'm sorry.

Yeah, okay. I didn't have to fire her. I didn't have to fire her.

But it means you don't have to fire people anymore. You see? You changed them.

You can change them. Anybody. People often come to business in Asia.

I don't know if there's this thing in China where people don't feel comfortable to talk about their family in public, right? But for some reason, because we were from another country, just suddenly this floodgate opened up, you know, in the little discussion groups. And people were like, look, frankly, my husband is like this, and frankly, my wife does this.

And then, and we were like, you can change them, okay? You can just make a list of what you want. Okay?

Make a list of what you want. Make a list of what bothers you. Okay?

Whatever bothers you in another person, what? Stop doing it yourself. And without talking to them, and without any confrontation, and without any, what do you call it, dramas, they will change.

Or they will leave on their own. Okay? I always make a joke, they either leave, they change, or they have a hard time.

Anyway, they're out of your life. Okay? They will just leave your life.

You see? You force them out of your life by being a good person. Okay?

By not doing that thing yourself. And you never have to tell anybody. No announcements.

You don't go to your husband and say, you know, I went to the Diamond Cutter weekend, and I found out the reason you never hug me is that I don't show affection to... So, another person, okay? It doesn't have to be them, alright?

Got that? You got that, right? It could be that you show affection to your husband, but they don't show affection to you because you're not showing affection to somebody else.

Third party. So third parties count. Somebody in our group said that.

He did a good job. What's your name again? Yeah, Manny said that.

He said a very true thing, which I should repeat, okay? He said, the equation is throughout your life, okay? Like, maybe you're not showing affection to somebody at work, and that's why your husband isn't showing affection to you at home, in your two different worlds, okay?

So the two worlds overlap. Manny said, look, all your worlds overlap. Ultimately, as far as seeds go, your worlds overlap.

If there's something you don't like about your husband, if your husband doesn't show you enough affection, look in your life and see if there's someone that you aren't showing affection to that you should be showing affection to. I'm not saying the guy who wanted to take you out. All right?

Okay? Someone who deserved affection in your life, and you're not giving it to them. Then your husband will change.

And then people will reasonably say, I'm not as unaffectionate to anybody as my husband is to me. You know? He's big time unaffectionate.

I have a few unaffected things going on. Seeds get bigger. Seeds get bigger.

All seeds grow. That would be expected, okay? You should understand that.

It would be expected that what you're doing is less than what you're getting. Because seeds grow. All right?

So don't get screwed up on that. All right? There's somebody in your life that you're supposed to be paying some attention to that you're not.

And then pay that little attention to them, and then your husband will change big time. Okay? That's all.

Or they'll run off with some other lady, and an affectionate guy will come. That's movement. Anyway.

So that's one thing. That's for bad stuff. Okay?

That's for bad stuff. For good stuff, like what? Money.

Okay? If you want money, then offer it to somebody else. Make sure somebody else gets it.

All right? Find ways to make sure that somebody else gets it. Do you have to make sure that someone else gets a million dollars to get a million dollars back?

No. Why? Why?

Seeds grow. Seeds grow. It's one of the main laws of karma.

Seeds grow wildly. Seeds grow like crazy. You know?

We like to say, the Mamas say, don't pass up a chance to do a little good thing for anybody. If you get a chance to give somebody a cup of coffee, or if you get a chance to just, say, smile at somebody, take it. Right away, take it.

Every little chance you get, take it. Because those little seeds grow. They grow like a thousand times bigger.

In your mind, a seed grows a thousand times bigger. Every chance you get to do some little nice thing, grab it. Be like a gold digger.

You know? A karmic gold digger. You see a little chance to do something, do it.

Okay? Yeah? It's great.

Great question. Okay? It's a great question.

She said, by the way, just the teachers in the group, when someone asks you a question in a group, repeat it back so everybody can hear it. So she said, is it necessary to give money, to get money, or can you give something similar and get money? That relates to a question that John and I couldn't cover the other night.

It was a question I got. Somebody said, look, I don't have any money. I'm at my max, you know?

It's like my credit cards are maxed out. I'm just barely making my rent. How am I going to get more money?

Because I don't have more money to give, you know? You can give other things, okay? And it will result in money.

So you can give, the most obvious thing is time. You know, give your time. Give your time to others, and it will come back as financial.

Financially, okay? So yeah, you can give other things. You give what you have.

It's that thing in the Bible, the lady gave a penny, and then some other guy gave half of his bank account, and Jesus says, the lady who gave the penny gave more because that's all she had. So it's the same rule. You know, you give back, you can give similar things and get that, okay?

You don't have to go around hugging people at work to have your husband hug you, okay? Just be a little nice to people, you know? But consciously.

So I'm going to cover now four ways to plant seeds more effectively, okay? These are four ways to plant seeds more effectively. And let's do it together, okay?

I'm going to ask you to say the original. This is from the original book, okay? Say she.

Say she. Sampa. Jorwa.

Tartu. She. Sampa.

Jorwa. Tartu. She Sampa.

Jorwa Tartu. She Sampa Jorwa Tartu. Okay, good.

All right, that's not too bad. I guess Midwesterners have a better Tibetan accent than people in LA. Okay.

Okay, hang on. She. Okay, what does she mean?

She means the person you're doing the action towards. Okay, I want to plant a seed. I want my husband to be more affectionate, okay?

Just, I'm not asking for, you know, wild nights in bed. I just want him to hug me when I get home, you know? Like he just doesn't seem to be able to get it, you know?

I would like to have some more affection in my life. So you have to look at four, there's four ways to make the seed grow faster. There's four ways to plant a more powerful seed.

This gets into education, okay? This gets into education. You know people who give money to other people who are broke all the time.

And you know people who never give money to other people who have lots of money. Why? Because they don't know what they're doing, okay?

The people who are giving money, they don't know how to give it, okay? You have to know the technique. Generosity is like playing piano.

And it takes training to be generous well. And then money comes faster. And more money comes, okay?

And again, I was broke when I started the company. I had seven dollars. When I started the company, I had seven dollars in my pocket.

And now it's a quarter billion dollars, okay? Per year. So here's the four ways you can make things happen.

She means, who are you going to do it towards, okay? Who are you going to give the money to, alright? And there's different kinds of things that make the she more powerful.

There's different people who are more powerful, okay? If you give the same money to one person and the same money to another person, you'll get different results, alright? And you should know that, okay?

I'll give you maybe three criteria of who's more powerful. Who's the more powerful person to give the money to, okay? Number one is compelling need.

Like this person really needs it, okay? Like you have a friend who has a pretty good job. And you feel like having dinner.

And you just got back from this course. So you take them out to dinner and you have a nice dinner together and you say, I'm paying. You know, come on.

I mean, they didn't really need it that bad, okay? Give the money to someone who really needed it, alright? Don't be lazy.

And don't be so self-interested. I can also get half a dinner at a fancy restaurant, you know? Not like that.

Find someone who really, really needs the money, okay? By the way, that doesn't mean they can't be a rich person. I have a friend in New York City.

Every time I go to New York, I take him out to dinner. Why? He's the wealthiest person I know.

And he's super lonely. He doesn't have a single friend. Every person who ever connects with him is after his money.

Nobody will talk to him unless they're after his money, you see? So I go out to dinner with him and I always pay. Actually, we switch off, you know?

And I pay one night and then he pays one night. I take him to Domino's Pizza. And then he takes me to, what's it called, Charlie?

I don't know. It's in Central Park. It's the most expensive restaurant in New York.

He has a private tent inside the restaurant. They keep it empty for him, in case he comes, okay? And he takes me there.

Darlene's or something, I forget. Anyway, I took Mama Christy there once. And, you know, there's three waiters who stand there.

And they put a huge plate there with a little tiny thing in the middle. They come like 18 times, right? And then they explain to you, this is a turnip that came from France.

It was carried on a plane. We chopped it up with a golden knife. And then Mama Christy looks up and says, this is just French fries.

And then there's this. The whole restaurant gets quiet. Anyway.

So, sometimes the person in need is someone who has a lot of money. But they just don't have anyone who would ever take them out for dinner and not expect something, you see? So, someone in extreme need.

