«Дар освобождения», курс 42 «Сила мечты», занятие 8

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Here we go. We're going to go back to the Lam Rim. The good news, I don't have any announcements.

LAM MA LANG MOD DGOS DANG BLO BYANG LAG MTSO BA DANG PHRAD ZHES KYIS LAB BYA SU BA GSUM NYAMS PA MED PAR BYA Again, in this point in the ancient book, which is about 900 years ago, he's just giving short advices. This first one is LAM MA LANG MOD DGOS means have fun with your teacher and have respect for your teacher. I like affection.

Respect is like this. And then affection is like, hey, Geshe-la. I like that kind of love.

We are friends and we are having a good time. We are having a good Dharma study together. I like this kind of respect.

I don't like this kind of respect. I like, Geshe-la, here's a donut, yo chow. Something like that.

LAM MA LANG MOD DGOS Have fun with your teacher. Have fun. If you're not having fun, I think you have a problem.

I think if you're too serious, there's some kind of problem. If you're happy, you're having fun. I think have fun with your teacher.

LO SBYONG LA SBYOR BA DANG Have fun with LO SBYONG. LO SBYONG is crazy. LO SBYONG is crazy.

LO SBYONG means there's 100 people and there's only 50 refreshments and you're like, everybody else go first. You let the other people have it first. And you're like, I didn't get any.

That's okay. That's LO SBYONG. Have fun with LO SBYONG.

I hate serious LO SBYONG. You can, Rob, there's only one coffee left. You can take it.

I think so serious LO SBYONG is not LO SBYONG. It's like, Rob, there's one more coffee to go get. Have it.

Have it. Enjoy. And have fun with your LO SBYONG.

That's what he said. PHRAD ZHIG GI SLOB BYA GSUNG BA RNAMS When you study LO SBYONG, when you get bodhisattva vows, DR. ZHEN MO CHUD NON MI DE ZHING ZHAG RGYAS MI NYAN THEG CHEN MONG BA RNAMS KWANG CHUB KHOR THO CHUD PO LUNG MI DANG SANG MED NA RANG LO DANG PHYO SOGS DANG MA BYAMS DANG NYID BSTAN RNAMS SONG CHOS DANG LO DANG DRAN DANG These are the bodhisattva vows. DR. ZHEN MO, first one. Stop criticizing other people and praising yourself. That's the first one, Dr. Zhen Mo. Keep them happy.

Don't keep them very serious. Have a good time with the LO SBYONG. Have a good time with your bodhisattva vows.

Know them. You think I learned them in one day. I didn't.

It was suffer for six months or something. Work hard. And then have fun.

Have fun with the bodhisattva vows. Keep them. Have fun.

Next one is a picture of three doors. You, Francisco. TRES PUERTO TRES PUERTO Three doors.

You guys got a picture for me? Anyway. Okay, they're going to look for them.

All right. LUNG LA YI SEMS DEL BA MA ZHAG PAR DGE BA LA GOS You guys know delmjor. These are the 18 leisures and fortunes in the Lam Rim tradition.

Here you have the same word, delwa. Say delwa. And it says don't do delwa.

Do not do delwa. Delwa means relax with your good karma. And he says don't do it.

If you still have a body, and if you still have a mouth, and if you still have a mind, for God's sake, use it. Do something with it. Don't leave your body for a whole day without helping somebody.

Your body wants to be lazy. And your mouth wants to be lazy. And your mind wants to watch Korea soap opera on Netflix.

But push them. Delwa ma zhag means push them. They will get tired.

What's the best thing to do? What's the best dharma thing to do when you're tired of serving others? Serve them more.

It's very refreshing. It makes you much energy. When you feel tired, Oh, Deshlan, this is Renzi, Deshlan gave me so much more.

What should I do? I said, get more. Get more.

The best way when you feel tired, I'm telling you from grandpa, I'm double, triple your age. And I don't feel so tired. And just when you feel tired, then work harder.

That's the solution for tired. Okay. All right.

So Delwa ma zhag. Push your body. Push your speech.

Push your mind to serve more people. Keep pushing. Don't stop.

Push harder. People say, I'm overworking in ACI. What should I do?

Join YSI. Work for them. Also.

That's my suggestion. And it worked for me. I have a lot of energy and I enjoy my life.

I was born before your grandfather. Okay. LUS KYI DGE BA NI CHA KHOR SOGS KYANG PA MIN GYI LUS DUR LUS DRANG POR SANG BA KUN KYANG TSUN KYANG LUS KYI DGE BA DO This is very beautiful advice.

And by the way, again, these are just short advices. And then he's going to give you the big one, which is the six perfections. So we're about to start the six perfections.

Tim, I think the next program is Diamond Mountain in April. Right? Am I right?

Yeah, we will continue this book at our retreat center in Arizona. I'll tell you the ultimate story of our retreat center. Some lady from Shanghai came to me at the retreat center.

And she's like, GYUR ZLA, can I ask you a question? It wasn't Wang Xiao, it was somebody else. And she said, can I ask you a question?

