«Дар освобождения», курс 44 «Искра радости», занятие 4

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If the pot is very hot, and then you reach out and you grab the pot and you get burned, then only a very stupid person will yell at the pot, you are a bad pot, you burn me, like that. Only a stupid person will yell at the pot. In the same way, that person who gets angry at another person who hurt them is stupid.

Got it? The people who hurt you are like the cooking pot. Who made the cooking pot hot?

You made the cooking pot hot. If you want to get upset, you can get upset at yourself. Those of you who study DCI, we use this in DCI.

What's the other part of this example? Hmm. Yeah, a person grabs the pot and it's hot, it's burned their hand, and they're like, I hate you, I hate you, ah, I hate you, ah, I hate you, ah.

Stupid, just open your hand and let go. They say, oh, the pot burned me. Okay, just let go of the pot.

Then we are like that, oh, he hurt me, he hurt me. Okay, just get out of the house, go to the coffee shop, avoid this person. Don't hold the hot thing and, oh, it hurts so much.

Shut up, let go. Don't keep whining about it. ME RANG BZHIN TSAR ZHING SRED PA LTAR SEMS CAN GOS RANG GI RANG BZHIN YIN NA ME SRED TSE ME LA MI MTHO BA LTAR KUN It is the nature of fire to burn you.

Fire cannot help fire's nature. You cannot complain to the fire and say, I want you to be ice cream. That is not the nature of fire.

Fire's nature is to burn something. Then don't blame the fire that it burned you. You are the stupid person who holds the fire.

Let go of the fire. Don't yell at the fire. The fire has to burn people.

Listen, after 71.9 years of life, I will tell you some deep Buddhist truth. Stupid people are stupid people. And they will hurt you.

You are stupid if you stay near them. If you keep holding on to that, and they keep burning you, and you keep holding on to that, then it's not their fault. It's your fault.

Just get out of the house. Go someplace else. When I have a bad day in my business, my diamond business, 19 years commuting four hours on the bus every day, when I have a bad day, I have a bad time with somebody, I just go to the bathroom.

And go in the special seat and talk to future Buddha Mike. Don't stay with angry people. Don't live with angry people.

Just avoid them. Don't hurt yourself. Let go of the fire.

Don't get angry at them. Then you create more. In Buddhism, if you get angry at the people who hurt you, you create more people who hurt you.

So it doesn't help. It doesn't help to fight with anybody. Never.

Just get out of the room. Go someplace else. Go sit in the toilet and talk to future Buddha Mike, or future Buddha Bill, or whoever it is.

Okay? Cool? All right.

,'KHOR BA'I RANG BZHIN YIN NA, ,'CHOG MI RIG MOD KYANG, ,'KHOR BA'I LO BUR DU CHUNG BA YIN PAS, ,CHOG NYAM NA Okay. Listen, I understand that it's the nature of fire to burn me. I understand that.

But this person, especially asshole today, I understand his nature is fire. I understand he's going to hurt me. But it seems like he's making a special effort to hurt me.

,'O NA NAM KHA LA ZER CHUNG BA NA, ,NAM KHA LA CHOG RIG PA DER ,CHOG DON MED PA BZHIN YIN PAS, ,CHOG MI RIG ZER Here's the word ZER BA. Okay? And you kind of know what it is, some of you.

You probably know. Yeah, hail. Okay?

The ice that falls from the sky. It's called hail.

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Yeah, ZER MED means... You know the old expression? Yeah, then I wouldn't have to mention it.

Okay.

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,GZHAN GYIS SDUG BSDAG DANG, ,SIG NYEN MED PA SOGS KYI, ,LUD SEMS LA MI DE BA'I SDUG BSNGAL BYUNG NA, ,LA RANG NGAN LOGS LEN STE, ,NGAN SEMS MI SDUG BSNGAL GYI RGYUR MI, ,DUS PAR GONG DROG NYIN POS BSTAN CHING, ,ZER PAR CHE DGOS PA LA CHUN BYUNG LAS Okay. If somebody hurts you, if someone hits you, if someone says bad things to you and causes you suffering, and then you, as an answer, you hurt them back, or you say also a bad thing to them. Someone calls you stupid, and you say, I'm not stupid, you're stupid.

