«Дар освобождения», курс 34 «Победа над негативными мыслями», занятие 4

[Speaker 1]
First of all, I'd like to thank all the people who brought their children. The kids are very fun. We just spent one hour together.

They are very well-mannered. I think all of them know the pen. They can teach it better than mom and dad.

So, you did a good job. And thank you for bringing them. My teacher, I lived with him for 30 years.

And he always allowed the parents to bring the kids to the class. Now those kids are 40 years old. They have their own kids.

And they're very good parents. So, it's really cool to bring your kids. And thank you for your kids.

And they got a good education already, I can see. Okay, we were talking about ... We talked about six ways that klesha will start.

Then we start to talk about the problems if you have a klesha. What's the last one we did? Let me help you remember.

What's the last problem we talked about? Raise your hand. You choose.

Then people hate you. Choose today. Yeah, I'm good.

What's the last problem we talked about? Health. No.

Oh, that's last night, you're right. Okay, she gets $100. But yesterday morning, what's the last thing we talked about?

You choose, you choose. Choose in the back. Cannot let go.

That's the last ... That's not a bad answer. But, it's not the answer I'm looking for.

What's the last problem we talked about? For example, if you come in the kitchen and your husband calls you phantom and you get angry, what's wrong with that? Stop yelling because we are our own future Buddha.

Good. Yeah. Okay.

Yeah, when you yell, when you yell at your husband, of course your husband will go like ... But all the Buddhas in the universe, they are also ... Now this person will become a Buddha very slow work.

Especially, there's one Buddha waiting for you. Yourself. Your future Buddha.

Right now, he's watching you. Buddha can see directly past, present, and future. Every person in this room, you will become Buddha.

You were born with the Buddha seed. So, we all have a future Buddha. That Buddha is watching you all the time.

It's like they are watching television. Buddhas don't watch television. They watch their past self.

Then they are like, Oh, look, my past self going in the kitchen. What's going to happen? Oh, I remember.

Husband going to call her phantom. Then, don't answer, don't answer. Be good, be good.

Think about the pen. Then you come in the kitchen. Husband says, phantom.

Then you say, I'm not phantom, you're phantom. Then they're like ... When they going to learn about the pen?

So, every time you get angry, your future Buddha will be like, not again. Why they went to Bali? Okay.

If you get upset, there are some people, you know, they always argue with other people. When they are young, the whole day is to argue with other people. When they get older, in the business, they start to fight with other business.

They like to do lawsuit, court suit. So, generally upset, upset klesha. The upset klesha.

You feel upset. In the future, it will cause you many arguments. Some people never argue with other people.

Some people argue every day two, three times. It's the karma of being upset. Okay, then if you keep doing it your whole life, you will be born as an animal, or in the hell.

Of course, we came here from someplace else. Even science cannot make mind. You cannot mix the chemicals together and make a new mind.

The tree comes from the tree seed. The mind comes from the mind seed. First moment inside your mom, one second before that, your mind exists someplace.

Because mind has to make mind. We say in Buddhism, at conception, already you have a very basic mind. One minute before that, you had a different mind, and you were in a different place.

The dice, it has twelve numbers. If you throw twelve times, probably twelve will come one time. Okay, now this life happened.

You were born in this life. Don't think it's the only one. There's a frog.

He lived in a deep well. He was the biggest animal in the well. Then he's king of the well, and he feels pretty important.

Then he has a friend. It's a crow, and the crow will come to the well to drink the water, and they became friends. Then the frog said, you know, I'm king of the whole world.

This whole well, I'm number one. I'm king. Then the crow said, yeah, you are king in the well, but let me show you something.

Then he asked the frog to climb on his back, hold the neck, he told the frog, close your eyes, and he flies. The frog is on his back. Then they reach the beach, then he said, okay, get off my back.

Then he put his face towards the ocean. He said, open your eyes. Then the frog opened his eyes.

Then his mind exploded. This old India story, this life is like a well. If you think only this life exists, you are a little bit crazy.

Time is infinite. Space is infinite. It's not your life is 50 years, 100 years.