There's a sub-category to extreme need. No one else is likely to help them, okay? Like, if you are on the street, and there's a car accident, and there's already 14 people there, and there's a policeman standing there, you're not required to stop and try to fix the person's bone or something, okay?

Because there's already other people there who are actually more qualified than you. So you can, in your heart, you can say, I wish I could help them. See if anything is necessary.

Do what you can. But if you're on a lonely country road, and there's a car accident, and the person is sitting there with a broken arm, and there's no one else in 100 miles, you get more credit if you stop. Because it's need, and no one else is likely to help them right now.

So if you can find people who need, and no one else is interested in helping them, then that's more powerful. That's a more powerful sheet. Okay, there's another category.

This is someone who has helped you in the past. Someone who has helped you. And the classic example in the books is your father and your mother.

So any action done towards your father or your mother is much more powerful. Supporting your father or mother, helping them whenever you can, is much more powerful. Then only in America, only in America, somebody will raise their hand and say, I don't like my mother.

My mother never liked me. Or my father left us when I was six years old. And I don't like my father.

And he didn't help me much. Then I heard my Lama answer this question many times in an American audience. And he went off on this thing, look, carrying you for nine months is not so bad.

That was a pretty nice thing to do. Okay, you don't get along with your mother. Or your mother didn't help you after a certain age.

Or your father. But think about it. She carried you for nine months in extreme discomfort.

And then she risked her life to give you your life. Knowingly, she risked her life to give you your life. And then she, who taught you to speak the words?

You know, that's not such a bad deal that you can speak for your whole life. Who taught you? And who fed you?

Who taught you to walk? Who put your clothes on? Who taught you to tie your shoes?

My Lama was outraged that people would say that my mother wasn't so nice to me. So, however you feel about your parents, if you're in a position to help them, it's much more powerful. It's a much more powerful action.

Yeah. Yeah, if they're gone, then you lost that chance. You lost that chance.

Then you have to find a similar... Like, I like to... I have a woman who was my mother's friend.

My mother's best friend. Now she's 85. Last week I went to her house and worked the whole day.

I fixed her toilet. I fixed her stove. I fixed her door.

I fixed her stairs. And so find someone like that. Maybe it's a teacher that you had.

Someone who taught you, even in high school, or someone who taught you driving or something like that. That's a very powerful she. Someone who has taught you something is a very powerful she.

There's another one. What's the other one I'm not thinking of? Mmm...

What is that, huh? Teacher. Teacher, yeah.

I don't like to be a teacher because then it's like giving me money. Say again? Say again?

Oh, parent-in-law. Almost as good. Almost the same.

Yeah. Almost the same. The only thing about having parent-in-law, mother-in-law, father-in-law, is there's a rule of karma.

There's a karma rule that says once you are married, the money is shit. The money is shit. So you have to get permission of your partner to give money away.

You know? You shouldn't like be sneaky and take money from your bank account and offer it. It's a dirty gift.

It's a dirty karma. It will come back to you weird somehow. You see what I mean?

So when you give, it should be your money. If you're married and the money is shared, you should ask your partner before you give the money. See what I mean?

And there's another rule like that. What's that? People ask me, can I borrow money to be generous?

You see what I mean? What if I'm running out my credit card? That's okay.

That's your money, right? As long as you pay it back according to the rules of the credit card, it's okay to use credit. In the way that it's okay to buy a house, with a mortgage, if you make a commitment and you pay it, then that's okay.

But it's not okay to like give away money and then declare bankruptcy because then you're stealing it. And stolen money, making a gift of stolen things is a bad, it's a negative thing. You'll lose more money in the future.

Okay? So if you don't have money, give time. But don't like swipe money and try to offer it to someone.

Okay? Like that. So that's...

Oh, I know what it is. Yeah. It's giving...

Let's say I have a choice. Let's say I know a doctor who's... I know doctors in India.

Okay? And they are serving poor villages. Right?

So... Or Haiti. I have a friend in Haiti right now.

Lisa Shrug just got back from Haiti. So she did a clinic in Haiti. She went to Haiti and she did a clinic.

Right? She has a clinic going in Haiti. So I have a choice.

My friend, Jackie Gatol, who's from Haiti, he's a nice Tibetan mom from Haiti, he called me and says, my grandfather needs money. And then Lisa called me and said, I'm going to treat people in Haiti. I need airfare.

So I'm like, if I can only give money to one or the other, which should I give money for? One person who's going to be treated or a person who can treat hundreds of people.

[Говорящий 2]
You see?

[Говорящий 1]
I only have so much money. I don't have money to give both. Then give it to the doctor.

You see? Give it to the person who's going to be helpful to many other people. Then you multiply your gift.

You see? Then the gift multiplies. So you're already getting the feeling.

What I tell people is, by the end of the weekend, I would suggest, if you can, set a percentage. Call it 2%. Call it 5%.

Call it 10% of your income. In the Muslim tradition, it's called zakat, right? I like it.

It's one of the four pillars of Islam. It's a very, very, very good system. Zakat means, is it 10%?

3%. Something like 3%. But any true follower of Islam, by tradition, sets aside 3% of their income for the poor.

So, what I would say, 3%, 5%, 10%, doesn't matter. I like 10% personally. From tomorrow, from Monday, any money that comes to you, set aside 10%.

Set aside 5%. People ask me, by the way, this gets into, I'll skip to Jorah, okay? Jorah is number 3.

I'm going to do number 3 before number 2. Okay? Number 3 is, how do you do it?

How do you do the giving? How do you do the giving? You have a choice, you see.

You can write a check to United Way and put it in the mail and you get one seed in your mind. Okay? You, you, there's these brokers, charity brokers called United Way.

Okay? And you don't have to know where it's going. You trust them.

They're pretty responsible people. They only take 60% off the top for administration. And, but at least you know the 40 is going.

You know it's not a bad deal in charity business, you know? So you say, I'll write a check to United Way. I don't know exactly who it's going to get to, but it's alright.

And you write a check and you just put it in the mail. You get one seed. Okay?

You get one seed. What I tell people is, make your own foundation. Okay?

I did that. It's, you know, you can name it after your mom or your dog or it doesn't matter. Anything.

Call it, my dog's name was George when I was growing up. So it's a George Foundation. And then I put my 5%.

Every time I get a paycheck, put 5%, put 10%. By the way, in Dean, my company grew because I put 50%. I'm not asking you to do that because you're, I want you to see it work first.

Then you can build up. Okay? I put, personally, in my company, I put 50% of my income.

But I'm not asking that. I'm asking you for 5. The 3 is the cut.

Or 10, you know. Do something. And make your own foundation.

You don't have to wait for United Way. You know? Now, here's the trick.

Okay? Collect the money for 6 months. Okay?

Collect the money for 6 months. My suggestion is, don't put in more than 5 or 10%. Never put in more than 5 or 10.

But never put in less. Okay? Anytime you get money, make a line, but never break the line.

It's like exercise, right? I will do it every day, half hour. I don't want you to do yoga for 2 hours.

And I don't want you to skip a day. I want half an hour every day. Okay?

5%, every time you get any money. Any money that comes to you, a gift, a salary, dividends, 5%, 3%. Doesn't matter, 1%.

But make it every time. And don't do more. And don't do less.

So then, don't give the money away for 6 months. And put it in a separate bank account. Okay?

Have a separate bank account. Where you can't get your little fingers in there when you have a bad week with your credit card. Okay?

It's in a separate bank account. Like, make it hard to get to it when you're having a weak moment. Alright?

Now, during the 6 months, every day, fantasize about who you're going to give the money to. Okay? Just, just sit there and think, who can I give this money to?

And who needs the money? He told me I should look for somebody who really needs it. You know?

You know what's going to happen? You're going to start reading the newspaper more. You're going to start looking on the news more.

On your walk to work, you're going to notice 3 people you can give money to. I was in Taipei. And they put me in an apartment.

Jeffrey Tso's father's apartment. So I was in this little apartment. I was there to give training to some companies in Taipei.

And then I would walk to the subway. On the way to the subway, I would go down this street. And it's all storefronts.