That's a cause to take a bad rebirth. After you die, that's a specific cause to go to the hell realms. Geshe-la, I don't believe in the hell realms.

Okay, I'll see you there. You want a cute story? This is why you have grandpa to teach you.

So my teacher taught in two places. He taught in New York area, and he taught in Washington DC area. He had a small group there.

I was his driver, so I always go with him. I always take him down there. And he went down, he went there for, we went there together for over 20 years, like once a month.

He'd go down and teach for four or five days. And I'm the driver. And he taught them for many years, this book.

And then he said, because we finished this book, I'm willing to teach you some secret teaching. He said, because we finished the book, I'm willing to teach you some Diamond Way teaching. You understand what I'm saying?

So actually, we will finish this book, then I'm unemployed. Maybe I have to retire. No.

So next year, I'd like to teach you some Diamond Way teaching, if you want. And there are many good teachers that I taught for many years. 20 years, 30 years.

John, Connie, Gyelse, Upala, Kat. I taught these people Diamond Way for many years. I taught them 14-year Diamond Way course.

Seven-year preparation, seven-year Diamond Way course. And I told them at that time, I'm not teaching it again. You teach it.

And I kept that promise. I didn't teach it since then. And they teach it.

And I asked them to continue. And I'm very happy that they are teaching. And they are teaching it good.

They are doing a good job. I don't need to teach it. They are teaching the deep, correct, 30,000 pages translation that Grandpa taught.

And I encourage you to take that kind of teaching. But if you also want to do some relaxed Diamond Way with Grandpa, like your real Grandpa, then we can do it together next year. But please continue to do the...

If you're a serious person, please continue to do the Diamond Way with my students who teach. That's the... So that's the smart thing to do.

Do the deep Diamond Way course. The real course is 14 years. Seven years preparation, seven years course.

But if you just want to have fun with Grandpa and do some Diamond Way, let's do it next year. Okay? Agree?

All right. Okay. And Tim will arrange everything.

Tim and his staff, he disappeared. They'll arrange everything. Where is Tim?

He disappeared. See? Always give your students work when they are not there.

Yeah, okay. Now, the real story. So I'm the driver for my teacher.

He went down to his small group in Washington, D.C. for 30 years or something. And then he taught them Diamond Way. And you have to take some initiation.

And you have to take the vows. You have to promise to keep the vows. There are some vows, promises you have to make.

And then... So he announced he's going to teach the vow. He's going to give the vow.

And we went down to a special lady's house. She's a rich lady. She's actually a professor at a university in Washington.

And she said, come to my house. And we can do the vows at my house. And so we went there.

I remember we were cooking before the ceremony. And she told me, I want to say something to the teacher. And I said, okay, what do you want to say?

I'm his translator. But Geshe-la, he speaks English. I translate his English into English.

Okay? So I have to be there. Then she said to him...

By the way, he started to learn English when he was almost my age. So it's unbelievable he learned English. But sometimes he needs some help.

So she said, please tell teacher I want to give him my house. Tonight. Before the ceremony.

And I translate. I'm like... She wants to give you...

It's a beautiful house. Expensive. Very expensive.

North Virginia. This is close to some big government places. Anyway.

So he's like... Then I finally... He understood.

And he said, no. And I'm like... And he's like, no.

He's like, no, I don't want it. I won't take your house. You keep your house.

Then I was like... Because at that time, just at that trip, our car is so old it broke down and it blew up. And there was a big fire in the highway.

And I'm like... And he's like... Let it go.

I'm like, okay. We were very poor at that time. And I'm like, okay, that's all right.