I said, yeah, I'll try. She said, last night did you see? I'm like, see what?

She said, the whole sky. Covered with stars. The whole sky.

Millions and millions of stars. We chose a place where there's no city nearby. A retreat center, according to the ancient knowledge, you should build it in the empty place.

We found it's one of the most empty places in the world. There's no light pollution. It's completely dark.

And the stars are unbelievable. This Shanghai lady, I'm sorry Wang Xiao, but it was... She said, GYUR ZLA, I have a question for you.

Last night, the stars, I never saw in my life. I said, yeah. She said, are they coming back tomorrow?

I'm like, yeah, they come back every night. She said, wow. I feel, wow, she never saw all the stars.

She thinks we invited them for one night. You will love the place. You will love, love the place.

It's very beautiful. To do retreat, to get this teaching during retreat is very, very beautiful. Very, very fun.

And it's a beautiful place. Please come if you can come. LUG GI GYEL BA NI CHAG KORN And here's a beautiful advice.

He says, talking about physical good karma, good karma you can do with your body. He says, of course you can do prostrations. My Lama used to do like 100 prostrations, 200 prostrations.

I don't like it, it's too hard. Then he says, KOR TO KOR It means you can find a stupa and you can walk around the stupa. These are physical good karma.

But he says that's not the only good karma for a real lamrim person. LUG SDUG LUG DRANG PO SANG BA Sit up straight. Help the chi in your body.

When you meditate, when you sit in a lamrim, sit up super straight. Back is straight. Tummy is tight.

Shoulders are back. Chin is not like... He said you don't have to go to a temple and walk around the temple.

You don't have to prostrate to the Buddha. Just sit up straight in your chair and help your prana to move. It will help your meditation.

It will help your health. It will help your study. Get in the habit of sitting up straight all the time.

Not just when Geshe-la is there. But especially at home. Even on the important chair.

Sit up straight. It's very good for your prana and it will help your meditation. Just get in the habit.

I have the habit, right? I always sit up straight. Even when I'm lazy with my exercise.

Sit up straight. LUD DUG SANG PO SANG BA TSUN KYANG That's the minimum. Then of course, using your body to help other people.

But even sitting up straight so you can meditate better, that is good karma with your body. Because you're thinking about your meditation. You're thinking about your meditation.

You're not even doing it directly for other people. You are just trying to help your own prana. So your mind is more clear.

Get in the habit to sit up straight. And it will stay like that. After a few years, you will be like those military guys.

Right, Igor? Okay. Okay.

SANG PO SANG TSUN GNOD KYI RGYUR LUR LO SBYONG CHE YUL YANG BRTAG DANG NYAN ZHES RIGS SU BYED PA DANG Do your LO SBYONG serve other people? Other people come first. In LO SBYONG, other people come first.

Who gets the coffee first? Other people. Who gets the pastry first?

Other people. Especially if Geshe-la is to other people. Okay.

And always other people. Other people come first. Other people come first.

LO SBYONG CHE YUL Denny has a very interesting suggestion. When we say other people come first, we don't make a difference between your enemies and your friends. Who gets the coffee before you?

Your friends and your enemies. Equally. People you don't like, they get the coffee first.

People you don't like, they get the donut first. In the LO SBYONG, RIGS SU BYED PA means have some kind of bias. That you draw a line between your friends and your enemies.

LO SBYONG doesn't know discrimination. Drawing line. This is my friend.

This is my enemy. LO SBYONG doesn't... There's no drawing the line.

Treat everybody before you treat yourself. And the everybody, no distinction. Everybody.

Your enemies and your friends both. They get to have the coffee first. RIGS SU BYED PA DANG SEMS CAN DANG SEMS CAN MIN PA Denny says something very beautiful.

Don't discriminate between humans and animals. Don't discriminate between humans and animals. Animals have a right to this world also.

They have an equal right to this world. I was thinking about science. If you ask people, what's your religion?

Some people say Muslim, some Christian, Jewish, Buddhist. Here's the real religion. It's in your pocket.

This is your religion. You bow down every day. This represents science.

Science made this thing. If I say Buddhism says, I don't know, plastic water bottle can give you cancer. You're like, I don't know about that.

And then if I say Stephen Hawking says plastic water bottle give you cancer. You're like, oh, I'm going to stop drinking from plastic water bottle. You respect the science more than Buddhism, I think.

We all do. If I'm flying home from, I don't know, Osaka airport, and you say, hey, Rob's a good Buddhist. He made an airplane.

I'll say, you know what, I'll just take you night and day. You believe in the scientists more than... Okay, so that's...

You should... We believe in science. It's more...

I can say, are you Christian? Are you Muslim? What's your country's religion?

But really there's one religion in the world and this isn't. We all believe scientists. The rabbis say, you know, use your...

I don't know, use a piece of wood for your cell phone. And then Steve Jobs say, use this one. Who are you going to believe?