You have many, many, many lives. You cannot count. Every time you call your husband fan tong, of course the kids will get worse.

But that's not the big danger. Big danger, maybe you become a snake in your next life. Maybe you become a snake in your next life.

65 seeds per second making the pen. And 65 seeds per second making you. Also.

And one day they will change. There's a big argument in his book Abhidharma. How long is a bardo?

After you die, before you find your new life, how long? And the tradition we say seven days. That spirit life can live for seven days.

Then it will die. It has to die. Either you start your new life, or you can stay a second life in the bardo.

That second bardo only live for seven days. Then we'll die. Maybe become person.

Maybe go back to bardo. So, maximum seven times seven days. So, after the person die, let me know.

Okay, send the email to one of us. Because on the seventh day, we must do prayer. We can help the person to go to a good place.

And again, 49 days. We do special prayer. What's the purpose of that prayer?

During the ritual, the ritual is called jang chok. We do special prayer that dead person can hear it. And those spirit, they can understand all languages also.

Then in the prayer, we ask them many times, please think about all the good things you did. Actually, we just talk like that. Then they think about all the good things they did because they practice coffee meditation in this life.

And it wakes up a good seed. First seed in this life is the most important one. It decides you are animal, you are human.

So that ritual is very important. You just get one chance to decide what you will be. Now, if you had the habit to yell back at your husband, probably you will pick a bad seed.

And then you will be like a dog. So, that's another problem about the klesha. It hurts your future life.

People think, oh, I yelled at my husband. Yesterday. But then I told him, I'm sorry.

And everything's good. No, everything's not good. Now you have one more bad seed.

Maybe it will open at the end of the bottle. And it will make you into a dog. So, yelling at husband it has many invisible dangers.

And important to think about the pain. Okay. We finished Maitreya's list of problems.

And there's a beautiful commentary. Someday, if you want, we can study it. It takes a while to teach it.

There are three ideas at the beginning. Then there's a group of six more ideas. And then there's again three more.

So, someday if we have time, we can study these words of Maitreya. Okay, now, in the Lam Rim, he gives another list. LAS LAS GCIG TU BDAG TU DGE DE NI SEMS PA DANG DE'I PHYED SEMS PA YID KYI LAS YIN NO DE'I PHYED LUS DANG SNGAGS KYI LAS Very famous.

This is the definition of karma. Okay. And there are three kinds of karma.

One is what you think. Nobody can see. Right now, you are making good karma, bad karma.

We cannot see. In your mind. That's called raw karma.

Most powerful. The definition of raw karma is thinking. All the talk in your mind whole day, this is karma.

Okay, all the talking in your mind, you are making karma. Okay, good karma, bad karma, neutral karma. Good karma made this teaching.

Bad karma made it hot or cold for you. Neutral karma made the color of the floor. Do you like the color of the floor?

It's a brown color. Then most of us, they say, you know, I don't care. It doesn't look beautiful to me.

It doesn't look ugly. That's called neutral karma. When you are in the class, Geshe-la talking too long, you feel a little sleepy.

We call neutral karma. It's not good karma. It's not really bad karma.

That neutral karma make the floor color. It makes the third thread on your shoe. Then we don't really care about it.

Okay, but when you get upset, this is automatic bad karma. Always. Even you don't say anything.

Even you don't hit your husband. Just thinking, this guy is so stupid. You already made bad karma.

Okay? So, real jingang jing person, when the husband say, you phantom, they will stop their own mouth. Go to the toilet.

Close the door. Calm down. Then when you become jingang jing master, you walk in the kitchen.

Husband says, you are stupid. Very fast, you think. Oh, this come from me.

Not his fault. I won't get angry at him. Then you stop even the bad feeling.

Even if you don't say anything. You don't say, I'm not phantom, you are phantom. Just stop the bad feeling.

Because that feeling is also karma. The mind karma comes just before the talking karma and the doing karma. Okay?

Let's go slow motion. Honey, I'm home. Can I have a hug?

You are phantom. Okay. You have to be very fast to catch this bad karma.