Then she said, we cook some more. And then she said, can I ask another question? He said, yeah, you can ask.

She said, tonight you will give a Diamond Way commitment, Diamond Way vows. And he said, yes. And she said, I heard that if you break your Diamond Way commitments, you go directly to hell realm.

You spend a long time in hell. He said, that's correct. Then she said, I don't think I want to take the vow.

Then he said, oh, no, no, don't worry. You're going to hell anyway. Then she's like, what?

He said, you're going to hell anyway. All of you are going to hell. And she's like, well, what?

Then he said, take the vow. Break the vow. Then when you get to the hell, and you guys are in the fire together, and you're talking, what did you do to go to hell?

I killed 10 people. What did you do to go to hell? I stole my parents' money.

What did you do to go to hell? I took initiation. Diamond Way.

I'm here because I did Diamond Way wrong. Then you can be proud. You're the best person in the hell.

Just kidding. Why did I say that? You cannot fight all the bad people in the world.

It's not possible. By the way, you have a responsibility. If someone is hurting somebody else, it's your responsibility to help.

We have a refugee from Ukraine. Me and my wife support several. It's very expensive, and it's very difficult.

But if someone's in trouble, if someone's really suffering, we have responsibility to help them. If someone's hurting another person, we have responsibility to help that person. We must help that person.

But we don't have responsibility to hurt anybody. We do not have responsibility to hurt another person. That's crazy.

That's not Buddhism. Understand? Different thing.

,GSOS PAR BYED DGOS PAR DRIN GZHUGS LAS, Then he quotes Shantideva. ,LTAR DE SDUG BSNGAL DE TZAM LANG, ,BDAG GIS GSOS PAR MI NUS NANG, ,DE LA NYAL BA'I SDUG BSNGAL RGYUD, ,THO BA CI DE SDOGS MI BYED If you cannot be peaceful with an angry person, if you say, look Geshe-la, I agree. Someone hurt you.

You shouldn't hurt them. I agree. But this one person is too much.

By the way, everybody has a too much person. Geshe-la, generally I agree. Someone hurt you.

You shouldn't hurt them. But this person I have, they are different. Everyone in the world thinks they are different.

No, you don't understand, Lama. I have the worst husband in the world. No, you don't understand.

I met 1,000 worst husbands in the world already. It's not true. Anyway, here it says, try to understand, either you can try to be pleasant when someone is hurting you, try to be patient with them, or you can go to hell and suffer for a million years.

Which is easier? Which one is easier? There is no husband who is so bad, they are worse than a million years in hell.

Maybe 100,000 years. But there is no husband so bad, there is no wife so bad, that they are worse than a million years in hell. And if you get angry at them, you go to hell, and you stay there a long time.

It's better, before you go to hell, it's better to not do it. And just be skillful. Buddhism, tap ke bar, upaya.

Papaya, upaya. Be skillful, be skillful. Change the subject, get out of the house, do something else.

Is it wrong to get a divorce in Buddhism? No, it's not wrong. If someone is hurting you, that's fine.

My mom did that. You're not supposed to get hurt, but you're not supposed to get angry either. You have to take care of yourself.

And don't put yourself in a worse place than this guy. Because there are worse places, it's called hell. All right.

Next picture. Yeah, good. This is a picture, I enjoy choosing these pictures.

I choose the pictures to help you remember the class. So if you're smart, get Tim to share the pictures with you, or take a picture on your phone. By the way, I paid for the pictures, they're all legal.

It's legal for you to use them. You can remember the class better from the picture than from trying to remember what Geshe-la said. The picture is something to remind you of the class.

And I suggest you keep the pictures. What I do, I have them on my phone. I go for a walk every day in Kyoto.

I walk around the city and I look at pictures on my phone. And I test myself. Do you remember the picture with all the hands touching each other?

Yeah. What's that mean in Geshe-la's class? I don't remember.

Actually, I test myself every day. I get the picture and I take it with me on a walk. I have it here.