Who are you going to prostrate to? I think it will be Apple Corporation or Huawei or something like that. So we tend to believe in those first.

And science principle is that human is more important than animal. That's a big, big principle. If we have to kill 2,000 rats to study the brain of a human, if we need to solve diabetes, we can take the organs out of pigs, we can kill them.

If we need a new apartment building for humans and there's lots of birds there, they can move. Science says we are number one and the animals are number two. Even they are talking about the only way to keep a human body going indefinitely is to grow organs in pigs and then kill them and put the organ in the human.

And science, that's a principle of science. And they don't teach it to you in the school, but it's a principle of science that the human is more important than the animal. If you have to kill 100 animals to survive one human, then kill 100 animals.

But in the lojong, everybody who has feelings is equal in the lojong. Animals are equal in the lojong. In the lojong, we have to respect animals.

If you try, you can do it. If you think about it, you can do it. You don't have to eat animals.

Maybe those cavemen, they can't grow rice. They don't know how to do it. Maybe they have to eat animals.

But we have farms. We know how to plant food. We don't need to eat animals.

There's no reason to eat animals. Why make them suffer? They are, oh, Geshe-la, they are small.

They are stupid. We can eat them. Okay, so eat your babies also.

They are small and stupid also. What's the logic? There's no logic.

So, you can eat. I have all these friends from Princeton University. Then I told them, I'm going to be vegetarian.

Even in the monastery, I said, I'm going to be vegetarian. They're all like, oh, you're going to get sick. If you don't get protein, you will be sick.

You will be weak. Listen, all the people who told me that are dead. All of them are dead.

I survived much longer without meat. Understand? So, in the lojo, we're supposed to...

You don't divide between your enemies and your friends. And you also don't divide between the animals and the humans. Then, there's another one here.

SEM CHEN DANG SEM CHEN RIM PA Between animal life and plant life. You cannot make a big distinction. You are protecting life.

You are protecting the environment. This is important. A monk is not allowed to cut a green plant.

We are not allowed to cut a tree, for example. Why? For 2,000 years, we're not allowed to cut a tree.

Why? It's their house. It's their apartment.

You are ruining the apartment of many animals and birds. We can cut a tree if we have to build a monastery or something like that. We can cut a tree.

We're supposed to plant some more trees. It says here, RIM SU CHEN PA If you guys want to learn, RIM means drawing. RIMO means drawing.

Like those Tsongkhapa paintings, those are RIMO. They are painted. They are drawn.

RI means to draw a line. RIM SU CHEN PA means don't draw a line between humans and animals. Don't draw a line between humans you like and humans you don't like.

Don't draw a line between humans and animals. Don't draw a line between humans and animals and plants. Respect the world.

Respect the environment. Take care of it. It's very interesting.

LO SBYONG is that. LO SBYONG respects the whole environment also. Very beautiful.

SEMS CAN MED CHOG RIM MI BYAS PA SBYONG BA It's funny because it says SBYONG or LO SBYONG. SBYONG or LO SBYONG without RIM SU CHEN PA. Don't make these distinctions.

We're serving all life. You can't say I will serve some life and I won't serve other life. That's not LO SBYONG.

DE'I YUL THAMS CAD NA BSKYAB PAS LO SDUG NAS SBYONG BA BYAS PA BYAS KA BA LTAR DGOS Take all those YUL. YUL means objects. Animals, birds, humans, trees, planet.

BSKYAB BSKYAB means cover them with your love. Like a blanket. Cover the whole world with the soft blanket of your love.

It's tasty, right? Better than cinnamon roll, almost. Take the blanket of your love and cover the whole world.

Don't say I will do it for them, but I won't do it for them. You cannot say that. LO SBYONG BA BYAS BYAS KA BA LTAR DGOS BYAS KA BA lived 900 years ago.

He wrote down these instructions for the first time. But they were oral instructions for about 200 years before that. Next picture you guys.

What's the next item? I think they lost my item. It's a dynamite stick.

Number 21. Picture number 21. Yeah, dynamite.

Now he's going to talk about YUL KHYAD PAR CHEN. Say YUL. KHYAD PAR CHEN Special karmic objects.

Certain people in your life are more powerful, like dynamite. And some people are not so powerful. Certain people.

You're not supposed to distinguish between friends and enemies. Take care of your friends. Don't take care of your enemies.

But there are people who are super powerful in your life. And you should be careful around them. They are dynamite.

For karma, they are dynamite karma. What's an example? KHYAD PAR BYA LA SEM PA'I SEM KHYAD KHA WA DANG Number one.

If it's difficult to love somebody, they are special. Okay? I'm sorry.

The person who pisses you off the most is powerful karma for you. And you have to be super careful. They are dynamite for you.

If there's three people, one you love them, one you never met them, one of them always pisses you off, who's the more powerful? The one who pisses you off. Be careful around the dynamite.

Be more careful with that person. Treat them nice. Treat them nice.

They are more powerful. Karmic object, more powerful. That's the first example.