Okay. Then in the beginning, oh Stanley, Bali retreat was success for me. Why?

When we came home, we are very tired from the airplane. So my husband get angry. Call me phantom.

But I didn't answer. Then Stanley has to say, that's easy. But did you think to answer?

That's the worst karma. Okay, got it? So, low level Jingang jin person.

Low level. High level. Okay.

This is the main karma. This is the main karma. Very difficult to catch.

Catching thought is like catching the wind. Someone's walking down the road in India. There's a one guy meditating.

Then he's like, hey, what are you meditating? I'm a great meditation master. I am meditating about patience.

Then the other guy say, you actually look kind of stupid. He said, what? Okay.

Very difficult to catch the mind. Who can catch their mind when it first get angry? That's a meditation master.

I met some famous meditation master. Me and my teacher. Then they introduce us to him.

Oh, he sit in the snow and meditate for two years. Then my teacher like, anybody can do that. To meditate in the kitchen when your husband call you phantom.

Stop the mind. This is real meditation master.

[Speaker 2]
Really. Seriously.

[Speaker 1]
These people can sit like this for one hour. It's not so difficult. This person who don't get angry at their husband catch their mind in two seconds.

That's a meditation master. Okay?

[Speaker 2]
Understand?

[Speaker 1]
Alright. Second one. When you see a person who usually makes you upset, before they open their mouth, get ready.

Get ready. You should think. Quickly, think in your mind.

This person usually says something stupid. This person usually try to irritate me. So, before they open their mouth, I'm going to get ready for them.

Okay? Get ready. When you meet the people who irritate you, get ready.

Okay? Before they talk. Got it?

Then you can stop the bad karma. Every time, okay, in your mind, everybody has negative seeds. One billion seeds can fit on the tip of a needle.

They are not physical. It's not like your head get bigger as you get older. That's not what happened to me and John Brady.

Okay? The whole life, make million seeds, million seeds. They are not physical, they are potential.

You can put one million on the tip of your finger. So, we all have two bank accounts. Everybody in this room.

You have one billion good seeds in your mind. And you have one billion bad seeds. Now, every time you get upset, those bad seeds become more strong.

Okay? Oh, Geshe-la, bad thing happened today. My husband called me phantom.

I got little bit upset. But later, before bed, I calmed down. Now I don't have anger.

Yeah, but your one million seeds became 1.5 million seeds. Okay? So, anger has many destruction on our mind.

And you cannot see it. And you cannot feel it. Later, it will cause you car accident, cancer.

Okay? So, don't get angry for anything. Okay, private advice to all the ladies.

Look, all husbands are stupid. Don't talk about them. Never tell them you make a bad seed.

Okay? Alright. Okay, now, another problem.

You have one million bad seeds in your mind already. You have some bad seeds from getting angry. I have a lot of bad seeds from You Tiao addiction, phong chik addiction.

Okay, you have. And I have. Okay, now, when you get angry, your addiction seed also gets stronger.

Okay? That anger at your husband, it makes all the other seeds grow stronger. Okay, next problem with the klesha.

In the world, there are some good people. Special good people. I don't know, maybe your mom, maybe your uncle, I don't know.

Usually in your family, there's one or two really good people. My friend's family, they have auntie. She was a very bad alcoholic.

Then she stopped the bad habit. Very brave. She killed that bad habit.

Now she's an unusual peaceful person. The person who was alcoholic, and they stopped. Many times they are most peaceful.

Then in your family, there's one or two people like that. Or in your dharma group. They are watching you.

Whole day. They are good people. They are watching you.

They are praying for you. Oh, I know she has an angry husband. I hope she will be strong.

They are praying for you all day. Then when you get upset at your husband, call your husband stupid. What's their reaction?

So, your husband call you phantom. I'm not phantom, you're phantom. Then those good people, they are like, they feel sad.

So, there are good people around us. They are watching us quietly. They are praying for us.

Then when we get angry, we hurt them. They are like, Buddha said, one day, the husband, he has a razor blade. He is shaving.

He put the razor blade on the sink. That husband and wife, they have a small kid. And the father went to work.