And I test myself with the picture. So I suggest you test yourself with the picture. Legally, especially if you want to study Diamond Way, you are required to review the class twice after the class.

Once right after the class, once the next day. That's a requirement to enter Diamond Way. So just easy way, take a picture of the picture, look at it tonight, say, Okay, I remember the hands thing.

I remember what Geshe-la said. And then next day, when you wake up, you're having breakfast, you can be one of those people. They are wasting their time with the news.

You are studying Lam Rim again. And check yourself. That's why I use...

and it takes a long time to choose the pictures. So don't waste my time. Okay.

,GNOD RJE LA JI MI NYAM PA'I SOS PA NI, ,DI GNOD RJE LA BSGOM PA LAS, ,PHAN RJE LA BSGOM PA MED CING, ,GNOD RJE MANG NA SOS PA BSGOM RGYUD MANG BA'I, ,GNOD RJE DI RNAM NA RANG GIS SOS PA PHAL BA'I ,PHYOGS SU BSAM DGOS PA If you get more chances to practice your patience, you will be a better person. Therefore, you should pray to the Buddhas that they send you as many assholes as possible. But don't forget you asked for it.

Don't complain later. God, I used to have a few irritating people in my life. Now I have assholes everywhere.

By the way, can I tell you another joke? Okay. I taught this subject at Diamond Mountain.

We spent a long time explaining that irritating people come from your own karma. Every time you meet an irritating person, you are actually seeing a mirror of yourself. Every time you meet a person who hurts you, every time you meet a person who makes you upset, you are actually looking in a mirror.

Anyway, a new student came to Diamond Mountain. Finally, it was the next day, and they didn't hear the class the day before. Then they said, there's an idiom in English.

We say, I'm surrounded by idiots. Everyone around me is an idiot. We asked her, did you enjoy your time at Diamond Mountain?

She said, no, I had a terrible time. We said, why? She said, I'm surrounded by idiots.

Then we all like, it means when you say I'm surrounded by idiots, you are saying I'm an idiot, because you create those people. So the more assholes in your life, the bigger asshole is you. Understand?

Okay, all right. That's an old Diamond Mountain joke. Therefore, when people hurt you, I don't know, like you go into business with somebody, and I don't know, I have a business, I have lots of businesses, and I try to find people who are good with, I try to find people who like accounting, because I hate accounting.

Like, even I go bankrupt, I refuse to look at accounting. I hate it. People said, Ellie is always telling me, you have no idea what's going on with your accounts.

I'm like, and I don't want to know, I don't care. But you should look, at least you should look at it. I'm like, no, I don't want to.

I'm busy, I'm translating. I have this thing, I hate accounting. So I try to find business partners who are good with money, and they know how to keep the money, and they always say, the money is good, we got money.

I'm like, God bless, I love you. I don't want to look at it. Therefore, I think it's important, in a business, you find people you can make a, what do you call it?

Collaboration. Like, they do the accounting, you do the dinner parties. Like that.

That's the kind of collaboration I enjoy. If you can be patient with an irritating person who tries to hurt you, that's the biggest profit you can make. You are burning up bad karma every minute.

Every minute you don't get upset, every minute you don't get angry, you are burning up bad karma. Like fast, really fast. Therefore, if you're a real Buddhist, you should be happy when you're surrounded by assholes.

Because so many chances to burn up bad karma. I'm so grateful to you. Why?

You're such an asshole. I'm burning up so much bad karma. Do you have any friends you want to bring?

Also to the class? We can make a collaboration. It's like finding an accountant.

It's like finding five people who like accounting. Understand? Okay.

That's the picture. Now you understand the picture. We got the picture?

The last picture. Yeah, that's the picture. Got it?

It's a collaboration. You be the asshole, I'll be the bodhisattva. We can make music together.

I need you, you need me. It's perfect. Now I want to be surrounded by bodhisattvas.

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