And it's all child care. Child care centers. Because people in Taipei work like 16 hour days, 18 hour days.

So they just, on the way to work, they drop, it's like a strip mall. You know? It's like putting your kid in a strip mall.

And it's a dirty little storefront. And they open the door and they put the kid in there and they keep walking. Then there's a TV there.

There's just a TV there. And some water. And one adult there.

And they watch TV all day. They just put them on the floor. And you walk.

It's like walking past a pet shop. You know the feeling you get at a pet shop where they're all like crawling out the window. Please touch me.

Please. Just tap on the glass. And the kids are just looking at people go by.

There's this TV blaring in the background. And they look so sad. They just look really sad.

So I passed like five of those. And then I get to one and there's this teacher teaching them to dance. And they're learning to sing.

And they're learning alphabet. And like one teacher out of ten cares. And every day I walk past she's doing something different.

And she's like, the kids are singing or the kids are learning something or the kids are playing a game. And there's no TV. And I'm like, I like that place.

So if you're doing the zakat, if you're doing the 3% or the 5% or whatever you decide to do, it's going to be so cool because you'll walk past this place and you'll say, I know where I'm going to give my money. You know? I know who's going to give my six months money.

I had a check cut every six months of my money by John Esposito, right? I had a check cut every six months. And then you walk past.

See, you're not limited anymore to United Way. You can give your money anywhere you want. And I walked in there one day with an envelope full of money.

And I just gave it to the lady. And I can't speak Chinese. And I just said, you know.

I just walked out. Like that. You don't need a receipt.

They don't need to know your name. There's no self-interest involved. You're going to get rich anyway, right?

And then you just give it. And you feel so happy. I mean, I'm not just talking that you get rich.

You don't know what it's like to be happy all the time that someone's living with your money. It's really happy. I went to a store in Manhattan at midnight from John Brady's house.

And I went to buy some fruit because I like fruit in the morning. So I got back from the talk. It was like midnight.

I had walked all over the Upper East Side looking for a grocery store. Nothing open. Finally, I found one open.

I go in. And there's two ladies behind the counter. They're Asian ladies.

And then I get my fruit. And I put it on the counter. And she's ringing it up.

And she turns to the other lady. And she says something in Tibetan. And then I'm like, wow.

And I'm just playing with them. I said, oh, where are you from? They said, we're Tibetan.

I said, oh, that's nice. Are you from Tibet? They said, no, no.

We're refugees. We came from refugees. We're one of the refugees from Tibet.

And I said, oh, that's interesting. So where did you come from? And they said, India.

We lived in India. So I said, well, what town are you from? They said, you've never heard of it.

In your life, you've never heard of it. It's a little village in South India. I said, just tell me.

And they said, Hunsur. So I said, oh, Hunsur. And then I said, which is where we do one of our refugee projects.

So we're teaching people computers in the refugee camps. And that's our biggest center. And so I'm like, well, how did you get to the US?

Because visas are hard to come by. How did you get a green card? They said, well, in our village, there's this computer project.

And this really nice American guy, he built this big center. The Dalai Lama came and opened it. And then we have computers there.

Every woman in the village knows how to open up a computer, fix it, program it. They can do all this database stuff. So we got jobs at the embassy.

And then we got a green card. And we came to the United States. And I'm like, wow, that's really cool.

Did you ever meet this guy? He said, no, I never did. And then I just left.

I just left. And you will feel like that all the time. You will feel happy all the time.

Because you know there's people like that running around. So just start your own little foundation and give the money yourself. Because the other thing is, when you give the money yourself, when we started our projects, we would go to the refugee camp.

And we would interview the people. And then we would work on the architecture of the buildings. And we would get diarrhea with all the other refugees.

You know what I mean? We would live in the refugee camp. And we would eat their food.

And we would get sick with them. And we would see their babies die. And we would be there.

So the other thing is, get your hands dirty. As much as you can, give the help personally. Don't write a check and put it in the mail.

What happens with the seeds when you're thinking for six months who you're going to give the money to? Because that's the fun. That's really fun.

You're going to see some TV show. They're going to talk about somebody having some problems somewhere. And you're going to send them a $100 check anonymously.

So you can sit there and watch TV. And you're having all this fun. Every time you think about who you're going to give the money to, you get that many seeds as giving the money itself.

Got it? Every time you think carefully about who you're going to give the money to, how you're going to give the money, you get the same seeds you get from giving the money. Okay?

It's the same. So what's better? Write a check to United Way on June 1st or hold the money until January 1st and think about who you're going to give it to.

And every time you walk past the daycare center, you're thinking, I could give it to them. Or every time you see a TV show about somebody who needs money, you say, I could give it to them. It's so much more powerful.

One more thing. Our company, it was the fastest growing manufacturing company in the history of New York City. Okay?

Why? Because we knew these tricks. These are tricks.

Give a check, you get one seed. Think about it for six months, you get thousands and thousands of seeds. Instead of getting $1 a month, you get $10,000, $20,000, like that.

Our company doubled every year, which was weird. Because that means you have to buy a new building every two years. You know?

Like that. It was weird. It was really cool.

Okay? Yeah? In the nicest way, raising money for your project, which is going to go toward these causes.

[Говорящий 2]
Yeah. I mean, without, you know, pandering to people.

[Говорящий 1]
Yeah. He said, what's the seed that comes from raising money? You start a little, like, foundation or a charity, right?

Could you also, like, go out and try to find more money for it? I did. Yeah.

I did. I spent a lot of time at the God Box. You know the God Box?

God Box is on, what's it, the west side? It's on the, what's the highway on the west side of Manhattan? West side highway.

Oh, hi. Anyway, on the west side highway up near Columbia, there's the Council of Churches for, like, 20 American churches, like United Church of Christ and the Catholic Church, and they have a huge skyscraper, and they share it. In New York, they call it the God Box.

And I used to spend a lot of time there. Like, I would go to the fourth floor and ask the Unitarians for $10,000 for a well, and then I would skip down to the second floor and ask the Catholics for, you know. And, yeah.

And you get a lot of the seeds from that. Let me check the time. We have about 10 minutes before our break.

Okay? We did two of the four ways to speed up. We did number one, which was who you're going to give the money to.

We did number three, which is how you're going to do it. We didn't do number two, and we didn't do number four. Okay?

We're going to do that. Let's do that. Let's do those two after the break.

But are there any questions that come up in your mind? The lady in the back.

[Говорящий 2]
So, all I need to do when it seems to help more people is to think about helping more people?

[Говорящий 1]
That's a good question. Geshe Michael said that keeping the money for six months is better than giving it away on the first day. Because every time you consider who you're going to give the money to, you get the same seeds as if you gave the money.

So she came back with an interesting question. Can I just consider giving the money and not get the money? If it's the same seeds, right?

You just anticipated a number. It's one of the numbers. You get a lot of credit for intention.

We'll talk to it after. You get a lot of credit for intention. You get a lot of seeds for intention.

Let's say you put the money in some stocks. And you say, after six months I'm going to give it away. And then the company falls in the fifth month.

And you lose all the money. But you've already been... It was your honest intention to give away the money.

You get about 80%. Really, you get about 80%. Because the intention is almost everything.

The intention is almost everything. That said, you still have to follow through. If you have the means to follow through and you don't follow through, I don't think you get the 80%.

I wouldn't say you get the 80%. If the company didn't collapse, but you just decided you'd rather have a speedboat, then the seeds that you collected before, I don't think they have much power. They don't have much power.

Because there's a lot of spiritual people, you know, and it's a danger for all of us. You talk a good talk. And then you don't really go down to the kitchen, the soup kitchen, and stand there for the whole day.

Like I'm in Detroit. I have invitations to the prison outside of Phoenix. I haven't had time to get there yet.

And my teacher, one of my heart teachers said, they grabbed me the other day and they said, look, it's pretty glamorous to do all those talks everywhere, isn't it? And I said, yeah. I saw you on TV in Saigon, and you were on Yahoo, front page Yahoo, and it's a pretty glamorous thing you're doing.

And I said, yeah. And he said, what about that prison that asked you to come? And I'm like, well, I didn't have time.