Kid came in the bathroom. Oh, what's this thing? What's this thing?

They play with the razor blade. They are cutting their fingers. A lot of blood.

Then if you think about it, it's such a terrible feeling to watch the kid play with the razor blade. When you get angry, those good people in your family, in your life, they are like, oh, she's playing with the razor blade. She's going to make a thousand bad seeds.

She will spend twenty years with the angry husband. In Tibet, they say, oh, the kid is playing with the razor blade. So, in the jin, it says, don't upset those good people.

Don't play with the razor blade. What's the razor blade? Your anger.

Can you guys get the CSP presentation ready? In five minutes. I want to show you something in five minutes.

Okay, then actually your income will drop. It's very funny. Geshe-la, why my income dropped?

Because I called my husband Fan Tong. Okay, in my life, I made the largest diamond jewelry company in the world. Warren Buffet bought the company in 2009.

People ask me, how you do that? Listen, I don't waste time. What's the biggest waste of time?

Oh, Stanley, Stanley. What? My husband called me Fan Tong.

Many times. But, I'm strong. When he called me Fan Tong, he's a real fan.

I stole him. Okay, then you, during that talking, you are not making money. Okay, understand?

You have to choose. You want to talk about your Fan Tong husband? Or, you want to make the biggest diamond company in the world?

You don't have time to do both. That bad habit, talk about your husband, talk about your husband. Even you don't talk with your friend, you talk in here.

Then you will never be a successful person. Why? You don't have time.

Your mental time also limited. If you talk in your mind, Oh, my husband, my husband, you will never be successful. You will never be super successful.

People ask me, how you make the fastest growing manufacturing company in the history of New York? What's the answer? When somebody call me Fan Tong, I don't, I don't smell the fart again.

I don't waste my time. Okay, understand? Let it go.

Quickly. Think about good things. Think about your business.

Think about success. Think about the nice people you know. Then in this life, you will be successful.

The person who doesn't waste time, think about the bad people, smell the fart many times, that person will be successful. You don't have time to do both. You have to choose.

You can whine in your mind whole day. Oh, my husband, oh, my kids, oh, my mama, blah, blah, blah. Or, you can meditate.

What's a meditate? Successful conversation with your mind. I'll show you real meditation.

Okay? You wake up. Mind.

Oh, my husband caught me premeditated. Oh, my mama, he caught me stupid. Oh, my kids also did that.

No, no, no. Shut up. That's meditation.

Okay? It's not this. Okay?

Talk to your mind. Be tough with your mind. Listen to your mind.

What's meditation? Shut up. Let's think about something good.

Okay? It's a fight with your mind. Me and John Brady, Connie, Earl, Chunzong, Jigme did almost.

We did a three-year silent retreat. Meditate in a small room for three years. No talking.

Okay? Then my friends, when I finished, all my friends came to my ... it's a small room.

They are like this. Oh, Geshe-la. I can feel the peace in this room.

I feel my whole body peaceful. I said, shut up. This is not peaceful room.

There was three-year war in this room. Geshe Michael fight every minute with Geshe Michael's mind. This is not peaceful room.

This is war zone. Okay? That's a real meditation.

Okay? Alright. Okay, we're going to do question and answer for about half an hour.

Before that, I'd like to teach you one more thing from the jing. We've been talking about the problems if you get angry or upset. And there's a very famous ancient verse.

Shantideva. It's about 1,300 years ago. Just after Xuanzang.

,GAL TE LHA DANG LHA MIN NA, ,THAMS CAD DAG LA DRA LANGS KYANG, ,THE DAG GIS KYANG RNAMS MA'I TE, ,MA'I RNAMS THREE CING, ,'JUG MI NI, ,NYON MONGS RTOGS CAN DRA DI NYID, ,GANG DAG PHRAD NA RI RAB KYANG, ,THAL BAR YANG NI MI LUS PA, ,DE DAG SKYE MCHED GCIG LA MDOR, Very famous poetry. Then there's a hell realm. Below the earth, there's a place where people can be born.