Second example, he says, YOD NYANG PA LAMA PHA MA ZHAG ROG The people you are around all the time are powerful karmic objects for you. And you take them for granted. Your wife, your husband, your kids, the people you work with.

We tend to take them for granted. And we say things that we will never say to other people. And we do things we will never do to other people.

And we think they will still love me. Usually they do. Sometimes they kick you out.

He says people that you are around all the time. And he gives a list. YOD NYANG PA means close family.

Brothers, sisters, mother, father, kids. They are dynamite. Then he says LAMA, your teacher.

LAMA doesn't have to be a monk in a robe. LAMA, children are very good LAMAs. Nick became a good student after he got the real LAMA.

Her name is LAMA. LAMA PHA MA That was my examination. My Shantideva examination.

PHA MA LAMA And then SHAG ROG. SHAG ROG means your close friends and colleagues at work. People you work with, people you hang out with.

SHAG ROG means people you hang out with. SHAG means literally a monk's room. It's called a SHAG.

ROG means your friend. SHAG ROG means the people you work with, the people you hang out with, like that. They are all more powerful karmic objects because you are around them a lot.

That's dynamite. Dynamite can... They are making a new road in Arizona and it's cool because there is a mountain there.

We see the progress every week or something. They take dynamite and they blow up the mountain and it's kind of sexy. They are making a new road that everybody needs.

It's a good road. But also, dynamite can be powerful for good things and dynamite can kill many people. LTA BU LA SOD DU KU NAS STING SBYONG BAR BSGOM STING means deep down inside of you.

STING In your STING. It also means the bottom of the ocean. It means down inside of your heart, in the bottom of your heart, be careful around these dynamites.

Be super careful. The problem is we get used to these people. Oh, Ana is around every day.

Why should I be nice to her? She is just hanging out here all the time. I get used to my wife.

You get used to your kids. They are actually more powerful karma because you are around them all the time. So be careful with the people you are around all the time.

They are more powerful karma for you. They are dynamite for you. Cool?

All right. All right. DE YANG SRED DGOS SOG THON GYEN SROM LA SROM LA MA THOD PAR BSGOM PA LAS Say SROM.

SROM means all the stuff you need has come together. In English, we say, God, it all came together. What?

We got Lindsay to run the program. We got all the regional directors. The books are ready.

Rose is on board with the briefcase. We got Tim talking about it at his other program. All the SROM.

SROM means everything we need came together. That is called SROM. He says, keep your LOD SROM, whether the THON GYEN SROM or not.

THON GYEN means stuff you need to do a job. The money to do this program. The time to do this program.

The place to do this program. The airplane ticket to do this program. Those are called THON GYEN.

In YSI, and we are going to have a class in January, in YSI, there is a beautiful description of the THON GYEN. The things you need to bring together SROM to do retreat. For deep yoga retreat.

To do deep yoga practice, you have the SROM. You have to bring together all the THON GYEN. THON GYEN means food, good food, healthy food.

Quiet place. No bugs. No bugs and no bugs.

The Hatha Yoga Pradipika, the book we are studying in January for the Yoga Studies Institute. The first thing the guy says, 500 years ago, Swat Marama, he says, find a retreat place with no bugs. When I saw no bugs, I said, this guy knows what he is talking about.

Because when you are trying to do a deep retreat, the bugs drive you crazy. I said, then I am going to read the rest of the book. Because he knows what he is talking about.

That is called THON GYEN SROM. He says, MO SBYONG is independent of THON GYEN SROM. You have time or not.

F it. Keep your lojo. You hungry or not.

F it. Keep your lojo. You didn't sleep last night.

Keep your lojo. It should be independent of things going on around you. You are hungry or you are not hungry.

You are rested or you are not rested. Your friends are there or your enemies are there. You should be independent.

Keep your lojo. Keep your compassion. Keep your care for other people.

It shouldn't be dependent on how you feel. Ignore how you feel. I don't care if you are hungry.

I don't care if you are tired. I don't care if you just served a long-run retreat for 25 hours. I don't care.

Keep your lojo. It should not affect your lojo. That is very difficult.

If I don't get a nice dinner, I get grumpy. But I am not supposed to. DGONGS PA LAS Then he gives a nice poetry.

Here is some poetry. THO DANG NYID MED PHRAD PA'I PHYIR PA'I SOGS SKYE NGAN THO TU PA Say Tamewa. This is poetry.

Buddhist poetry. THO DANG means your belly is full. You got lots of ponchiks in your belly or yokel.

Why does Geshe-la know the word in every language for donut? DGOS DANG, your belly's full, RIMA CHOS means the weather is perfect. The sun is out, it's not too hot, not too cold.

It's like yesterday in Kyoto, beautiful weather. Trees are beautiful, everyone's relaxed. Belly full, good weather.

Belly full, perfect weather. CHOS PA'I GZUGS means in those conditions, you can pretend to be a Dharma practitioner. GZUGS means, GZUGS RGYUN means reflection.