So a lot of it is sooner or later you're going to have to do something and really do something. It's one thing to get up and talk, especially those of you who end up working for DCI, which all of you are invited. You can work for us.

You can go around the world with a glamorous job, have fun turning people's minds on and seeing them make a billion dollars or something. Anybody, we're very interested. If you have any desire, let us know.

And the people who are here with the blue name tags on, they were sitting in an audience somewhere, and I grabbed them. So there's a story behind each person. I can tell you where each of them came.

He came from, what is it, Pittsburgh or something? Some dumb talk in a living room in Pittsburgh. And stuff like that.

There's a story behind each person. Think about it. This is like the coolest seed planting you can do.

To teach people about seeds is like the coolest seed planting you can do. And anybody can do it. And I would take anybody.

If you're really serious, you can learn and you can do it. You don't have to go anywhere. You can do it in wherever you are.

But you can learn. Everybody can learn. Another question.

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What if somebody is sincerely desperate and needy?

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Yeah, okay. She gave the example of somebody who is in desperate financial problems, but it's because they either are spending irresponsibly or they are unwilling to go get a real job. You're like, are you in huge debt?

They say, yeah. You know, let me see your credit card. You know, I have mine right here.

Let me see your credit card list. Let me see how you're spending your money. And they're like, you know, going to Bloomingdale's and spending $1,000 on clothes.

And then you say, you know, do you think you might want to get a job next week? And they're like, yeah, I've really been thinking about that. And then they never seem to do anything.

So, yeah. I have a policy in my giving. I remember a guy gave me $10,000 of stocks.

And he said, I'll give this for your project. At that time I was doing medical assistance in South India near Mysore in Karnataka State. And I sold the stocks the next day.

I took $10,000 in cash to Mysore village, to a small village. And I made an announcement. Anyone who can bring me a bill for medicine or a doctor's treatment that's no older than six months, I will pay it for you today.

And then there was this huge line formed, like a thousand people. And we just spent, it was cool. I mean, it was fun.

We had a huge box of cash. Because $1 is 50 rupees, right? So you look 50 times richer than you are.

I was giving away half a million. You see what I mean? Not 10,000.

And then I gave away half a million in one day. And my hands were sore. And we finished.

We collected all their bills. We had a special stamp in case they brought it back again. And then at the end of the day, the money was gone.

And really, I just helped people for about a week, you know? Then later, I got onto this idea of training them to make their own business. You see?

So then, like with the ladies in the villages, the Tibetan refugee women, we don't give them money. We never give away money anymore. They have to work for it.

Actually, I started the project in monasteries, in several major monasteries, like Serat, Jebu, Ganden, Dashen Rinpoche, Sakya. I started it in five, six monasteries. They were too lazy to work, you know?

They said, just give us the money. I said, I'm talking typing in your ancient books. I'm talking saving your culture.

I'll pay you to save your culture. You know, and they were like, no, just give us the money. And I stopped.

I closed all of them, except only one is still open, you know? And then I went to the women in the villages and I said, I'll train you, and I'll feed your families, but you have to work, you know? You have to learn the job, and you have to come and work, you know?

And then, that's been going 23 years. And they are dynamite. They are so good, you know?

They work hard. Their kids stay with them, you know? They have a daycare in the center.

They're not allowed to work past certain hours. They have to stop every hour and a half, take a break, you know, like that. But they're doing really well.

So what I would say, my experience is, it takes a lot of skill to give money away. And give money to people who will work for it. You see what I mean?

Because then you empower them. And when you give people money, and you don't make them improve themselves, then they just get worse. They get lazier, you know?

So, it's more work for you. But that's more seeds, you see? Then you get more seeds.

It's more work to monitor someone's work than it is to just hand them the money and leave, you know? But in this way, you improve them. And they are so confident.

And they are so cool, the ladies. They run their own centers now. I don't do anything.

They send me the data, I send them a check. You know, I don't have to go so much anymore. They run everything, you see?

They have a pride in what they're doing, you see? I'll ask you one more question, and then we'll stop for the break. What would be the kindest thing to do to those women?

I mean, it's one thing to give them cash and say, this is for food for your family this week. And then they don't work. Or, you say, I'll set up a factory, a data entry project in your camp.

You come to work five, six, seven hours a day. And you work. Is there a better thing to do?

Yeah, teach them what I'm telling you right now. You see? Give them some extra money.

Say, you design some grants for other women in the village. The women who can't type. The women who don't want to learn, you know?

The women who need to do something else. You design a charity. I'll pay.

I'll fund the charity. You run a project that gives opportunities to other women in the village, you see? Then they're doing what I'm doing.

Then they're planting seeds for themselves, you see? Then they can fire me later, OK? Because they know how to plant their own seeds.

Charity level number one, feed somebody. Charity level number two, let them work for it. Charity level, highest charity level, teach them about seeds.

Give them an opportunity to give opportunities to someone else. And then they go wild, you know? Then it goes wild.

So think about that. That's the highest kind of giving. Then you're kind of spreading this virus, OK?

This very cool virus, OK? We'll take like a 10, 15 minute break. I'll be up here.

I'll sit here if you want to come. Again, the same rules of engagement. Please remember there's people behind you who also would like to ask a question.

And if you've already asked one question, maybe let someone else come up, OK? All right? So I'll be here.

You can always ask any question to some of the staff. So I'd like to ask, you know, maybe some of the staff can come up to the stage and sit on other sides. And if people want to come up and ask a question.

So have a nice break, and we'll see you in 10, 15 minutes. OK, we'll start. We're continuing on the four ways to make a seed stronger, try to make it stronger, make it more powerful.

We finished number, it's really number one and three that I put up there. I'd like to do number two now, OK? That's sampah.

Say sampah. OK. Sampah means state of mind, your state of mind, OK?

When you do the giving, what is your state of mind, OK? You know, and I studied this in the monastery for many years. And sampah has three parts of its own, OK?

Inside of sampah are kulon, dushe, and yomo, OK? So I'll talk about the first one. Inside of number two, inside of your state of mind is your motivation or your intentions, OK?

So what are your intentions? You know, what do you want to happen? I think with the intention, something that's very important to look at is do you have a true desire to help this person, OK?

Because even when you're generous, there can be a lot of other motivations going on, right? And I know, I, look at that. My mom was dying.

She came to see me in India when I was studying there. And I was bragging to her about how all the charity work I was doing, you know. One day she told me in the room, she was dying, right?

And she said, look, you've got this thing going on. You've got a hell of a thing. You're like Mr. Big Shot around here, you know?

Like, everybody's like, oh, Mr. Roach this, and Mr. Roach that, because you pay for everything, you know? And you've got to have a reality check. You know, why are you doing all this?

Are you sure you're not just, like, enjoying the status of being the donor who runs the refugee camp? And I'm, look, I'm in the refugee camp. I've got diarrhea, you know?

And she said, yeah, but you kind of, it seems to me you're kind of enjoying everyone's admiration of you, you know? And she was right, and it's still true. But no, I don't have her there to give me a reality check.

So the motivation, it's very hard to have a motivation which is pure, you know? To say, I really want to help you. I really, really want to help you.

I think a very, very important thing to talk about at this moment is something that people always raise. Same question, OK? Why are you doing this, Michael?

What are you talking about right now? Motivation, intention. What kind of intention are you telling us we should have?

You should want to help these people. And the intention shouldn't be watered down with other intentions, like wanting people's admiration or, you know, recognition, OK? But guess what, Michael?

Why are we having this seminar? Why are you talking about planting seeds? Oh, because I want you to make money.

Ah, there's a little bit of a problem here, you know? We're having this seminar. You're teaching us how to be generous so we can get money.

And then you're telling us we should have a pure motivation, you know? Isn't that a bit of a problem there? You're telling us, be generous to others because it will come back to you, you know?

Then you just made all our generosity self-interested, you know? You just corrupted all our generosity. I used to give people money because they needed it.

Now I'm giving people money because I'm going to get something back. There's a problem there, OK? And this is something we have to talk about, OK?

If we don't talk about it, then I think the whole Dyeing Colors seminar is not so good, you know? I'm just corrupting you, OK? So understand this thing.