And hell realm. Then there's a Christian book. Famous book.

It's called the Inferno. The Hot Hell. Hot Hell.

It's one of the oldest books in the West. And if you read the Abhidharma, the description of hell in the ancient Western books, and the description of hell in the ancient Buddhist books, they're almost exactly the same. I think who wrote each one saw the hell.

So I believe there is a place like that. Then in English, when you get angry, there's a very bad word. I'll teach you some bad English.

It's very strange. People learn the bad words in the language before they learn the good words. Then if we get really angry at somebody in English, we will say, ah, go to hell.

You should go to the hell. It's an old, old expression. Maybe over a thousand years old.

Ah, go to hell. George Smarmy. In Russian.

George Smarmy, right? How I remember the bad word, I don't know. So people can tell you, go to hell, go to hell.

But when you think about it, no matter how much they hate you, they cannot take you to hell. They cannot put you in their car and drive to hell. Maybe they want to take you to hell, but they cannot.

Then this poem, it's like a joke. Only one person can take you to hell. Who's that?

Me. You can tell yourself, go to hell, you can go. Then how to send yourself to the hell?

Get upset. Get angry. This is the best way to make the karma.

So, Shantideva makes a joke. In your life, maybe many people will tell you to go to hell. But only one person can take you there.

And that's you. And that's your anger. So, think about it.

Okay, let's be honest. When the husband or some other person call you phantom, it feels good to call them phantom back. You phantom.

Then I'm like, you phantom. Then I feel, I feel so good. I told them you were phantom.

But actually, you hurt yourself. You send yourself to the hell. So, be careful.

Control your mouth. Control your mind. You can call them phantom.

Maybe it will hurt them for five minutes. But the life in the hell realm is a million years. It's not worth five minutes' satisfaction.

To go to hell for a million years.

[Speaker 2]
It's not worth it.

[Speaker 1]
Better just to shut up. Better to leave the room. Stay quiet.

Leave the room. Okay? All right.

Let's do question and answer. You guys choose. I think we need translation.

Vika.

[Speaker 2]
Okay.

[Speaker 1]
So, I was not able to ask this question in Kyiv, so I'm really happy to be able to ask this question while I'm here. So, people, when they start studying ACI, come to this idea of renunciation. So, people come to this idea, and they lost their joy in the world of things.

They just want to reach enlightenment, and the other things do not give them any satisfaction. Okay, I understand. So, you might have a beautiful family, good wealth, but you don't feel it's good for you.

But this goal seems so big, like it's impossible to reach, and you feel tired of being reborn, you feel this renunciation, but this goal is impossible to achieve. And you are also so far away. So, could you give any suggestion how to find joy in this process of going there, because you're always so joyful.

Okay. And is there any way how it's possible to make sure that this life, it happens, or it's impossible to predict? Okay, good.

So, I'd like to give an answer. But first, I'd like to introduce Anton Kratosyuk. Can you stand up?

Yeah. And his wife is here?

[Speaker 2]
Elisabetta?

[Speaker 1]
No? Okay. He's a teacher in Russia.

Very, very good teacher. He made in Russia a pen video. Almost one million people saw this video.

Thank you. So, in the CSP in Shenzhen, with those good friends and influencers of all of their employees, in October, we studied time management. Okay, how to use your time.

If time has a kong xin, you can make time longer. If you know how, you can plant seeds for more time. So, we studied the kong xin of time management.

And there's one meditation you can do in the morning when you brush your teeth. Okay, you can think. There's a meditation you can do.

Okay, my partner Veronica, she told me, always brush your teeth for two minutes. I don't have time. I'm too busy.

I'm like, finish, you know? Then Scott and Orit gave me trouble. They gave me an electric toothbrush.

If you push the button, it goes for two minutes. You cannot stop it. Actually, my teeth got much better.

Why are we talking about that? When you brush your teeth, two minutes is good. Then do a death meditation.

During the toothbrush, somebody asked Steve Jobs, how did you invent the iPhone? He gave a graduation talk at Stanford University. He said, I invented the iPhone after I got pancreas cancer.