This CHOS is without the apostrophe. So CHOS PA here means Dharma practitioner. As long as your belly's full, and as long as the weather is really good, you're a nice person.

You know what the next verse is going to say. RGYEN RIN THOB TU BAP TSE But when problems hit you, THOB TU BAP means suddenly. Suddenly you get a problem.

Like you're getting on the airplane, it's business class, everything's good. They're already cooking the dinner. And then they say 12-hour delay.

It's like, excuse me, my wife doesn't say I shouldn't curse during Lamrim, but the shit hit the fan. Anyway, they say 12-hour delay, forget the business class. Here you can have $2 food ticket.

Thanks. So when people hit the fan, suddenly, we lose our NON DONG. We tend to lose our NON DONG.

As long as things are going smooth, I'm a great vigil practitioner. Then somebody says 12-hour delay on the flight. You're like, what?

No more lojong. You throw out your lojong in two minutes. He says THAM MA BA.

THAM MA BA means... I'll give $1,000 for THAM MA BA. $1,000.

THAM MA BA Wait, raise your hand. I'm not giving the money easy. THAM MA BA THAM MA BA Come on.

If it's $1,000, I will take a guess at least. THAM MA BA You sure? Nice.

$1,000. Where's the money, honey? Or are you going to pay him later?

Did you hire a driver to hit him with the car? He will pay him, don't worry. He knows more.

In English, there's an idiom for you. We're good for it. We're good for it means we will pay.

We're good for it. Okay. Yeah.

THAM MA BA means normal person. Okay. Normal person.

All right. Here, it's opposed to CHOD PA'I GSUM. In the line before, it says, when the weather's good and your belly's full, you look like a Dharma practitioner.

You know. Then somebody canceled a flight, or the restaurant closed today for remodeling, and then suddenly you're a Tamil. Then you're just a normal, selfish person.

You're just a normal, selfish person. Why I pay so much money for normal, selfish person? Why I pay him $1,000 for such a small work?

In the diamond way, in normal Buddhism, one of the worst things you can do is to kill another person. One of the worst things you can do in normal Buddhism is to kill another person. In higher Buddhism, diamond way, Vajrayana, more serious than killing another person is to believe there are not at least three Buddhas in this room right now.

That's worse than killing a person. In high, high Buddhism. In high, high Buddhism, you're supposed to believe at least two or three Buddhas sprinkle in this audience.

Then it's fun to guess who it is. Everybody's like, not me. By the way, it's not me.

I mean, I'm working on it, but I'm not there. But in the high, high Buddhism, we're supposed to practice, as we practice, someone, maybe one, maybe two. How many people here?

200 people, something. Maybe 200 people here are Buddha. I am not.

Really, I'm not. But I sometimes think you led me to teach the Lam Rim because I'm the only one who's not. Thank you for that.

But you don't know. You don't know. Don't agree.

In the high, high, high, high teaching, the word for, the word for there's no Buddhas here today is tamel. It's the same word. That's the word.

It's a very bad word in the high, high teachings. It means there's no Buddha at all in this room. Everybody's normal.

Everybody is who they look like. And inside they are not Buddha. That's called tamel.

And to believe that about any audience is worse than killing a person in Buddhism. Very interesting. Really interesting.

You've got to think about it. Everybody's asking Grandpa to teach Diamond Way. Maybe I'm teaching it all the time.

You just didn't know. But today I taught you the real one. Think about it.

And if you really want to have fun, he said have fun with your lojong, right? Anytime you go anywhere, like we're going to go to a nice restaurant tonight. We're going to take a break, finally.

Grandpa gets a break. Just going to eat. It's very fun, Buddhism, to look in the restaurant, who's Buddha?

You can play a game with your friends. Go with your lamrim friends to the Tokyo tea shop or sushi restaurant and say there's one person in this room is a Buddha and then talk about it. I think it's that guy over there.

Nah. He's too obvious normal. Should be...

I don't know. Should be... And then have fun with it.

If you want to study Buddhism, do it in the restaurant. Do it in the coffee shop. And have fun.

By the way, I'll tell you some fun. Real fun. When you are alone, go to a coffee shop and in your heart, silently, say, Who's the Buddha in the room?

And then watch. She's doing it right now. I saw you.

Watch the people. Somebody will go like this, and have fun with it. Are they Buddha or not?

We don't know. Who knows? They could be a terrible person.

They could be Buddha. But checking is a great, great meditation. Everybody's like, I want to do meditation just now.

Okay, go to the coffee shop. Ask the question, Who's the Buddha? Now look, she's doing this thing again.

I caught you. Something like that. Have fun with it.

I taught one student, what's her name? Mercedes. I taught her to do that.

She went to the mall. I told her, look for Buddha. She went to the mall.

She went to the, like Takeshima or something, expensive clothing store to look for the Buddha. One sales lady in the expensive clothing, she's like, then Mercedes is like, and she prostrated three times. She prostrated three times on the floor.

Then the lady called the security guard. Some crazy lady. Maybe the security guard is also Buddha.