You want the deeper version or you want the easier version? You want the deeper version, OK. Here we go.

I'm giving you the deeper version, OK? That's pretty tough. I'll give you the deeper version.

I'll try, OK? And then I'll do it again tonight, OK? So Deborah needs some money, OK?

And I have money. Let's say it's not the case, Let's say I need money, OK? Let's say I need money so I find a person to give money to, OK?

Someone who's helped me in the past, many times, OK? So I decide I'll give the money to Deborah because I know the money will come back to me, right? So I want to, I'm trying to help myself, right?

I'm trying to get money for myself. But I can't get money unless I give the money to her. You understand?

Michael can't get money unless Deborah gets money. That's the nature of money. And anything I want in my life, I must provide it first to someone else.

That's the rule. That's the way life works. That's the way seeds work.

Anything I want, I must first provide it to someone else. That's just the way reality is. That's the only rule of reality, pretty much, OK?

So Michael can only get money if Deborah gets money, right? Michael, how do you define me? And how does me differ from you?

What's the difference between me and you? What makes us different people? And I'll tell you.

There's an argument in the scriptures, you know? If you take a needle and you poke it into this, across this line, that's me. The person that goes out is me.

Got it? This is in Tibetan. You want to know what me is?

Me is the person who says, ouch, when you stick a pin in there. Got it? That's a pretty easy definition, right?

OK? Whosoever is hurt or helped by an action, right, personally, is you. That's who you are.

If I take a needle and stick it in her arm, I may feel empathy. I may feel sympathy. I may be able to relate to her.

I may almost feel the pain. But not the way she does. Not exactly the way she does.

And that's what makes her you. OK? That's the difference between me and you.

When I do something to help that line of skin or hurt that line of skin, then if it hurts her or helps her, that's her. And if it hurts me, that's me. That's how we check what's me or you.

OK? Now, if I can't get something good, unless I do something good for her, then she is Michael. She is me.

OK? Got it? I'm not helping another person.

There's this Buddhist idea called exchanging yourself with others. You pretend you're Deborah sitting on a chair. Instead of going to get the coffee that Geshe Michael likes, you go and get tea because you know she likes it better.

That's called considering someone else as well... treating someone else as well as you treat yourself. OK?

That's a Christian, a basic Christian principle. I shall treat others as well as I treat myself. There's a higher version of that.

There's a more radical version of that. Unless I help her, I can't do anything. Therefore, she is Michael.

It's not that I should treat her as if she were Michael. It's not that I should treat her as if she were Michael. It's not that I should treat her with the similar concern to the way I treat myself.

She is Michael. Because when I help her, Michael is helped. So she is me.

OK? We are each other. OK?

And you can't do an act of charity without helping yourself. It's not possible. OK?

You cannot help another person without helping yourself. They are you. OK?

That's so profound, you know? So it's not selfish. I mean, any time you help anyone, you're helping yourself.

Because they are you. OK? I laid that on your head, OK?

I gave you that thought. I gave you that to work on. You need to digest it.

OK? What if that became common knowledge? You see?

What if that became... What if people really believed that, you know? Then what would happen?

It'd be kind of a weird world. No, no, no. I'd have to play her songs all the time.

I don't like reggae that much. Anyway. So, if you want the more version that you can tell people who can't handle this version, OK?

You can say, When I help her, when I give my money to her, I know I'm going to get more money back. When I get more money back, I'll take more money and help another person. Most people can handle that.

People who can't digest the first thing I said can digest the second thing I said. So when you become a DCI teacher, either officially or unofficially, then tell people that. If they can't handle the higher thing, you can go drop down to the lower thing.

Look, I know it sounds selfish to give her money because I'm going to get money back. But it ain't selfish because I'm going to take the money I get back and I'm going to help another person. And then people are like, OK, Geshe Michael, you're not selfish.

The Dalai Lama calls it enlightened self-interest. Who's the self is the question. That's another thing.

OK, so that covers motivation. One of my dearest teachers, who just passed away, who was a college professor, he used to say, what is the goal of human endeavor? And then we were supposed to answer, to help humanity, to help all humanity.

And then he used to look me in the eye and he'd say, and you're one of them. You're also one of humanity. You don't have to think that any kindness should only be done to others and shouldn't be done to yourself.

It's not healthy to think, I will only serve others and I won't serve this guy who's got my pants on right now. He also needs love and attention and stuff. He's also one of the suffering members of humankind.

It's OK to serve him also. Just don't be so selfish and serve only him. Serve him equally to the others.

We tend to either extreme. We either serve ourselves only and ignore others or we get into this, what do you call it, mom-martyr thing and we only take care of the children and we ignore the fact that we need to sleep or either go out and take a yoga class or something. So don't be, Buddhism is called middle way, right?

Do the middle way. Don't just do everything for others and ignore your own health, your mental and physical health. And then don't just ignore others and take care of yourself only.

Take care of everybody and you're one of the everybody. That's another way to answer it. So that's motivation.

Motivation of all action. Before you take an action, before you teach a class, before you have a conversation, before you do anything, think to yourself, how can I help somebody? How will this help somebody?

And that will also change how you teach. Sometimes you teach something because it will look cool. You know, hey, I can teach you the, you know, look what I can do.

And then you're not really thinking what the other person needs. So in any situation, in any interaction with another person, the first thought should be, how can I help them? How can I really help them?

Whether they know it or not. And even if they fight me. And even if they criticize me.

And even if they attack me, I will serve them. That's what it comes down to, in the end. Due to karmic forces, you know.

Really nice people tend to get nailed up on things. Okay. Alright.

So that's kunmong. Dushye is easy, okay. Dushye means, that's the number two part of state of mind.

Which is number two of the four. This is very monkly. Monk loves this like this, okay.

Dushye means, do you have a correct perception of the situation? Do you have a correct perception of the situation? Okay.

For example, a person comes up to you on the street and asks you for money. Okay. And then they look a little strung out.

Okay. And you refuse. You say, seems to me they're just going to buy alcohol or something.

And you could have questioned them a bit. You could have stopped, talked to them for a few minutes, say, why do you need money? You know, if you ever go to bus stations or train stations, there's always people like, God, I'm just $1.48 short, you know. And out of my wallet, I got some tonic yesterday. And how many times have you said, you know, BS, go away, you know. And it's possible that they're telling the truth.

Okay. Perhaps if you were a more generous person, you would pause. And you would say, tell me how it happened.

You know, maybe I can give you a ride. You know, because maybe 1 in 10 are real. They really did lose their wallet, or something like that.

So, douxer means, do you judge the situation correctly?

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Okay.

[Говорящий 1]
If you, for example, I'll say the opposite way. I have an alumnus, Geshe Lothar, right? He was very adamant that you should not, never give money to someone who's going to buy alcohol.

Because you'll hurt them. Okay. So if you have a reasonable, reasonably sure that they're going to use the money to buy alcohol, he would say, if you don't stop and question them, what are you going to use the money for?

Why do you smell like alcohol? Normally, we just walk on, right? But he said, stop, ask them, find out.

If you give money to a person with a perception of the situation that they are in true need, and it turns out later that they were buying alcohol or drugs or something like that, you commit a negative, you make a negative seat. You are making a negative seat. If you have the capacity to, what do you call it, assess the situation, and you don't, and you give money, you don't get the seats.

Okay. If you make a mistake about what's really going on, and you give money, you don't get a seat. Okay, got it?

That's why you have to stop, assess the need properly. A lot of times it's just laziness. You don't feel like talking to this person, so you give them a buck anyway, okay?

But if you're going to be a good diamond cutter giver, stop, pause, ask them, what's going on in your life? Why are you on the street? Is it true on your sign that you're homeless from Akron, Ohio?

You know, and talk to them, and make sure you know the seat. Okay? In both ways.

You have to know the seat properly. That's number two of state of mind. Number three of state of mind is the strength of your emotion.

The strength of your emotion. Okay? So it's one thing to kind of throw a dollar at somebody, and you don't, you know, you just got out of diamond cutter giving class, and you know, for like 23 hours you're going to be generous, and you know, somebody asks you for a dollar, and you just, you give it to them.