So, he got a very quick cancer, pancreas cancer. He's supposed to die in six months. And he knows it.

Then he really worked fast. Then he made the iPhone. So, he invented the iPhone.

So, when you brush your teeth, we can do death meditation. What is death meditation? Oh, I will die today.

Don't say, maybe I will die today. Say, I will die today. Steve Jobs said, when he was 20 years old, somebody taught him this death meditation.

And every morning, when he brushes his teeth and look in the mirror, he said, today I'm going to die. Then, I should do something valuable with my time. I should do something happy.

And he said, happiest thing for him is to help other people. So, every morning, when you brush your teeth, I will die today. Then, if you teach this meditation in America, people will complain.

Oh, Geshe-la, don't teach people to brush their teeth and think about dying. It's too sad. It's too depressing.

Don't teach people like that. They will be sad every day. Aldo, where's Aldo?

He taught me something. Can you stand up? He's a meditation teacher from Mexico.

He taught me something. He said, Geshe-la, every time you say goodbye to somebody, say it with your heart. Even you are going to the toilet, goodbye Stanley, I'm going to the toilet.

Maybe I won't see you again. Maybe I will die out here. We don't know.

We really don't know. Each time you say goodbye to your friends, oh, you are leaving Bali. They are flying back to Beijing.

You are flying back to Shenzhen. Aldo taught me, say goodbye with your heart. Because you don't know you will see them again.

It happened many times. Somebody died suddenly. Then say goodbye with your heart.

If you say goodbye this way, surprising thing, you don't feel sad. You feel more love. More strong love.

Actually, inside you feel more happy. It means I appreciate you. Even if I die today, even if we don't meet again, I'm glad I know you.

So, you feel like if you practice this renunciation meditation, death meditation, goodbye meditation, it sounds sad. It sounds depressing. But if you try it, when you brush your teeth, you will find out your love increase for other people.

Your love will grow more and more. So, don't be afraid to do those practice. It's not a sad thing.

It will increase your love. Now, renunciation, I shouldn't want anything. It's safer in life if you don't want anything.

I don't want kids. They will die, I will die. I don't want house.

We will lose it someday. I will not get married. Because someday I have to say goodbye.

This is not Buddhism. Okay, that's not Buddhism. That's not the meaning of Buddhism.

You should be success in this life. Have a beautiful house. It's okay.

Have a company. That company will make something and it will make people happy. My father built houses.

He built a hotel in Japan. Then he met my teacher one day and he told my teacher, I'm not such a good father. Then my teacher said, why you say that?

He said, you know, I don't know about religion, Buddhism or Christian, I don't know. I just build houses. Then my teacher said, what?

You build houses? That's religion. That's compassion.

That's real compassion. Sometimes you meet Buddhist people, I have compassion for you. Yeah, thank you, but I need a house.

It's more compassion. To be part of society, make houses, make cars, be a doctor, do something to help other people. This is real compassion.

And have fun. Buddhism definition, have fun. Okay, you're going to die today?

Maybe. Yeah, I think so. Oh, let's spend the whole day sad.

That's not Buddhism. Our life is short. We don't have much time.

Then have fun. Have fun. Stanley told me, Geshe-la, I said, Stanley, what's your ultimate goal?

Geshe-la, Tesla Model S. Maybe Model X. Okay, just kidding.

This is the door, okay, of a Model X. Then we borrowed one. We went to Shenzhen.

We put the door up and down. We play rock and roll. Have fun!

Okay, have fun. Buddha wants you to have fun. Okay, to be unhappy, be depressed, this is not renunciation.

This is not Buddhism. A Buddhist person understands their life is short. Maybe they will die today.

So, they have more love for other people. And they have fun. Okay, and fun is a very, very special good karma.

Be cheerful. Play rock and roll. Okay, enjoy your life.

Play with your children. Okay, have fun. This is a special good karma.

Buddha don't want us to sit depressed all day. Okay, have fun. Serve other people.

You will be successful. You will have a nice car. Nice house.

Nice family. That's fine. No problem.

Alright, thank you.