I don't know. But it was beautiful. It was really fun.

Don't be scared. A Buddha shouldn't be scared to make a fool out of yourself. A compassionate fool is better than a non-compassionate smart guy.

Understand? Better. ,BDAG RANG SKYE DKA'A LA, ,DON CHE BA'I CHANG CHUB KYI SEMS BSGOM PA SOGS KYANG, ,RANG BZHIN GYI BDE NYID DUG PA'I PHYIR DU BYED PA'I DGOS KYI, ,SRED DUS BYED DU BYAMS PA'I RIG PAS, Then he says, look, why we practice this well-drawn, which is SKYE DKA'.

SKYE DKA'A means it's a difficult practice. It's a difficult practice. To treat your enemies and your friends the same, it's not easy.

,DON CHE BA, ,DON CHE BA means difficult to do and very powerful. Difficult to do and very powerful. ,CHE BA'I CHANG CHUB KYI SEMS BSGOM PA SOGS KYANG, ,RANG BZHIN GYI BDE NYID DU BYED DU BYED PA'I DGOS KYI, Do it for yourself and others, but not just for this life.

There's a very interesting definition of Buddhism. We were playing with Tim's book. That's not some stupid arguments.

It's a question. What is Buddhism and what is not Buddhism? That's a big, big...

If you don't decide that, how can you study? I'm studying Buddhism. What's Buddhism?

I don't know. Here it says, and it's a tradition in Lojong. If your Lojong practice, if your lamrim practice is limited to this life, it's not Buddhism.

That's weird. That's powerful. I'll say it again.

If your spiritual practice is limited to this life up to the time you die, it's not Buddhism. I mean, all of us are trying to meditate. We're all trying to practice.

We're trying to be good people. We're trying to do the right thing. But if your picture of Buddhism ends with death, it's not enough.

It's not Buddhism. Interesting, right? Your goal, your vision, has to be farther than death.

Beyond death. A real Buddhist has to be thinking in longer terms than death. Death is a small change, and it has happened millions of times for you.

And you have to be, your practice has to be aimed at bigger things. Not just with this life. This life, these friends, this world.

It's nothing. You won't remember anything from this world. It's a small, small, small, small stop on a big train ride.

You won't remember it. Later you won't remember anything about this world. All the things that are important to you, you won't remember any of them.

So your practice should be bigger. Bigger thing. Bigger than you and bigger than this life.

Here's a little thing I made from the poem. He has a poem now. Next life rather than this one.

Dharma rather than the world. Feeling towards others rather than the book. I think that one was from Geshe-la.

My wife will say things like that. She'll say, you care more about the book, you care more about the Buddhist book than your Buddhist students. Then I'm like, maybe you're right.

So, not judging your book knowledge about Buddhism. Judging how you feel towards other people. And these are three famous marital advices.

Focus on the next life. Don't focus so much on this life. This life is going to be boom.

I had hair yesterday and I was surfing and I remember the feeling of the board when I stand up in Hawaii. I remember that feeling. That's 50 years ago.

Time goes boom. And you're like, oh my god, boom. You won't even remember all these things.

All the things that are important to you now, you won't even remember them. When you're my age, you won't remember them. Next life rather than this one.

Dharma rather than this world. Feeling towards others rather than study, study, study. That's a difficult one for me.

I like study, study, study. We have some refugees from Ukraine. Me and my wife invited two refugees from Ukraine.

We are taking care of them. She's like, we didn't ask them for dinner at our house for a few weeks. I'm like, honey, I have 200,000 students.

I cannot make dinner for each one. It's not possible. I can't do it.

I just can't do it. I will have a breakdown. She says, we are having dinner for a day.

Okay, honey. We cooked the whole day for them. She's like, the theory is good, but sometimes you have to do the real thing and invite the Ukrainian guys to dinner.

We had a wonderful time. We had two Russians, two Ukrainians. We made the Christmas tree together.

It took like two hours. Then we had a really nice dinner together. I decided afterwards that was Dharma.

That was good Dharma practice. Okay. There's the instructions.

There's that one. We have a few more minutes. We have 10 more minutes.

Then I'll do question and answer. Maybe you start thinking about question and answer. It can be about Lojo.

It can be about your personal life. It can be about emptiness. Okay.

Kholok min ja. Say kholok. Kholok means total opposite.

In English we say total opposite. In American English we say total opposite. What's he doing?

What's that guy doing? I said, I don't know what he's doing, but it's the total opposite of Dharma. What's he doing?

Kholok. It's the total opposite of lojong. Taking care of yourself and ignoring other people is kolok for lojong.

It's completely opposite. So kolok, you can go like this. Kolok.

Kolok. No, you have to do the mudra. Kolok.

What's the impolite colloquial in English? Ass backwards. The person's ass is in the front and the other part is in the back.

Strange, right? It means your practice is mixed up. You take care of yourself before other people.

That's called kolok. There's three koloks. Sorry, six.

Six koloks. Let's do some of them. Let's see how many we can finish.