They're obviously homeless, right? We had a person came up to the window of the car, that's for money, recently. Then you just kind of stuff the dollar out, and you try to go as fast as you can.

There's no kind of connection with the person. You're not like, what do you call it? You're not empathizing with the person.

You know? It's not fun to stand out in an intersection in the exhaust fumes all day, and approach windows of cars, and ask them for money, and have 90% of them like give you this look like they hate you. You know, I was in LA, I went to the beach.

It was like early in the morning. I parked in this thing where you have to put coins in the fish, and I didn't have any coins. You know, so I like took a dollar out of my, I was, I was walking up to people and saying, do you have any change?

You know? And I got this, this look, you know? People looked at me like I was dangerous.

You know, first it was like I was dangerous, you know, and then it was like this look of disgust. You know, like don't talk to me, you know? And then I realized they thought I was asking for money.

I was just asking for change to the dollar, you know? And then I realized that's how it feels to be asking for money. And then these people are out in the intersection, in the exhaust fumes all day, in the sun, going up to a window and asking for money.

So sometimes I think, God, even if they're going to use it for drugs, it's so miserable not to have anyone smile at you the whole day. To have everybody look out of their window and make a face at you and, you know, hate you for asking. Then I, sometimes I give it anyway.

You see what I mean? So that's emotion. The emotion of the giving should be one of great love.

You know? But for the grace of God, well, you know, I would be there. You're not so far away from that.

You know, it's not, we look at the third world, right? We say, oh, poor Africa, or poor China, or whatever. In your lifetime, the factories in this city could become Chinese sweatshops.

I'm telling you that. In your lifetime, or your children's lifetime, they could be working in factories in Detroit, owned by Chinese, and the same conditions that we encourage in other countries. It could happen.

It's not such a... It has happened to every empire that ever existed. You know?

And we're very close to that. We're closer than you imagine. Okay?

Extremely powerful. There are more gold reserves in Hong Kong alone than in North America. Okay?

In just a few banks in Hong Kong, there's more real wealth than in American Canada. Okay? And I've been there, I know.

I go there several times a year. And, you know... So, there's a joke in my company, in my business, which was, be nice to people on the way out, because you'll meet them again on the way down.

You know, you fire some middle manager under you, and they end up becoming the vice president of another company, and then you lose your job, and you're over there asking them for a job. And so, have some empathy for the people you're being generous to. You could be there, you know, life is weird, and you could be there, and then you could be depending on them.

Have some human love and sympathy for every needy person on the planet, because you could be there in a year. You know? Just know that, you know?

They didn't get there because they wanted to be there. They're not poor in Nogales because they want to be there. The country has a problem.

It's an economic problem. It can happen to any country. So, be kind to everyone who has two legs and two arms.

Even if they have four legs, be kind to them. Okay? We're all the same.

We're all the same people. I was so afraid the first time I went to China, because I grew up in the Tibetan refugee camps. I grew up with people who had been tortured, you know?

My friends had broken shoulders. Their arms were tied behind their back and they were strung up and they'd break your collarbones, you know? So I had friends like that.

Burns all over their body. You know, so I'm like, oh, I'm scared to go to China, you know? And then I went to China.

And I've been going every year now for five years. Guess what? They have two legs, two arms.

They also have kids. They also want to be happy. And most of them have nothing to do with the government's stuff.

You know what I mean? They're just nice people and everybody's the same. So, the last part of state of mind is as you give, give with respect and give with love and give with some kind of brotherly feeling.

Because we're all in need. And if we're not nice to the people, people come to me all the time and say, you know, we're in a class, and they say, this person's dumb. I don't want this person on the tour with me, but this person's dumb.

Or this person's irritable. Or this person can't get their act together. And I say, well, how do you think we look to our teachers?

You know? It's a food chain. Each level looks dumb to the level above, you know?

We also look dumb to somebody. You know? Be nice to people who can't get their act together because to a lot of people, that's how you look.

There are higher people, always there's levels, you know? So be, be, what do you call it? Have some sympathy for everybody.

Okay, that's number two. We covered number two. To repeat, there's intention, which is 90% of all C's.

Okay? 90% of all C's. Spend a lot of time thinking about what you're gonna get.

You know, don't short yourself. You can use the same money and get more credit for it. Just think more about it.

Who knows? Try to assess out the situation accurately. Have a correct assessment of the situation, number two.

That's 2A, 2B. And then 2C was have some heartfelt feeling. Give it some real feeling.

Have some real love for the person. Don't just throw some money at them and drive off. You know, pause.

Talk to them. Realize that it could have been used anyway. And have some real brotherly feeling for them.

Okay, that's number two. Okay, now we got one more to go and then you get to have dinner, I guess. Yeah.

So I'll tell you what, I can finish this thing in about 10 minutes and then we'll do 10 minutes of questions, okay? So think about any questions you have. By the way, if you're on staff, two requests.

One, please wear your name badge. Number two, if you see things that could be done better, start taking key notes, okay? And even if you're participating in this seminar, please make a little list of paper somewhere about things you think could have done better.

And people on staff, we're going to have a debrief tomorrow evening, right? So start keeping your list now of stuff that didn't go so well and that we can improve next time, okay? All right, we're up to number four.

We did Shi, we did Sampa, we did Jogwa, and now we're going to do Tartug, okay? Tartug means the wrap-up, okay? As John would call it, debrief, right?

Tartug is the wrap-up, okay? This means a couple of things. You can say there's two ideas in Tartug.

One is, follow through to the end. I mean, let's say, Geshe Michael goes to a refugee camp and says, I'm going to build you a building, and then I'm going to put 23 computers in it, and we're going to hire all the ladies who can't get a job, you know? And then you build the building and you lose interest.

Then you don't have Tartug, okay? You didn't finish the job. Okay, so Tartug means the seed is much, much, much more powerful if you finish the job.

You know, make a commitment. By the way, make a modest commitment. Make a commitment that you can finish, because then the seed is more powerful.

If you're like me, your commitments are too wild. You know, you say, okay, I'll start three bank house loan centers in downtown Detroit by next week, you know? And then you don't really ever do it, you know?

I'm very good at that, okay? So that's not Tartug. I didn't have Tartug.

So whatever giving you choose to do, follow through to the end. Stick with the person. In a business context, one of the most powerful kinds of giving you can do is to help another person with their business, okay?

So if you're interested in starting a business and you want your business to be successful, I had a guy, Thomas Moreno. You might have his photo there, I think. He's in Argentina.

He's in Buenos Aires. He wanted to start a reinsurance business. He worked for January, which is a very big billions of dollars reinsurance company.

So he wanted to start his own company. So he came to me in Argentina. He said, Geshe-la, I want to start a, what do you call it?

A land investment company in southern Argentina. He said, I want to start a company. And I can't get cash, you know?

Nobody's helping me with capital. So I said, you help somebody else with their business, okay? So he went to the barrio, right?

He went to the poor people's section of town. There was one woman, which is Carola, those of you who know her. She's starting a yoga center for poor people and for poor kids, a dance and yoga center in the poor area of Buenos Aires.

So he went to her and he said, I will help you. And I said, Thomas, you can't just give a check. He said, I'll just write a check, okay, Geshe-la?

I said, no, no, you don't understand. You have to go with a hammer. And you have to nail the boards, you know?

And you have to paint the center. And you have to make sure the kids are safe and they can get there. And you have to do all the detail work.

You can't just give her a check. So this beautiful thing happened, you know? He went there.

He helped build the yoga center with his own hands. So two beautiful things happened to him. One, they got married, okay?

Then the second one, he did buy some land. And then he came home, he came to his office one day. There's a check for $3 million on his table, on his desk.

And the land sold in six weeks. And he didn't offer the land for sale. The guy offered him $3 million.

He got a $2 million profit immediately, like that. He started his company, and by the time he finished buying his land, he sold it. And he made millions of dollars.

So I like his story. He followed through. He worked with her until the place was done.

You know? And he made sure it was painted, that everything was, the boards were up, the doors were up, the kids were getting there. And he did everything.

He taught her, okay? He taught her. Now, last thing, okay?

This is the most powerful one of all, okay? If you want to know the way to get a lot of success fast, and powerful, and easy, this is the McDonald's of mental seeds, okay? This is the fast food of mental seeds.

You ready? I used to go home, you know, I worked in Manhattan. So I lived in a monastery in New Jersey.

The whole town was Mongolian refugees from World War II. But the Dalai Lama had put a very high Lama there as his representative, so I studied with him. I lived with him for 23 years or something.

And so I had to go two hours into Manhattan, bus and then subway, and then work for maybe 10 hours and then two hours back, right? On the bus, two hours. And I memorized the Abhidharmakosha.

I did the whole Abhidharmakosha. But anyway, so, by the time I got home, I was wiped out. I was just wiped out.

A lot of times I got off the bus, my chest hurt, you know? I thought, oh, you're going to have a heart attack tonight. And these are the early years of the company, right?

And then I would come home and I would drag myself to the monastery, you know, and I'd drag myself. My Lama was upstairs, and he had an interesting way of learning English. He was 60 when he started his English, okay?

And he decided he would learn English from television. And then he got interested in the Yankees, baseball. So he learned, his English was learned from Yankees baseball shows, right?

So I would drag myself up to his room, you know, exhausted, you know? And then he would be watching Yankees, you know? And so all his teaching that he gave later in his life, it's all like, today we're going to have a doubleheader.

I'm going to hit a home run. If there's any rookies in the audience, you know, let me know. And his whole family, you know, his baseball family was really cute.

It was all Tibetan Lama, you know? So, I would go up there, and I would plop down, and just want to, I'd say, let me watch the TV with you today, and he'd be like, go make me a tea. You know, and I'd come back with a tea, and then he'd say, go make me some popcorn, you know?

I'd go make him some popcorn and come back. And then I'd just be sitting there exhausted, and then he'd say, I just want to zone out, you know? I don't want to think about anything.

I just want to watch, what's his name? Mookie Wilson. Well, he was nuts.

That's a guy, I don't remember him now. No, the other one. Anyway, in the...

Darryl Strawberry. Yeah, who won the playoffs. But anyway, so, I was just zoning out, and then he's like, he'd like lean over, and say, did you do your meditation today?

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You know?

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And I'm like, Rinpoche, I just got done with 14 hours of work, you know? And, you know, I'm sending all the money to the monastery and to the refugees, you know? Cut me some slack already.

You know? And he said, okay, look, he said, at least you can do coffee meditation. You know, I'm like, I'm like, Rinpoche wants a coffee meditation.

You know, he said, okay, I'll teach him coffee meditation. He said, go lay down on my couch. He had this really beautiful couch that one of his students bought, Art Engel bought him this handmade couch, you know?

Nobody ever sat on it. Because it was Rinpoche's couch, you know? Even Rinpoche didn't sit on it.

This beautiful, beautiful couch. He said, go lay down on the couch. I'm like, Rinpoche, I know I'm not supposed to lay down on your couch.

He said, I'm ordering you to lay down on my couch, okay? So I go over and lay down on the couch, you know? And then he says, we had this little one called Jamba, right?

This Tibetan guy. He said, Jamba, go get him a coffee. So Jamba runs down and makes a coffee and comes back with a coffee, you know?

And then Rinpoche says, okay, prop your head up and drink the coffee. This is coffee meditation, you know? I'm like, what am I supposed to meditate about?

He says, oh, yeah, I forgot about that. He's like, today, did you do anything good for anybody? You know?

Did you, did you do anything good for anybody? In the whole day, did you have a good thought? Did you say something nice?

Did you do anything nice, okay? And then I'd say, yeah, I did some good things. You know, if you really concentrate, you can find a few, right?

So I, he'd say, just think about the good things you did today. And every time you remember one, you get that much seeds again. Got it?

You, you, you get the same seed that you got from, if you were at work and you said something nice to somebody at work, if you remember it, and if you're happy about it, okay? Because sometimes you get irritated that you were nice, right? So if you rejoice that you did something to help somebody else, you get more seeds, okay?

It's as, it's as many seeds as you got in the first place. So you can see how an uneducated monk could make a quarter billion dollar company with just this. With just this, you see?

I go home and I lay down on his couch with the Yankees. I still need to watch the Yankees. I mean, if, if Darryl Strawberry hits a home run, I still get to rejoice in that.

So I'm drinking coffee and I'm laying down on the couch. I'm watching TV and I'm, part of my mind is thinking about good stuff I did. Oh, I'm, I'm doing that thing in the refugee camp.

That's a good thing. I, after the fact, after the whole thing was done, after I already sent the money, after they're already using the computers, if I sit on the couch and think, I did a good thing, I get more seeds, equal seeds, again. Okay, we talked about extra seeds by planning the, the crime, the virtue crime, right?

And now I'm talking about extra seeds afterwards, like six months later, a year later, ten years later. Just think, I did a good thing. You know, I, I helped somebody.

That puts another seed in your mind for money. Okay? I'm teaching you how to make it work fast.

The, the problem with normal giving is that if you don't know these tricks, it doesn't come back fast enough for you to see a connection. You see what I mean? You're nice to somebody and then eight months later something nice happens to you.

Then, then you, you can't recognize the connection, you see? If you know all these tricks, the thing happens faster. Then you get encouraged, you see?

You say, oh yeah, Tuesday I gave some money, Friday I got some money back, I see the connection. Okay? If the time gap shortens, you start to see the connection and then you get more excited and then you do more stuff.

Got it? So, to be happy about what you did before, which you can do in your car, you can do on the toilet, you can do as you go to bed, your, your head's on the pillow already, just think about some cool stuff you did and then you get the same seeds again, the same seeds come back again. Okay, last, last thing.

It's the 10% trick. Okay, ready? Here's the 10% trick.

Rinpoche taught me another thing, my teacher taught me another thing. I was like halfway through a coffee meditation one night, I think it was like the sixth inning. I think it was pretty, pretty close to night that Bill Buckner let the ball go through his legs and the Mets won that.

That was Rinpoche, by the way, he was doing a mantra at that moment. I swear, I'm not kidding. And they let the worst team in history win the World Series.

Check it out. Because he liked them. But anyway, I'm halfway through a meditation one night on his couch, drinking his coffee, eating popcorn, watching the Yankees, the Mets against the Pirates.

And he turns to me and he says, by the way, there's another Thai food you can do. There's a, there's step two. I'll teach you step two coffee meditation.

I'm like, what? And he says, it's the 10% meditation. And I'm like, okay, well, teach me the 10% meditation.

He says, there's a rule of karma that instead of just being happy about what you did yourself, if you rejoice in what someone else is doing, you get 10% of their seats. By the way, it doesn't come out of their seats, okay? It's not like theirs drops to 90 and yours goes to 10, okay?

They still get 100% and then you get 10% of their seats, you know? So I'm like, okay, Rinpoche. Yeah, I have a friend at work who made a donation for some charity and it was $100.

And I'll think about him during the meditation and then I'll get credit for $10. And he looks at me and he says, he says, don't think small change, man. Don't think small.

This is in Tibetan. In Tibetan, it's namkara pangre. He says, in Tibetan, it's don't fail to jump across the sky when you could have.

He says, come on, like, jump across the sky, you know? Don't think small change. Jump across the sky.

He said, is that the best you can do? You know? Just some guy gave 100 bucks.

What about the dharma? He says, what about the dharma? He just helped like 10 million people, 20 million people, you know?

You will never talk to a million people in your life. If you're just happy about what some incredible person, doesn't have to be dharma, it could be anybody, okay? If you're happy, consciously, purposely, think about the good stuff that a big person is doing.

You get 10%. It's like you just finished talking to a million people, which you'll never do in your life, no matter how many Detroits you go to, right? He said, pick the big time.

Go for the big time, you know? Think of it. And it doesn't have to be a person who's alive.

You could think about Mother Teresa. You know? You could think about Gandhiji.

You know? You could think about any great person and be happy about the goodness that they did, and you get 10%. You know?