There's six different koloks. By the way, when you're doing a real meditation retreat in April with us at Diamond Mountain, just because you're from Japan, there's airplanes that come to Arizona. You are very welcome to come and we have a good time.

It will change your life. My business success came from Diamond Mountain. I made the largest diamond jewelry company in the world from nothing.

Zero. I say it came from retreat. It came from retreat.

Don't say, oh, I'm very busy at my work. I can't go over one week to Diamond Mountain. Okay, work the rest of your life for a small salary.

Good luck. Don't make a breakthrough. Just keep working.

Like $5 and whatever. If you really want a breakthrough, come and do a retreat in April. If you want to have a breakthrough.

If you want to make the most cool thing in the world, you need a retreat. That new university, which we are having MBA program day after tomorrow, she had that vision in a retreat. She went to Diamond Mountain and did a retreat.

She and her partner, Stanley. The Buddha was yelling in her ear, Make a university. It's unusual because she listened.

She made a university. One person made like a $50 million in university. You can do cool stuff.

In retreat, you can do cool stuff. So, go long way ja. Let's look at the six backwards or opposite.

Don't do the opposite. Go long way ja. Number one.

CHOS KYI BYA BA LA NYIN ROL GANG BYAS MI GSOS PA JI BSTAN BYA BA LA GANG BYAS SU PAS GSOS PA'I KHALO Say GSOS PA. KHALO I put them in... Yeah, I will put them like that.

GSOS PA'I KHALO What does GSOS PA mean? GSOS PA means patience. It's the fourth...

Fourth? No. Third.

The third of the six perfections. It means the art of not getting upset. Third effort for, you pay me, no.

Sampa means don't get upset. When you're supposed to get upset, don't get upset. That's the third bodhisattva's practice.

Very, very famous. When you're supposed to get upset, you don't get upset. That's called, in Sanskrit, it's kshama.

Kshama, kshama, kshama, kshama. Ksha came into English as Q-U. So kshama became quiet in English.

And it means stay chill, stay cool. Cool comes from kshama. Stay cool.

Don't get upset. Don't get angry. When something bad happens, don't get angry.

But the same word kshama means high tolerance for pain and high tolerance for exhaustion. So sometimes kshama means special ability to work hard even when you're exhausted or even when it hurts. It's called also kshama.

Same, supa. It means difficult situation, tired, exhausted. It hurts.

Lots of trouble, financial, everything. Trouble, trouble, trouble, trouble. Kshama means I don't care.

I'm going to keep my practice. I don't care if I feel tired. I don't care if things are going well.

I don't care. It doesn't matter. That's also called patience.

It's a kind of patience. I don't give up. I don't freak out.

I don't worry. I don't get discouraged. Kshama.

Kshama literally means in my heart I am quiet. That's going to cost a lot more money than you think. That's cool.

That's going to take 2,000 more hours. That's cool. Hey, guess what?

The place you reserved in Kyoto for the program is canceled. That's cool. That's kshama.

Sometimes kshama means the capacity to work hard when you're already tired. That's what it means here. Why does he mention that?

CHOS KYI BYA LA LA We don't do it. BYIS BSTAN GYI BYA LA LA We do it. How many times somebody said to you, I had this happen.

You should meditate every day. You should get up at 6 o'clock and meditate every day. You're like, could I just do 7 o'clock?

I could do 6 o'clock. I have an alarm. It works.

I can do 6 o'clock. But I'm not top shape at 6 o'clock. I feel tired.

I don't perform very well. The meditation is very dull at 6 o'clock. Could I do 7 o'clock instead?

And if the Lama is smart, they'll say, yeah, 7 is a very good time. Any way to get you to meditate, they will agree. You say, I can meditate, but only on the toilet.

A good Lama says, great, that's the best place. Now, if you've been looking for a job for six months, and you're trying to get a job that pays pretty good money, and somebody says, I can give you a job. And you're like, good.

And they say, is $200,000 a year okay? You're like, it's okay. And then they say, can you come at 6 a.m.? And you're like, yeah, sure. No problem. That's kolok. That's kshama kolok.

When it's some worldly work, and the boss says, be here at 6 a.m., and you're like, how much was the salary? They're like, $300,000. You're like, yes, I'm there.

And you don't even hesitate. You're like, yeah, I'm there. I'll be there at 5.30 if you want. As far as me, I love to get up early. Then the Lama says, please meditate at 6 or 7. And you're like, I don't know.

I'm feeling really tired in the morning. That's backwards patience. Got it?

Supa kolok. Say supa. Kolok.

Now, there's a deep principle of teaching Buddhism. When the audience is having fun, and when they are interested, and they're waiting for the next five koloks, stop the class. It's like a Korea soap opera.

You got to see this opera. What's it called? Kissing the King?

King's Affection. I don't know how many times the show ends with, then cut, and you're like, wait, they're almost ready to kiss, finally. Then they come back next week.