Then you do it again the next night, you get 10%. Okay? So, it's called, sometimes it's called 10% meditation.

Sometimes it's called Yiran. Yiran means, be happy about the good stuff that other people are doing. Just be happy.

Low risk, low investment, high yield, karmic seeds. A very, very good strategy. Extremely good strategy.

Maybe that's, what happens then is you start thinking about all the people at work, and you're thinking about all the good things they did, instead of thinking about what they said to you today. And then that in itself is a big progress. Right?

Normally we go home, we're tired. When you're tired, your mind is, your mind is more vulnerable. Your mind is more vulnerable to negative thoughts when you're tired.

So normally you go home and you start to think about people who cheated you today, or people who said something bad to you. If you can't sleep, the mind is extremely vulnerable during the sleeping hours to negative thoughts. You wake up, the world is different.

But in, you know, from 11 p.m. to 3 a.m., we say the mind is extremely vulnerable to negative thoughts. So, instead of going to bed, thinking, because you're tired, thinking about what the karate manager did today, the one last straw the karate manager did today, instead of that, you're doing this coffee meditation. And you're thinking, who, who did I see do something good today?

And so instead of going to bed thinking about the people who said something bad to you, you go to bed thinking about people who did good stuff today. You get, A, you get 10% of their C's. B, you go to bed with a happy state of mind.

And then you get a good sleep. And it's a nice way to go to bed. So think about that.

Just, it's a nice way to go off to sleep. Alright, we have about 10 minutes for any, if you have any questions, we can do that. Yeah?

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I have a question about if we are the ones recording what we're doing, then why is it that if we are in good faith and with good intention, in great generosity, helping someone, and then they turn around and go bankrupt? Like, how is it that if we're recording it, we would still get bad C's if they...

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Okay, good. It's a very, very good question. I call it the bugs on the lawn question.

Alright? Buddhist monks are required to keep a custom called Yarné. Yarné means the summer retreat, where we normally monks should spend the summer indoors, meditating.

They should do a retreat. I do it still. I do it every summer.

Just on my own, you know. And then I asked my teacher one day, I said, why is Yarné in the summer? What's the meaning of that?

He said, bugs. You know, there's more bugs in the summer. And when you wander around outside, you kill more.

You kill more bugs, you know. Just walking across the lawn, you kill thousands of creatures, living creatures. So I said, well, we can't really avoid walking around.

He said, that's not the point. We kill... When you drive a car, you kill creatures, many small creatures by accident.

It's one thing to kill them by accident. It's another thing to kill them when you could have avoided it. You see what I mean?

It's one thing to kill an animal for their flesh, for their fur, or their flesh, their meat. It's another thing to hit a cat on the road by accident. One is avoidable, one is not avoidable.

So we... So I posed a question to my teacher. I said, if I walk across the lawn, and I'm killing all these creatures, but I never see them and I'm not aware of it, how can there be any recording?

I think that's your question, right? How can I have a scene in my mind because I'm not aware that they are dying. I never see the grasshopper die.

I'm just looking at my friend and I'm walking across the lawn. So then he said, peripheral awareness. He called it peripheral awareness.

Meaning, if I ask you, whenever you walk across a lawn in the summer, is it likely that you are killing something? You'll say, probably. I mean, I don't stop and look in the grass and see if I killed any bugs, but yeah.

I mean, probably I'm killing someone. So he would say, you have a sight awareness that probably you're injuring somebody. Same thing with the person that you give money and it turns out they're doing crap.

You are aware, as you give them money, of some odds that they are doing crap. Maybe you're 5% guess that maybe they're doing crap. To that extent, you get a negative C.

That's all. Especially if you could have paused and assessed the situation more carefully. That's all.

If you're in a rush and you get it because there's no other choice, you either give or you don't give because you've got to get on the train or it's going to leave, then you don't collect a negative C. It's a failure of assessment. The issue is do you fail to assess, to take the time to assess when you could have.

That's all.

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How do seeds know about time? Like, you plant something, when you put attention in very strongly, it comes up faster. There's no attention.

I know seeds are not what they're being, but how does it know about time?

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She said, how does the seed know about time? I mean, you do an action. You study these four.

And you give your money with total education, which I say will make you successful. And that's why you see people who give money and don't get anything back because it happens to a long time later. Or you see people who are creepy and they get rich.

I say, if you follow these four guidelines, your good deeds will come back fast. What she asked, Stacy asked again, the thing she asked was, how do the seeds know to come up faster? You know?

Like, I know they're not living creatures, but who decides? I mean, who's running the return? I like to call it the airplanes in a line at the runway question.

This is the airplanes in line on the runway question, alright? So, you have had countless thoughts. Every thought you've ever had planted a seed in your mind.

We say, the Buddha said, you have 64 mini thoughts per second. The mind is capable of having 64 minor impressions in a time of a finger snap. That many recordings are made in your mind every second.

64 discrete images are recorded in the mind per second. Multiply that times the seconds you've lived. And that's how many seeds are in your mind.

So who runs the show? Those seeds are like airplanes on a runway. I worked it out one time.

It's like 9 billion or something. You know, a normal person who's 40 years old already has 9 billion seeds in queue in the line, okay? So, you know, in a normal airport, some people get to go up in front.

I heard a story, Bill Clinton wanted to get a haircut. Did you hear that story? He was at some, I don't know, Kansas City airport and his president number one, jet number one, what do you call it?

Air Force One was on the runway and he decides to get a haircut. So there's a law that nobody, plane can take off as long as Air Force One is on the main runway. And so he went and got a haircut.

And then hundreds of people's planes were canceled because nobody could, you know, fly. So somebody made a decision. Air Force One can go in front of all other planes.

They have to all wait, okay? Carnage seed management is the same. You have billions of seeds in your heart.

You have billions of seeds in your subconscious. Who decides which one comes up first? And can you change the priority?

Can you FedEx? Can you say the good stuff I did after I went to the Diamond Cutter Seminar should ripen first? And maybe all the other stuff could just not ripen.

I mean, that's what you would want, right? All the stuff in high school should be forgiven. And then all those intelligent seeds I made after going to that seminar, they should go up to the front of the queue.

How do those seeds know, Stacy's asking, that they get to go first? How do you decide which seeds go first? If you follow these guidelines, there will be a reprioritization of the traffic.

The seeds which are planted with awareness, the seeds which are planted by an educated person ride to the front. They get to go up to the front. In practice, what happens is the other seeds never get a chance to come.

You know, there's just Air Force Ones keep going in front. And then everybody else has to wait. And, you know, they never get to come up to the front.

All those booboos you made in high school remain in the back of your subconscious. And they never get to ripen. So, in the end, it's understanding what's going on that gives the seed its timing.

The extent to which you understand what's going on determines the timing of the seed. So that's your answer. Timing of the seed is determined by the amount of understanding you have.

If you don't know what's going on, and you're generous, if you just come to the first ten minutes of one of these talks, and you go home and give away all your money, you'll make a small seed. It will be in the back of the line. It will take off the runway in like 12 years, you know?

And then you're going to forget why it's happening. Somebody said today they got a windfall. I like the word windfall.

Windfall means unexpected large amount of money happening to me. They'll see some windfall, and they won't connect it to something they did before because it will be 12 years later. And then they won't be able to repeat it.

And then they'll spend the windfall money, and then they'll be back where they were. Okay, got it? So the timing is determined by the level, the degree to which you understand what you're doing.

Say again? Ah, I wish. She said, do the good seeds kill the bad seeds?

What I'm describing is they delay the bad seeds. They delay the bad seeds. But I think what we'll do tonight, okay, we'll stop here, but tonight I have to tell you how to stop old bad seeds, okay?

Everybody made mistakes in their life. I made some big mistakes in my life, earlier, before I understood these things. So we all have some mistakes we make, before.

And they are very serious because they're getting bigger. They're getting bigger. A small mistake made towards someone, hitting someone, will come back as a car accident.

You see what I mean? Because they grow, things grow. So we have to understand how can you destroy the old seeds.

We have two jobs. Make new seeds which are good, and destroy the old seeds which are bad. So we'll do that tonight.

How's that? Okay? All right.