You're like, what? So, to cut the Lama in class just at the right time is very, very bad luck to hear one kolok, and you didn't hear the other five. Understand?

It's a special bad karma. Your car is going to break every day for the rest of your life. Something like that.

Understand? So, don't forget to come back online or in person. Anything is okay.

All right. Thank you. Q&A.

Do you want to do announcements or Q&A? Let's do some Q&A. How long?

You tell me when to shut up.

[Говорящий 2]
We'll do three questions.

[Говорящий 1]
Can I ask you a lot of questions?

[Говорящий 2]
Two questions.

[Говорящий 1]
Okay.

[Говорящий 2]
You decide. The first one is going to be from Peiling Online. How can I best protect and support the minds of people around me?

Meaning, sometimes my spiritual brothers and sisters seem to drop into lower schools of thought or tell me about their poor worldly habits. Is there a good way to gently nudge them towards the Dharma without annoying them, but still maintaining warmth and lightheartedness?

[Говорящий 1]
I didn't catch the essence.

[Говорящий 2]
Just before annoying them. Is there any way to... How they can nudge them towards the Dharma in a kind way without annoying them?

Annoying. Annoying, yes. Not Hanoi.

But what did you say just before that? To correct them? Right.

That she sees them falling into lower schools of thought or they have bad habits in their life.

[Говорящий 1]
And how does she help them without annoying them?

[Говорящий 2]
Yes.

[Говорящий 1]
Okay, good. According to the laws of karma, and we have this... We have a DCI course about controlling your anger.

What is it? What level? Nine?

She says six, nine, and ten. Ten, I think. How to stop your anger.

And supposed to be... Impossible. Supposed to be, you find, it's four steps.

You have to find another person who has a problem with anger and then you're supposed to help them. The best way to mess it up is to go to your friend and say, you know what? Stanley, you're the most angry person I know.

Let me help you control your anger. And then the karma of helping Stanley control his anger helps me control my anger. So there's a very famous mistake with anger management to do the four steps by announcing to the other person you are the most pissed off person I ever know.

You're always getting angry. And they teach us in the monastery, when you study Lojong, when you study four steps, it's much wiser to pick the most angry person you know. And by the way, the most angry person you know has no idea they are the most angry person.

That's accepted. It's always like that. So go to the person who's most angry that you know and you do it this way.

Hey Joy, I got a problem. And they're like, what's your problem Geshe-la? And I say, I got this problem.

I get angry all the time. I don't know. I just have this thing inside of me.

I get angry very easily. And I was talking to my spiritual teacher about it and they said, try to find someone who can support you and help you too. So I was wondering, could we meet in the coffee shop once a week and I can talk about my anger problem and could you help me?

Like that. And that's a better way. So I would say, you want to hear another approach?

I gave a long teaching at Diamond Mountain about if you're an irritating person, that karma means that all the people around you will become irritating. And so I taught it for like two days or something. And people come and go.

They are traveling from other countries and somebody came, a new person came and they're a very irritating person. And everybody, within 24 hours, everyone doesn't like this person and we're all like so tired of this person. And then she yelled out, in English we have an expression, I'm surrounded by idiots.

And all these Lam Rim experts are like... Because if you're a very irritating person, the sign is that all the people around you will become irritating. So if you are surrounded by irritating people, probably you have to work on yourself.

And if you work on yourself, the people around you will change. And I can say, honestly, I have normal problems. Like everybody, I have problems.

I have irritating people in my life. And I try really hard to remember that it's coming from me. So I'm just saying, it works.

It really works. And you have all these, how do you call that? It's not epiphany, but metamorphosis.

The person will change completely in one week or something. Someone's really irritating me and someone's really acting dumb. And I will go home and I'll be upset and tired and I'm like, God, this person is really...

I'm getting so tired of this person. And then I will remember this thing called Buddhism. And I'll say, wait, Geshe-la, they're coming from you.

Maybe if you try to stop that bad habit yourself, maybe they will change. So I even did it this week. Here, I did it.

Someone was really irritating. And I went back to my hotel room and I'm like, and then my Buddhism kicked in. Unfortunately, if you come to Lam Rim a lot, you develop a little guy in your head.

He says, don't forget. It's coming from you. Don't forget.

It's coming from you. And I'm like, ah, shut up. So I tried not to act like that person.

And they changed completely, 100%, in two days or something. So if I have this problem that this person has, if I see my fellow Dharma students are not being very nice, maybe, there's a joke in English also, maybe you could change your seat. It's interesting because the Buddhist way to change an irritating person is to fix yourself.

And there's no tension. There's no difficulty. There's no bad feeling.

It's all silent. It's all inside your own mind. You say, I'm seeing all these irritating people.

I must be irritating. I must be doing something. Then be a detector.

Be a detector. What am I doing to irritate people? You can ask your friends.

They will tell you, everything you do is irritating. Are you kidding me? So fix it from the inside.

And they will change. And they will change completely. They will become your best friend or something.

And it's very cool. Look inside. Change inside.

Then the outside will change. Cool.